Language of Love is a weekly podcast where Dr. Berman shares her compassionate, humorous, and no-nonsense advice: answering listener questions and interviewing thought leaders and experts on relevant topics. Dr. Berman is ready to help you create the fulfilling and passionate love life you deserve, regardless of your relationship status, gender, or sexual orientation. Are you ready to get started?
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Language of Love is a weekly podcast where Dr. Berman shares her compassionate, humorous, and no-nonsense advice: answering listener questions and interviewing thought leaders and experts on relevant topics. Dr. Berman is ready to help you create the fulfilling and passionate love life you deserve, regardless of your relationship status, gender, or sexual orientation. Are you ready to get started?
Why You Keep Attracting Emotionally Unavailable Partners
Language of Love with Dr. Laura Berman
10 minutes
2 weeks ago
Why You Keep Attracting Emotionally Unavailable Partners
Have you ever wondered why you keep ending up in the same kind of painful relationship almost like you’re tuned to a certain frequency that keeps pulling you toward emotionally unavailable partners?
In this episode of Language of Love Session, I answer a heartfelt question from Sarah, a listener who wrote in asking: “Why do I keep attracting emotionally unavailable people, and how can I heal whatever inside me is drawing me to these relationships?”
We explore how the energy you carry, your vibration, and your earliest experiences all play a role in who you’re drawn to and why. I also share how healing practices like somatic experiencing and Internal Family Systems therapy can help shift your frequency so you attract partners who are truly capable of love and connection.
We explore:
Why emotionally unavailable partners feel so familiar (and why it’s not just “bad luck”)
How childhood patterns set the vibration for the partners we’re drawn to later in life
Ways somatic therapy helps release unconscious patterns stored in the body
How Internal Family Systems therapy rewires your inner world for healthier love
Why “butterflies” aren’t always passion, they may be your nervous system picking up on an old, unhealthy frequency
This is all about learning how to change your vibration so you stop repeating painful cycles and open yourself up to safe, supportive love.
For resources on somatic experiencing, visit the Hakomi Institute or traumatherapy.org for more on this powerful mindfulness-centered approach to healing.
Have a question you’d like me to answer on the show? Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com, leave a voice message or question at SpeakPipe.com/LanguageofLove or connect with me on social media @DrLauraBerman.
For more support, visit my website for expert resources and don’t forget to check out my newest book, Sex Magic.
And if you’re navigating betrayal or struggling to rebuild trust, share your story with me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com for a chance to be featured in a future episode. Your journey could be exactly what someone else needs to hear.
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Language of Love with Dr. Laura Berman
Language of Love is a weekly podcast where Dr. Berman shares her compassionate, humorous, and no-nonsense advice: answering listener questions and interviewing thought leaders and experts on relevant topics. Dr. Berman is ready to help you create the fulfilling and passionate love life you deserve, regardless of your relationship status, gender, or sexual orientation. Are you ready to get started?
