Host Heather Solomon explores why our brains fixate on mistakes—rooted in negativity bias, the amygdala, and neuroplasticity—and how social media and comparison culture deepen that pattern. She shares personal stories (like helping a man in a wheelchair) to show how the habit of dismissing good deeds steals joy and identity. Heather offers practical steps to change the soundtrack: catch the inner critic, savor positive moments (about 20 seconds), reframe gratitude to notice small wins, celebrate progress, and practice believing compliments. The episode encourages seeing the good without an asterisk so you can make space for joy, connection, and peace.   Connect with me, I'd love any suggestions for future episodes. Email: listenupyoungerself@gmail.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/heather.solomon.14 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heatherslmn/

Heather Solomon returns to Listen Up, Younger Self after a month-long break to share an honest, heartfelt episode about taking permission to pause. She opens up about family caregiving, the guilt of stepping back, the science behind needing recovery, and how true presence protects relationships and creativity. This episode blends personal stories, practical strategies for setting boundaries and doing "do-nothing" time, and a gentle reminder that pausing is an act of strength—not failure.   Connect with me, I'd love any suggestions for future episodes. Email: listenupyoungerself@gmail.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/heather.solomon.14 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heatherslmn/

Saying goodbye at college drop-off feels like nothing else- you’re proud, you’re gutted, and you’re questioning who you are now. I’ve been there (twice), and in this episode I’m sharing the real, messy truth about this season. You’ll hear the science of why it hurts so much, how to handle the naysayers, and practical ways to cope. Most importantly, you’ll be reminded: this pain is proof of love, and while your role shifts, your purpose doesn’t disappear. It’s time to grieve, reframe, and then step boldly into your next chapter. Connect with me, I'd love any suggestions for future episodes. Email: listenupyoungerself@gmail.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/heather.solomon.14 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heatherslmn/

Welcome to another  episode of "Listen Up Younger Self" with your host, Heather Solomon.  Ever wake up in a funk and think, “It’s just me today”? Spoiler: it’s not just you. Your mood is like campfire smoke - it drifts, and everyone around you breathes it in. In this episode, I’m sharing how unchecked moods quietly become your brand in your marriage, your parenting, and even at work. We’ll talk science, self-awareness, and my 3-Shift Method to turn your day around before it writes the wrong story in your family’s highlight reel. This one’s a gut-check you’ll want to hear.   Connect with me, I'd love any suggestions for future episodes. Email: listenupyoungerself@gmail.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/heather.solomon.14 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heatherslmn/

Hey friends - today we’re diving into something that might rattle you a little: Dr. John Gottman’s research shows that 69% of the issues in a marriage are never fully resolved. Ever. So what do you do when the same fights keep showing up on repeat? Is it normal? Is it toxic? Is it you? In this podcast mini, I’m breaking down what the 69% actually means, how to spot the difference between annoying quirks and soul-crushing patterns, and what to do when your partner says they'll change… but never does. You’ll walk away with gut-check questions, clarity, and maybe a permission slip or two. It’s real. It’s deep. And it’s time to talk to my younger self.   Connect with me, I'd love any suggestions for future episodes. Email: listenupyoungerself@gmail.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/heather.solomon.14 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heatherslmn/

Welcome to another heartfelt episode of "Listen Up Younger Self" with your host, Heather Solomon. Let’s talk about what real support looks like when someone you love is going through hell. In this short but powerful mini, I’m sharing a simple phrase I heard from a friend that hit me like truth lightning: Shut up, show up, and follow up. Whether someone’s grieving, divorcing, or in crisis—this is the episode that’ll make you rethink how you show up. We’re skipping the performative stuff and getting honest about presence over pep talks, quiet comfort over quick fixes, and why Brené Brown says silence can shut down connection. Send this one to the friend who needs it—or maybe just listen with your own heart wide open.   Connect with me, I'd love any suggestions for future episodes. Email: listenupyoungerself@gmail.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/heather.solomon.14 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heatherslmn/

Ever woken up in a sweat because your husband ninja-changed the thermostat? Or caught him bingeing your show while you slept like it was no big deal? SAME. In this short and spicy episode, I’m diving into the micro-annoyances that aren’t grounds for divorce… but definitely grounds for a dramatic sigh and maybe a blanket tug-of-war. We’re talking snack theft, dishwasher sabotage, one-sip-left offenses, and the emotional support sandwich he stole. It’s petty, it’s real, it’s marriage. Because the truth is, love isn’t just in the big moments—it’s in the daily battles over coffee cups and covers. Laugh with me (or send it to your partner as a gentle warning). Because if you can laugh about it? You’re doing just fine.   Connect with me, I'd love any suggestions for future episodes. Email: listenupyoungerself@gmail.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/heather.solomon.14 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heatherslmn/

In this brief yet impactful mini episode, Heather Solomon shares a personal story that leads to a profound discussion on marriage and relationships. Inspired by an unexpected conversation at a concert, she delves into common, yet often unspoken, challenges couples face as they navigate through life's demands and transitions. With her characteristic blend of humor and wisdom, Heather addresses the fears of becoming an empty nester, the quiet drift that can occur in a marriage, and the importance of prioritizing your partner amidst the chaos of everyday life. Listeners are encouraged to take proactive steps towards reconnecting and nurturing their relationships, even in the busiest of times. Join Heather in this heartfelt dialogue as she shares insights on choosing love over convenience and making the little moments count in a big way. This is a must-listen for anyone looking to strengthen their marital bonds and embrace the journey of love with intention and care.   Connect with me, I'd love any suggestions for future episodes. Email: listenupyoungerself@gmail.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/heather.solomon.14 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heatherslmn/

Ever caught yourself stewing in silence, waiting for someone to read your mind? Yeah… same. In this episode of Listen Up, Younger Self, we’re digging into assumptions—those sneaky little stories we make up in our heads that quietly wreck our relationships. I’m talking about the unspoken expectations, the eye-rolls we don’t explain, and the “you should’ve known” moments that build walls instead of connection. I’ll share where these habits come from, why our brains default to assumption mode, and how to stop turning quiet moments into emotional booby traps. You’ll get real talk, a little neuroscience, and a few personal stories (because yep, I’ve done it too). Plus, I’ll give you some simple tools to ditch the drama, speak up with love, and create deeper connections—with your partner, your kids, your friends… and yourself. This one’s for the strong ones who’ve stayed silent too long. Let’s change that!   Connect with me, I'd love any suggestions for future episodes. Email: listenupyoungerself@gmail.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/heather.solomon.14 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heatherslmn/

In this transformative episode, host Heather Solomon opens up about her past addiction to negativity and offers eye-opening insights into how it affects various aspects of life, from marriage to parenting. Heather shares her personal journey of recognizing and overcoming the subtle yet pervasive negativity that was once a part of her identity. Through candid discussions, she reveals how negativity acts as a barrier to intimacy, creativity, and personal growth, pushing her to re-evaluate her daily choices. Delving into the science behind negativity bias and the profound impact it has on relationships, Heather discusses how she shifted her mindset to foster a more positive environment for herself and her family. Packed with relatable anecdotes and practical exercises, this episode provides listeners with actionable tools to detox from negativity. Tune in for a candid and enlightening conversation as Heather empowers you to choose joy over drama, creating a healthier legacy for yourself and future generations.   Connect with me, I'd love any suggestions for future episodes. Email: listenupyoungerself@gmail.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/heather.solomon.14 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heatherslmn/

In this heartfelt episode, Heather Solomon explores the beauty of life's chaos and the empowering journey of growth it brings. Join her as she reflects on the fulfilling moments with her adult children, the challenges faced along the way, and the importance of embracing the so-called 'messy middleground' of life. Discover valuable insights on choosing self-awareness, understanding the significance of modeling behavior to raise empowered children, and finding strength in imperfect progress. From laughter-filled weekends to the transformative power of letting go of perfection, this episode is an uplifting reminder that true empowerment begins within and echoes throughout every aspect of our lives. Connect with me, I'd love any suggestions for future episodes. Email: listenupyoungerself@gmail.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/heather.solomon.14 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heatherslmn/

In this eye-opening episode of "Listen Up, Younger Self," Heather Solomon dives deep into the detrimental habit of needing to be right and how it impacts relationships, especially in marriage and parenting. Explore why we often feel this urge, how it harms our connections, and the practical steps we can take to choose connection over control. With real-life examples and practical wisdom, discover how embracing happiness over self-righteousness can transform your relationships and life. Don't miss this opportunity to learn how to nurture your bonds with a bit of sass, humor, and heartfelt wisdom.   Connect with me, I'd love any suggestions for future episodes. Email: listenupyoungerself@gmail.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/heather.solomon.14 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heatherslmn/

In this episode of "Listen Up, Younger Self," Heather Solomon breaks down the concept of the emotional bank account in relationships. She explains how simple daily actions can either deposit or withdraw from this account, affecting the health and longevity of your marriage. Discover how to recognize the signs of being in the red and learn the steps to rebuild emotional trust with your partner. Heather also emphasizes the importance of modeling a healthy emotional relationship for your children, as they learn from your interactions. You will explore practical tips and challenges to help repair and strengthen your marriage, moving away from tension and towards genuine connection. Listen in for actionable advice that prioritizes emotional safety, consistent presence, and honest communication in your relationships. Connect with me, I'd love any suggestions for future episodes. Email: listenupyoungerself@gmail.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/heather.solomon.14 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heatherslmn/

In this engaging episode of 'Listen Up Younger Self,' host Heather Solomon delves into the complexities of modern marriage dynamics, exploring how relationships often tread the thin line between partnership and parental roles. She offers insightful commentary on the importance of recognizing and shifting from a parent-child dynamic to one of mutual respect and romance. With warmth and humor, Heather challenges listeners to examine the ingrained habits that lead to micromanagement within relationships, emphasizing the significance of trust and communication in cultivating a healthy partnership. She invites audiences to reflect on their roles and encourages taking active steps towards fostering genuine connection and intimacy. Whether you're feeling like a co-manager in your own marriage or seeking to rekindle the romance and teamwork with your partner, this episode provides valuable wisdom and practical advice to help you navigate and transform your relationship dynamics.   Connect with me, I'd love any suggestions for future episodes. Email: listenupyoungerself@gmail.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/heather.solomon.14 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heatherslmn/

In this revealing episode of "Listen Up, Younger Self," Heather Solomon courageously addresses the often-avoided topic of intimacy and sex in marriage. Are you familiar with the evolution from passionate kisses to high-fives in a parking lot? Discover why physical connection fades and what underlying factors contribute to emotional drift, a common yet unspoken dilemma in relationships. Join Heather as she explores the science and emotions behind intimacy, emphasizing the importance of reconnecting without blame. In a candid dialogue, expect insight into how our actions and mindsets silently contribute to disconnection. Learn practical steps to rebuild your bond, encouraging playful engagement and genuine communication rather than resorting to household tension or passive aggressive acts. Highlighting the significance of modeling healthy relationships for children, Heather encourages a shift towards more intimate parenting by focusing on warmth and closeness. She also explores how both partners can actively participate in rekindling the flame through small, intentional actions that nurture love and connection. With relatable anecdotes and a touch of humor, this episode is a heartfelt call to action for couples striving to overcome intimacy challenges and reignite their relationships. Join Heather in acknowledging your fears, addressing unintentional habits, and embarking on a journey towards a more fulfilled partnership.   Connect with me, I'd love any suggestions for future episodes. Email: listenupyoungerself@gmail.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/heather.solomon.14 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heatherslmn/

Welcome back to another enlightening episode of Listen Up, Younger Self with your host, Heather Solomon. Join us as we dive into the all-too-familiar realm of losing our cool in the heat of the moment, only to spend hours dwelling on what could have been done differently. In this episode, Heather candidly shares personal stories and struggles while offering insights on how to take control of our reactions and master the art of the pause. Explore what happens when our emotions run wild and learn practical strategies to regain control, and enhance the quality of your relationships. Whether it’s a partner's irritating habits, a child's tantrum, or someone’s passive-aggressive remarks, the power lies in how we choose to respond. Discover how understanding and managing the brain's amygdala and its hijacks can help you build a legacy of emotional resilience and connectedness with your loved ones. If you’re ready for a mix of laughter, real talk, and invaluable wisdom that promises a positive change in handling life's inevitable triggers, tune in and transform the way you engage with your world. Don’t miss out on this episode that encourages you to breathe, choose happiness, and foster healthier, more fulfilling relationships. You won't want to miss listening to Heather's poignant message and actionable advice!   Connect with me, I'd love any suggestions for future episodes. Email: listenupyoungerself@gmail.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/heather.solomon.14 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heatherslmn/

In this episode of "Listen Up, Younger Self," host Heather Solomon welcomes one of America's top midlife dating coaches, Jonathan Aslay, who shares his profound insights into the dynamics of modern relationships. With over 200,000 YouTube subscribers, Jonathan offers a no-nonsense perspective on emotional maturity, casual relationships, and the evolving landscape of dating. Heather and Jonathan delve into the significant changes in relationships over the past decades, emphasizing the impact of women's empowerment and technological advancements. They candidly discuss the obstacles faced by both men and women in the dating world, including the importance of knowing oneself, establishing trust, and the necessity of maintaining clear values and compatibility. Throughout the episode, Jonathan advocates for a deeper understanding of personal values and emotional maturity in building successful partnerships. Listeners will find practical advice, humorous anecdotes, and a refreshingly honest take on navigating the intricacies of love and commitment in today's world. Meet Jonathon Aslay : Jonathon Aslay's Website His youtube:  https://www.youtube.com/@JonathonAslay His book: https://a.co/d/f2RLTKo   Connect with me, I'd love any suggestions for future episodes. Email: listenupyoungerself@gmail.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/heather.solomon.14 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heatherslmn/

In this heartfelt episode of Listen Up, Younger Self, host Heather Solomon opens up as the first guest on a new marriage podcast. Heather dives into candid stories and valuable lessons learned from her 30-year journey in marriage and parenting. She discusses the common pitfalls that can slowly erode a connection between partners and shares practical tips on how to overcome them without resorting to dramatic fixes. Listeners are taken through Heather's personal experiences navigating marriage, parenting, and the struggles of balancing career and personal life. She emphasizes the importance of rising above self-righteousness and choosing happiness and connection in relationships. Heather's advice extends beyond marriage to offer insights into improving all personal relationships, with a call to self-examine and take accountability for one’s own actions. Heather and the hosts explore the dynamics of communication and vulnerability, addressing how to recognize and correct unhelpful thought patterns and assumptions. Whether you're a married individual or someone looking to improve your relationships, this episode promises to resonate, providing both laughs and wisdom for a happier, more connected future.   Connect with me, I'd love any suggestions for future episodes. Email: listenupyoungerself@gmail.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/heather.solomon.14 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heatherslmn/      

In this episode of Listen Up, Younger Self, host Heather Solomon delves into the dynamics of marriage communication, exploring how seemingly insignificant words can damage the foundation of a relationship. Heather identifies ten phrases that can sabotage a marriage, offering insights into why these words harm and how they can be avoided. With a blend of humor and wisdom, she shares strategies for transforming conflict into opportunities for growth and deeper connection. This episode is not just an exploration of marital strife; it's a guide to building a culture of emotional safety, accountability, and love that thrives beyond moments of anger. Heather discusses the impact of our words on our children, emphasizing the responsibility we have in modeling healthy relationships. Whether you're seeking to improve your marriage, understand the subtleties of marital communication, or learn how to turn arguments into vehicles for personal growth, this episode offers valuable insights and practical advice to navigate the complexities of love and relationships. Tune in and start rewriting your emotional legacy today.   ARE YOU REVVED UP OR NEUTRAL QUIZ: https://heathersolomon.myflodesk.com/relationshipquiz   Connect with me, I'd love any suggestions for future episodes. Email: listenupyoungerself@gmail.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/heather.solomon.14 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heatherslmn/      

Join Heather Solomon in this transformative episode of Listen Up, Younger Self, as she expertly navigates the treacherous waters of self-talk. Reflecting on her own experiences with body image and self-criticism, Heather discusses the deeply ingrained habits we develop, often leading to toxic self-perception and its ripple effects on our relationships, parenting, and self-worth. Discover why we default to negative self-talk, how it impacts our physical and mental health, and most importantly, learn effective strategies to silence that inner critic with compassion and humor. Embrace kinder self-talk and witness the positive shifts it brings to every facet of life, from marriage to personal growth. ARE YOU REVVED UP OR NEUTRAL QUIZ: https://heathersolomon.myflodesk.com/relationshipquiz   Connect with me, I'd love any suggestions for future episodes. Email: listenupyoungerself@gmail.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/heather.solomon.14 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heatherslmn/