In Episode 337 of the Legally Clueless podcast, we continue with Part 2 of Karima’s powerful story. In Part 1, she took us through her childhood growing up in the Akorino church, obedience as an expectation, ridicule in school, and her quiet acts of resistance. Now in Part 2, Karima shares her adulthood: her marriage, her decision to walk away, and why in 2025 she removed her turban, a bold step into living life on her own terms.

In this episode:

• Why she walked away from her marriage
• Her warning about the reasons we enter marriage
• The decision to remove her turban after years of wearing it
• How her identity shifted outside the Akorino church
• The peace and self-ownership she’s found since

This week, we’re inviting you to a powerful LCA Wellness Talk with Counselling Psychologist Faith Guchu. Family relationships shift as we grow and sometimes, they get more complicated. In this virtual session, we’ll unpack:

💛 Setting boundaries with family without guilt
💛 Healing when apologies never come
💛 Avoiding burnout while caring for others
💛 Breaking free from harmful childhood patterns

🗓 Saturday 30th August | 10AM – 12 NOON | Online
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If family dynamics have been weighing you down, this is your invitation to choose peace and clarity.

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This week on For Mannerless Women, Adelle is joined by certified fitness & nutrition coach Michelle Adagala to unpack the myths, mistakes, and truths about women’s health, fat loss, and muscle building. Michelle breaks down why the scale isn’t your biggest marker of success, the role of muscle in long-term health, and why strength training is essential for every woman, at every age. In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why muscle is your best ally for fat loss, hormone balance & healthy aging
• The truth about calorie deficits, plateaus & metabolic adaptation
• What your plate really needs to look like (yes, you can still eat chapati & pilau!)
• How to start strength training at home without expensive gym memberships
• Common myths that hold women back from sustainable results

This isn’t about shrinking yourself. It’s about fuelling a stronger, healthier, freer version of you.

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In this week’s episode of The Midweek Tease, Adelle unpacks a quiet fear so many of us carry: the fear of being seen trying. She explores how cultural conditioning, perfectionism, and comparison keep us hiding our first attempts. And she shares practical steps and resources to help you overcome this fear, so you can live a fuller, braver life. You’ll learn:

✨ Why the fear of being seen runs so deep
🌱 How it limits your opportunities, growth, and joy
💡 Five tips to start moving past the fear today
📚 Resources that normalize imperfection

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In this episode, we begin Part 1 of a gripping, bold, and deeply personal story from Karima, who was born into the Akorino faith, wrapped in a turban from infancy, and told her life must be governed by obedience. But what happens when obedience comes at the cost of selfhood? Karima shares the emotional, spiritual, and social weight of growing up Akorino: the mocking stares, the silence she was forced to swallow, and the small, brave acts of resistance she carried in her pocket.

In this episode you'll learn:

• What it means to have your identity chosen for you from birth
• The shame, isolation, and bullying she faced at school
• How fear of hurting her mother shaped her decisions
• The first time a boy finally spoke to her and why it mattered
• Rebellion wrapped in denim: the power of wearing jeans as an Akorino girl
• Why she kept performing even when the church said it was sinful

Connect with Karima here: https://www.instagram.com/lylowkarima/
This is Part 1 of a 2-part story.
Next week, we dive into the cost of resistance, spiritual unlearning, and Karima’s reckoning with faith, freedom, and womanhood.

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This week on For Mannerless Women, Adelle is joined by body talk practitioner Janet in a deeply revealing conversation about how our bodies store unprocessed emotions, trauma, and grief, and how that silence can manifest into chronic illness. Janet shares powerful truths about the innate intelligence of the body and how we’ve been socialized to disconnect from it.

This episode isn’t just about a therapy session, it’s a roadmap to reclaiming your health, your softness, and your self-awareness. You’ll learn:

• What your body is really trying to say through symptoms
• How women’s overgiving often leads to depletion and disease
• The physical cost of silence, grief, and not feeling safe to express emotions
• The connection between emotion and digestion, menstruation, and immunity
• How body talk therapy helped Adelle unlock the emotional blocks tied to her voice, creativity, and healing

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In this episode, Adelle Onyango unpacks what real community looks and feels like, far from the loud, performative, and inherited ideas we’ve been socialized into. She speaks candidly about the power of chosen family, the quiet loneliness of being surrounded but unseen, and the importance of intentionally building a nourishing support system. You'll learn:

What makes authentic community so hard to build
Four signs you're in the wrong community
Five tips to create a community that truly supports who you're becoming
Why it's okay to outgrow people and start fresh
How two people and a group chat can be enough

This is your gentle reminder that community is not about numbers, it’s about nourishment, safety, and being deeply seen.

Tap play. Then ask yourself: Who’s in your corner?

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In this episode, you’ll hear a story that holds deep loss, raw honesty, unexpected pivots, and the powerful role community plays in our healing. Grace Wanjiku, shares her incredible journey, from sacrificing her education as a firstborn, to navigating grief after losing her brother, to reaching a breaking point with depression that almost cost her life. Through it all, Grace’s story reminds us that healing isn’t linear and sometimes, it’s the very people we think we’re meant to save who end up saving us.

In this episode, Grace unpacks:

• Being the firstborn and carrying unspoken expectations
• Losing her brother and spiraling into a faith crisis
• Attempting suicide and finding help in the nick of time
• The stigma around mental health and resisting hospitalization
• Discovering purpose again as an MC in a male-dominated space
• How community, therapy, and spiritual honesty carried her through

This story will stay with you. It’s a reminder that even in our darkest seasons, hope and healing can still find us.

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In this deeply affirming episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango sits with board-certified psychiatrist Dr. Vundi, known as The Women’s Psychiatrist, to unpack how our hormonal phases shape our mental health.

Together, they dismantle the shame, silence, and stigma around PMS, PMDD, postpartum depression, perimenopause, and more. Dr. Vundi brings her powerful combination of lived experience and clinical knowledge to offer practical insights for navigating womanhood with grace, information, and community. Whether you're menstruating, postpartum, perimenopausal, or simply tired of being told to “tough it out,” this conversation is your language, your mirror, and your toolkit.

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

– Cycle syncing & targeted self-care
– Nutrition tips for hormone balance
– Magnesium, Vitamin D & sleep
– Mental health support for PMS & PMDD
– Perimenopause, menopause, & sexual wellness
– Community, self-trust, and dismantling shame

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In this episode, Adelle Onyango, unpacks what it truly means to decenter men. She reflects on how this journey began in the quiet spaces of therapy and not with a bold Instagram caption and how she continues unlearning societal conditioning that told her she needed to be chosen to be worthy.

If you’ve ever caught yourself performing for approval, living for someone else’s gaze, or shrinking your voice to fit in, this episode is your reminder: you were never meant to be someone’s accessory, you were meant to be whole.

She also shares practical steps to begin your own decentering journey and the simple but radical ways she's reclaiming herself, from trusting her intuition to laughing without apology.

Tap in and share this with another woman who is choosing herself.

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In this deeply raw and inspiring episode, we head to Rongai to hear from Tito Karis, a former campus radio star who shares his unexpected journey from multimedia university and a passion for radio to becoming a matatu conductor. He opens up about:

• The brutal realities of chasing a dream without financial stability
• The shame and strength of redefining success on his own terms
• How ambition can blind you—and still be the thing that saves you
• And why, despite it all, he still believes he will do radio again 

This story is not just about Tito. It’s about every African dreamer navigating shame, survival and self-worth in a system that often makes you feel invisible. It’s tender, powerful, and absolutely necessary.

After listening, tell us: What part of Tito’s story did you connect with most?
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In this episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango sits down with Mary, her first friend in Limuru and one of the most inspiring women she’s had the joy to learn from.

At 60, Mary returned to Kenya after decades abroad and chose to begin again. With no farming background and plenty of doubt, she used YouTube and sheer curiosity to learn banana farming and today, she runs a thriving farm and produce shop.

Mary shares powerful reflections on aging, friendship, financial independence, health, and embracing change at any stage of life. She speaks honestly about the fears that come with starting over and why doing it afraid is still better than doing nothing at all.

This episode is a celebration of women who dare to redesign their lives, no matter their age.

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In this episode Adelle shares 5 reflections that have stayed with her since her conversation with Felgonah on For Mannerless Women. They spoke about self-trust, softness as resistance, sacred grief, and becoming a woman who no longer asks for permission.

But this episode isn’t just about her story, it’s about what her courage awakened in Adelle. If you're navigating your own unlearning… if you're questioning the rules you were raised with… this is for you.

In this episode, Adelle reflects on:

• Why shame is not a requirement for womanhood
• What it means to choose softness in a hard world
• How self-expression becomes an act of resistance
• Why grief can be sacred and necessary
• How mannerlessness is actually a return to self

🎧 Listen, feel, and share with a woman who’s on the journey of becoming.

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In this powerful episode of Legally Clueless, Wairimu, who takes us on her journey of discovery, unlocking that her brain works differently than she was taught to believe. In Part 2 of her story, she unpacks visiting a therapist, pschiatrist and what coping tools work for her

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Welcome back to For Mannerless Women, the podcast creating a bold, shame-free space for African women to meet their most free selves. 

In this deeply vulnerable episode, Adelle sits down with counseling psychologist Daisy Kindi to unpack how childhood trauma still whispers in our adult relationships, from who we’re drawn to, to how we react in love. They explore:

• What really qualifies as childhood trauma in African homes
• Why your inner child might be running the show in your relationships
• The hidden ways trauma shapes attachment styles
• Firstborn daughters, survival personalities & the invisible labor of African girls
• The healing journey: shadow work, boundaries, and reclaiming your story

Whether you’re in therapy, considering it, or just beginning to question old patterns, this is your sign to start unlearning with us.
💛 You're not broken. You're just remembering what you deserve. 
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In this episode, Adelle shares a deeply personal milestone — 1 year of sobriety.
No dramatic rock bottom. No intervention. Just a conscious decision to start honouring her body by removing what no longer served her — alcohol.
She opens up about:

• Why she decided to quit drinking
• The unexpected shifts she’s experienced in her body, mind, and relationships
• Her biggest lessons from this year of clarity and emotional honesty
• Practical tips for anyone considering a sober or sober-curious lifestyle

This isn’t a preachy episode. It’s a real conversation about choosing yourself, rewriting your story, and listening to your body.
Whether you’re sober, sober-curious, or just exploring new ways of healing — this one’s for you.
💛 MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

• Self-check-in prompts for your relationship with alcohol
• Easy swaps for social rituals (without alcohol)
• Supportive tools + reminders if you're starting a sobriety journey

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You’re not alone in this. 

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In this powerful episode of Legally Clueless, Adelle shares her raw and emotional experience at the June 25th protests in Kenya, a moment that reminded her of the urgency of using our voices, the strength of collective resistance, and the humanity behind the headlines. 

Also in this episode, we meet Wairimu, who takes us on the beginning of her journey of discovery, unlocking that her brain works differently than she was taught to believe. In Part 1 of her story, she unpacks what it felt like to live in a world that doesn’t accommodate neurodivergence, the doubts she internalized, and what finally led to her self-awareness. ✨ Tune in for:

• A ground-level, personal view of the #RejectFinanceBill protests
• How trauma and resilience live side by side in resistance spaces
• Wairimu’s deeply moving story of reflection, misdiagnosis, and rediscovery

This is a reminder that our stories — whether shouted in the streets or whispered in therapy rooms — are valid, urgent, and deserve to be heard.

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In this episode, Meg shares PART 2 of her life story as an African woman who is living with a disability. Her's is an inspiring story taking you through relationships, schooling and how tough it is to look for a job! 

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Welcome to Ask-A-Therapist, a show that allows you to do just that, ask a therapist/counsellor those questions you've always wanted clarity on that will help you navigate your healing journey.

In this season you get to ask Daisy Khaindi, the lead counsellor at ConvoCare questions on childhood trauma & relationships.

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In this deeply moving and eye-opening episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango sits down with Joy, a Kenyan death doula, to talk about the one thing we’re all running from: death. But this isn’t a morbid conversation — it’s tender, honest, practical, and filled with powerful reflections on grief, caregiving, legacy, and how talking about death actually helps us live more intentionally. 

Joy shares what it means to be a death doula, how she supports families emotionally and logistically during the dying process, and why we must start preparing for our deaths even when we feel young and healthy. She opens up about personal experiences that led her to this work, the grief she carries, and why conversations about death are an act of resistance, healing, and love. What We Discuss:

• What a death doula does (it’s more than funeral planning)
• Preparing emotionally, spiritually, and practically for your death
• The power of presence at the bedside of the dying
• End-of-life planning for individuals and families
• Navigating grief without rushing or judging it
• Cultural taboos around death and how to break the silence
• The difference between showing up with empathy vs. compassion

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https://www.instagram.com/archiekinkin 

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Here's another Mid-Week Tease and in this episode, Adelle shares a mental wellness toolkit for staying sane during a revolution.

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