It’s probably no secret that your upbringing shaped the way you interact with people around you, especially your romantic partner. You may even be able to pinpoint your triggers. But how skilled are you at identifying the specific attachment wound that was triggered, and – more importantly – calming and ultimately reprogramming your nervous system to respond instead of react? That’s the topic of today’s episode. Jenn Pinkerton is a psychotherapist, high-performance coach, certified sex therapist, writer, speaker, and host of the REDHEADREVEAL® Podcast. As the owner of Pinkerton Psychotherapy, she works with individuals and couples to uncover the root causes […]

Like it or not, the way you communicate your sexual needs to your partner can make or break your relationship. Too many missteps, and your partner will feel criticized and insecure. But when done well, sexual communication has proven to significantly improve desire and enhance satisfaction. Today’s episode is all about how to do it in a way that lowers the stakes, fosters connection, and maintains a sense of playfulness and fun. Get a pen and paper because you’ll want to take notes!   Laura is a psychologist & sexologist with over 17 years experience in clinical practice and coaching. She […]

What does it really mean to love the one you’re with? On today’s episode of Love and Libido, I sit down with Dr. Corey Allan to talk about what makes marriages thrive, why intimacy is a learned skill, and how to stop waiting six years before seeking help. If you’re in a long-term relationship, this one’s a must-listen! Learn more about Corey Purchase my new book Anatomy of Desire in hardcover, ebook, or audiobook here: https://bit.ly/4fob5pi If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to follow & subscribe so that you’ll be notified when a new episode is released. If you like what you’re hearing, don’t […]

Have you ever had that experience of waking up and feeling like you no longer recognize your partner or the relationship you’re in? Maybe you look back and realize you’ve been bickering nonstop for the past couple of years. It’s almost a guarantee that couples in long-term relationships will go through periods of disconnection. But what can couples do to get their relationship back on track? That’s the topic of today’s episode.   I’m joined by sex and relationship therapist Stephanie Flood. Not only is she an expert in the field, she’s been married for 37 years and has 4 kids […]

Did you know that the bedroom is often the last place for unresolved issues to show up? That’s right. Imagine you’ve done therapy and are feeling better about yourself. You get into a relationship and start having sex only to discover that sex feels off. Is it bad chemistry, or could it be your old demons rearing their ugly heads again? That just scratches the surface of everything we cover in today’s episode. I’m joined by relationship expert Naketa Rig Thigpen. After escaping a family of violence and exploitation, my guest discovered her inner nerd and learned everything she could […]

Are you one of the many people who finds it hard to quiet the mind enough to focus during sex? Does pleasure feel like elusive because of how detached you are from your body? Then you need to listen to today’s episode. Today I am joined by embodiment expert Mark Walsh. His work on embodiment was a huge inspiration for the material in my book, so it’s an extra honor to sit down with him today. Not only will you finish the episode with practical tools, I promise you’ll be entertained. I can’t help it, I am such a sucker […]

Would most people look at your relationship and assume everything is fine? Maybe you and your partner are high functioning all things considered, but there is a thorn in the side of the relationship that is preventing you from fully thriving in love. Old resentments, relationship betrayals, and unhealed trauma can prevent relationships from reaching their full emotional and erotic potential which is the topic of today’s episode. Today, I’m joined by sex and trauma expert and now psychedelic retreat facilitator, Dr. Holly Richmond. Let’s get to know our guest.  Dr. Holly Richmond is a Somatic Psychotherapist, Licensed Marriage & […]

Do you or your partner struggle to feel free and uninhibited in the bedroom? Shame could very likely be the culprit. Sexual shame is deep and pervasive, even in today’s society. We’ve made some progress as a culture, but we still have a long ways to go. In today’s episode, I sit down with a renowned expert on sexual shame. We talk about when and how sexual shame worked its way into the collective psyche and discuss strategies to overcome it. You don’t want to miss this one! Let’s meet our guest.  Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers is a licensed sex […]

Are you someone who struggles with unwanted sexual fantasies? Are you a survivor of sexual abuse and struggling to regain your sexual power? Or maybe you’re curious about how the field of sex therapy has evolved in the last 40 years. Well, I cover all of that and more in today’s episode of Love and Libido.  I had the absolute pleasure of sitting down with one of my favorite sex therapists, Wendy Maltz, whose career has spanned four decades. No matter how many times I clean out my bookshelf, her books remain front and center as a resource to myself […]

Are you struggling to overcome a sexual difficulty like an elusive orgasm or loss of erection? Or maybe you’re feeling sexually disconnected from your partner and want a strategy to reintegrate sex without it feeling awkward and uncomfortable. Perhaps you’re a cancer survivor and need help reawakening the pleasure pathways in your body. One sexual intervention is tried and true – sensate focus. Which is the topic of today’s episode. About half way through recording, I realized that I opened nearly every sentence with “one thing I love about sensate” and that’s because there is a lot to love! Linda […]

Kicking off Part 2 of my conversation with cyberinfidelity expert, Dr. Peter Kanaris! If you missed Part 1, go back and catch up—we broke down some eye-opening stats on who’s most likely to cheat and why. Today, we’re diving into Dr. Kanaris’ collaborative model for infidelity recovery and rebuilding trust. This is a must-listen for anyone looking to heal after betrayal. Dr. Peter Kanaris is a licensed psychologist and an AASECT Certified Diplomat of Sex Therapy. He is a Distinguished Fellow of the New York State Psychological Association. He has been the featured guest on many live interviews and call-in […]

Infidelity ain’t what it used to be. Like it or not, the internet has opened a whole new frontier ripe for cheating. Whether you’ve faced this in your own relationship or not, you need to listen to today’s episode with cyberinfidelity expert, Dr. Peter Kanaris. Our conversation was so good that I had to break it up into two episodes. In part 1, we will discuss statistics around infidelity and cyperinfidelity, so you’ll know who is most likely to cheat and why. And be sure to come back for Part 1 when we dive into infidelity recovery and how to […]

What can vanilla people learn from kinky people? It turns out, they can learn a lot! Kinky people have figured out how to negotiate, explore, and take care of each other in really wonderful ways, skills that apply not just to them, but to all people. Today we are going to start by busting some myths and misconceptions about kink and kinky people, and then my wonderful guest is going to outline 5 clear lessons that vanilla people can take home.  But first, let’s get to know our guest.  Claire Perelman is a Queer, Jewish Sex Therapist and Educator living […]

Sexual desire remains one of the most complex yet common issues that sex therapists treat. How do you maintain a passion in a long-term relationship? Is it possible to have hot monogamy despite the monotony of day-to-day life? What does pleasure have to do with desire? What can heterosexual couples learn from lesbians about desire and pleasure? Let’s just say that we have a lot to discuss. Today I’m joined by Dr. Jenn Kennedy, a clinical sexologist and licensed marriage and family therapist based in Santa Barbara. In 2023, Dr. Jenn launched The Pleasure Project, which is dedicated to helping […]

The dreaded relationship argument. It’s inevitable. You feel tension building only to explode on your partner, saying things you don’t mean and damaging the relationship as a result. But what exactly happens to the body during an argument and what can you do to hack the nervous system so that you and your partner can learn to fight fair? That’s the topic of today’s episode. I am joined by Deborah Fox a clinical social worker with over thirty-five years of experience in private practice in Washington, DC. She is a Certified Imago Relationship Therapist and a Certified Sex therapist, providing […]

Today, I had the absolute pleasure of sitting down with celebrity television host, Samantha Harris. Samantha was at the top of her game hosting Dancing with the Stars when she experienced a health crisis that stopped her dead in her tracks. Her story was one of the most beautiful I have heard on how intimacy can deepen, and how sex can improve after navigating a crisis effectively as a couple. Every couple can learn from how she and her wonderful husband worked together to overcome the painful aftermath of her recovery. She candidly shares tips on how they reconnected not […]

Ever catch yourself wondering if those butterflies in your stomach are signs of excitement or warning signals? Today, we’re discovering how to spot these signs and what your gut feelings really mean. Joining me is Lauren Zoeller, an expert in turning personal challenges into stepping stones for better relationships. She’s not just a podcast host and speaker; she’s helped thousands through her unique approach to emotional and generational healing. In this episode, we dive into how our bodies react in relationships and what these reactions tell us. It’s like having a conversation about what goes on under the surface when […]

Sexual scripts comprise your attitudes, values, beliefs, feelings, and behaviors about sex. They are formed from a very young age and are affected by your upbringing, culture, religion, experiences, and expectations about gender. Holding too rigid of a sexual script inhibits pleasure and satisfaction, especially as you age. Given the fact that we are living longer, we need to talk about how to adapt our scripts to our lives as they evolve. Early in 2021, Jim Benton decided on a career change. After many years in the Special Events industry, and the ravages of Covid-19, Jim took a deep dive […]

Fat is not a dirty word. It’s not a bad word. And it shouldn’t have negative connotations. But unfortunately, it still does. We live in a society that celebrates thin bodies and judges fat ones. But the fact is, everyone, regardless of their body type, is entitled to experience love, connection, and great sex. On this episode, I’m joined by an expert on fat sexuality to challenge myths, breakdown stereotypes, and offer hope to people struggling to accept their big body. Note to smaller people listening, you can learn a thing or two from this episode. Tamara Pincus is a licensed clinical social worker and AASECT certified sex therapist who runs The Pincus Center which offers individual and relationship therapy, coaching and sex education. She specializes in working with fat, kinky, polyamorous and LGBTQ clients. Tamara has been working in the field of sex therapy since 2011 and since then has built a practice with a team of 10. Tamara is passionate about racial justice, fat justice and LGBTQ rights. She also co-authored a book titled “It’s Called Polyamory: Coming Out About Your Non-Monogamous Relationships” with Rebecca Hiles. If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to follow & subscribe so that you’ll be notified when a new episode is released. If you like what you’re hearing, don’t forget to leave me a five-star review. Your positive feedback helps me grow so that we can continue having these engaging, informative, and fun conversations. If you’re ever interested in learning more, you can find me on Instagram, TikTok, or Threads. And don’t forget to check pre-order my book, Anatomy of Desire: Five Secrets to Create Connection and Cultivate Passion. Visit https://emilyjamea.com/anatomy-of-desire/ to get your copy.  

Are you someone whose past sexual trauma is preventing you from enjoying sex at your full capacity? Do you even know what your full capacity is or have you like so many people accepted mediocre sex as your norm? Today, we’re going to talk about how reclaiming, reconnecting, and rediscovering vital parts of yourself can propel you out of trauma and into sexual pleasure. Kim Coffin is a certified Trauma Informed, Somatic (body-based) Empowerment & Sexuality Coach, Bestselling Author & Teacher, a graduate of Layla Martin’s Institute of Integrated Tantric Sexuality, and founder of Get Your Sexy Back. She specializes in Sexuality, Tantric Sex and Relationship Transformation giving you the tools to unleash your sexual confidence and unlock profound new levels of self-love, pleasure, empowerment, and intimacy with yourself – and in your relationships! By creating deep trust and safety in your body and mind, Kim will show you how to RECONNECT to your body, ACTIVATE your turn-on, HEAL heartbreak & shame, and RECLAIM your true SEXY self so that you can fully step into your UNAPOLOGETIC POWER! A gift for the love & libido listeners: Free – 8 Tools to Activate Your Turn-On + Practice + Free Month to my Sacred Pleasure Membership – https://view.flodesk.com/pages/63d4adadecc6781900626c2d You can get more from Kim here: Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=569755109 Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/get_your_sexy_back_coach/ Get Your Sexy Back Podcast – https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/get-your-sexy-back/id1489475566 Thank you to BetterHelp, an online therapy platform that has already helped millions, for sponsoring the show. Get 10% off your first month of therapy by visiting www.betterhelp.com/dremily or by using code DREMILY at check out. If you like what you hear, don’t forget to leave me a five-star review. Your positive feedback helps me grow so that we can continue having these engaging, informative, and fun conversations. If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to follow & subscribe so that you’ll be notified when a new episode is released. If you have a question or a story you would like to share, you can submit it at www.loveandlibido.com. You can either email in your story or you can record your submission, whatever is easier for you. We always give you the option to have your voice professionally disguised with our fancy editing software, so no worries if you would like to remain anonymous. Or if you’re loud and proud, and you want to tell us who are as you share your question, that is fine too. We are also collecting story submissions as well. You can follow me across all the social media channels @dremilyjamea. That’s usually the best place to see what information we are looking for as it relates to topics we are discussing on the show. And don’t forget to check out my online workshop, Anatomy of Desire: 5 Secrets to Lasting Intimacy. Visit www.emilyjamea.com/workshop for your free sample. Subscribers can use code HALFOFF for 50% off.