We all like habits! We are more comfortable in predictive environments - and our brains seek this certainty. We are actually "wired" this way, which is why it is sometimes so hard to create and sustain new habits. It is, however, possible to pull off if you know the science behind teh idea nd how to use it in your favor.
Have you ever heard this phrase? Or maybe even used it... once or twice? So often I hear this phrase from people that recognize a gap between where they are and where they want to be in a particular area. They know they want to make a change but typically haven't been able to make it so. When I question what's holding them back their answer invariably starts, "Well, I just need to...". And THAT is a bunch of bullshit! Listen in as I explain why you MUST get this language out of your vernacular if you want to make change on command.
Yeah I know, you're "goal oriented". And maybe you are! But until you have a specific process to create CLARITY & CERTAINTY about what you want, why you want it, what you get by getting what you want, and how you're going to get it all you have are "hopes and prayers". Fine for politicians, but worthless for a committed, action taking professional bent on being more every day! Listen in on the basic, the "101" level, of setting real goals and creating the power to hit them!
Simply put, you don't know what you don't know. And the sooner you can get around your Ego and admit you don't "know it all" the sooner you can begin to expand the possibilities in your life. Listen in as I explain how you can get started in shifting to gain real confidence and shed the weakness of an Ego driven lifestyle.
If you are living a life without any fear you are not "fearless", you're actually paralyzed by fear and living too safely! Until you recognize fear and discomfort as a signal for you to act you are allowing fear to steer you in the wrong direction!
Yeah, I know. There's no chance you're afraid of your wife, right? Well I don't mean in terms of physically afraid ( I hope) I mean in terms of having real conversations and your fear of the consequences. If you've said, "I don't even want to hear it", "Let's not get started down that road" or "Every time we talk you ______ " then YOU ARE AFRAID OF YOUR WIFE! Listen in as I explain how this happens and what you can do about it.
It's that simple - WORDS MATTER! The words you read, the words you hear, you words you think AND the words you say! Moreover, the more we communicate electronically rather than face to face our words become even more important and the physical ques aren't available. Listen in as I explain why they are so important to you.
Perfection is unattainable, and working toward such a goal is deflating and useless. I explain this concept, and the difference between "goals" and "targets" in this episode. Enjoy!
Is it a good thing or a bad thing? Is it the right thing or the wrong thing? Is it the truth or a lie? All of these ideas or merely opinions of the situations and circumstances in your life. And none of them really matters! What really matters is one question you should always ask, "Does it serve my mission?".
Have you eve wanted to be in the mind of a UFC fighter? You might be surprised what you'd learn! In this episode I spend a few minutes with Father, Husband, coach and former UFC fighter Clifford Starks. Inside we talk about what it takes to win in the ring and why he transitioned out of that world.
Anger CAN be your ally rather than your enemy. In this first episode of this series I explain the "primary appraisal" and how you allow "triggers" to keep you angry. Stay tuned for the next pieces of this anger puzzle
Is your life a series of decisions based on necessity and need or are the events of your life driven by desire and design. It's too late when you NEED a particular skill or mindset, you must hone those BEFORE external events force your hand if you want to be the creator and source in your life.
These famous words of Winston Churchill are poignant today. Not because you should be using the Covid-19 crisis to manipulate others, but because you have the opportunity to use this crisis for YOU to have more, do more and be more.
As an adult you've embodied lots of different versions of you. As you've aged you've grown and changed through the years. Some of those may have come be design - others driven by external forces. In today's episode I talk about the necessity of allowing a new version of you to emerge in order to expand the possibilities in your life. In other words, STOP BEING YOU - or at least the current version of you - long enough to allow a new possibility.
Here's some hard truth for ya. YOU'RE A LIAR - AND ME TOO! That's just the truth. We all are, and the lies we tell create disconnection from our integrity and true selves. It's the Ego that drives us to lie, and a life built with Ego as the foundation can never manifest long lasting strength and honor. When you can't be "found out", you can't be exposed because you tell yourself and others the truth you become stronger not weaker. In this podcast you'll learn the 4 Phases of breaking this pattern (Awareness, Acceptance, Acceleration, Ascension) and one big idea on how to start changing it in your life!
Andy Chapman is an educator, Father, Husband and athletic enthusiast - and has a great story. He is the Assistant Principle of Glasgow Middle School in Baton Rouge, LA and founder of "Strong Men", a podcast and curriculum for his young male students. His focus in on providing these young men a platform for successful men to interact with them and share their stories and secrets for success. Listen in as we discuss his life's work and how it mimics the paradigms found in Living with Strength and Honor.
Frame control, how you guide the internal conversation you have around a particular issue/problem, is a critical first step in getting what you want. Of course, changing how you think about a thing won't actually change your results, but it WILL create a whole new set of possibilities INCLUDING getting what you want and more. How you "see" a thing, the words you use to talk about it and the stories you tell yourself and other's, guides the "first creation/mental creation", which in turn leads to predictable feelings and eventually your outcome.
I hear this frequently and it triggers the hell out of me. You know why? Because I used to say it all the time. It's not true of course, this is just your Ego talking. Yes the Ego, the curse of consciousnesses. This phrase is just a way of your Ego explaining the truth that you are actually conveying which is, "I'm feel weak and vulnerable, and I beat myself up all the fucking time, so please don't tell me truth because my Ego can't handle it". Triggered a bit? Good, listen in!
You WILL occasionally drift away from your path! It's not a matter of IF but only a matter of when! Typically most of you will go through some level of shame, guilt and self-loathing for a period of time before determining it's time to "try again" but that's not necessary! Once you accept that it's not always going to be perfect and that you will "drift" off center then you can play the role of "observer" in your life, notice you're drifting, and deploy a plan to get back on track in short order.
We have been conditioned to seek comfort and ease. We have been taught to avoid difficulty, collision and tough challenge. For some this “survival mentality” is okay – you’ve given in to the idea that you like it the way it is and want it this way until you die. For the rest of you – that’s not good enough. You want to be more, you want to do more, and you want more. And I’m in your corner! Just know this… it’s gonna be hard.