Fatherlessness is one of the biggest issues I see in therapy, in schools, and in society as a whole. I’ve met countless men who carry the scars of growing up without their fathers — and many who are now struggling with the idea of being absent from their own children’s lives. At the same time, I’ve been a sperm donor, and I’ve seen how some families — especially lesbian couples — make a deliberate choice to raise children without a father figure. That’s very different from abandonment, but it still raises the same fundamental question: what does it mean for a child to grow up without a dad? What strikes me most is the imbalance. The statistics on fatherlessness are everywhere — yet when I searched for why mothers abandon their children, I found almost nothing. It’s so rare it barely appears in the research. So why do men leave, but women almost never do? In this video, I share my personal experiences, the stories I’ve seen in therapy, the patterns I witnessed working in schools, and the limited research that exists. This isn’t about blame — it’s about starting a conversation we need to have. If this resonates with you, please share your thoughts in the comments. Let’s talk openly about fatherlessness, responsibility, and what we can do to break the cycle. We hope you enjoy and do not forget to like and subscribe. https://linktr.ee/cassimkaweesa Substack/weekly blog is cassimkaweesa.substack.com Get in touch with me via: Malemindscounselling.com Instagram: cassimkaweesaofficial Twitter: Cassim Kaweesa #Fatherlessness #Therapy #Parenting #AbsentFathers #MentalHealth #Family

He’s 14, She’s 24: Legally Abused, But He Says He Enjoyed It - Boys, Abuse, and the Silent Impact on Adult RelationshipsI’m sitting across from a client, sometimes a grown adult, sometimes a teenager. They share something like, “I’ve always liked older women,” or “My first sexual experience was with someone much older.” I ask for a little more detail. Sometimes the client shares that the person was a parent, an uncle, or an adult family friend. Other times, it’s a non-family adult, thier best friends older sister, a girl they started talking to on snap or someone in their late 20s or 30s they met in a shop.You might be surprised, and even shocked, at how many boys and men I’ve sat across from in therapy who were, by legal definitions, sexually assaulted as children or teenagers, yet describe the experience as one of the best sexual experiences of their lives. They say they would do it again in a heartbeat, and they don’t identify it as traumatic. In contrast, I have never, in my counselling practice, heard a female client describe a similar scenario in that way. This raises an important question: if a boy or young man is sexually abused but does not perceive it as traumatic or a violation, does it still affect him?At first glance, these statements seem innocuous, even consensual. But as a psychotherapist, I know that early sexual contact with an adult carries complex psychological dynamics. The adult-child power imbalance is central: children’s brains, particularly in areas governing impulse control, emotional regulation, and relational reasoning, are still developing. Even when a boy experiences pleasure, excitement, or curiosity during these encounters, the experience can disrupt healthy sexual, emotional, and relational development.The full blog is at my substack cassimkaweesa.substack.com   We hope you enjoy and do not forget to like and subscribe. https://linktr.ee/cassimkaweesa Substack/weekly blog is cassimkaweesa.substack.com Get in touch with me via: Malemindscounselling.com Instagram: cassimkaweesaofficial Twitter: Cassim Kaweesa

This week I spent the time talking about some of the men who have helped me change my life, if you have any questions you would some answers to, drop it in the comment section. We hope you enjoy and do not forget to like and subscribe. https://linktr.ee/cassimkaweesa Substack/weekly blog is cassimkaweesa.substack.com Get in touch with me via: Malemindscounselling.com Instagram: cassimkaweesaofficial Twitter: Cassim Kaweesa

In this episode I spend the time going through some questions posted on the studentforum website. One of which is about being rejected sexually in a relationship. We hope you enjoy and do not forget to like and subscribe. https://linktr.ee/cassimkaweesa Substack/weekly blog is cassimkaweesa.substack.com Get in touch with me via: Malemindscounselling.com

Coming out isn’t just a one-time event — it’s a lifelong process. But what does it actually mean? And do you even have to do it?In this podcast, we explore: What “coming out” really means. Common fears and questions men have before they come out. The hidden mental health toll of staying in the closet. Why coming out can bring freedom for some — and risk for others. How to start by “coming out” to yourself before telling anyone else. If you’ve ever asked yourself “Am I gay? Bi? Bi-curious? Do I even need to come out?” — this conversation is for you. Listen now to understand the truth about coming out, the pressures men face, and how to move towards living authentically — at your own pace. We hope you enjoy and do not forget to like and subscribe. https://linktr.ee/cassimkaweesa Substack/weekly blog is cassimkaweesa.substack.com Get in touch with me via: Malemindscounselling.com Instagram: cassimkaweesaofficial Twitter: Cassim Kaweesa

In the UK, there are about 2.0 million male unpaid carers, making up roughly 40–42% of all informal carers . Here’s a clearer breakdown: Total unpaid carers: Around 5.0–5.8 million across the UK  Male vs Female: Approximately 2.0 million males and 3.0 million females are providing unpaid care . Proportion of caregivers: In England and Wales, about 7.6% of males and 10.4% of females report providing unpaid care  That means 2 in every 5 unpaid carers are men . Male Minds Counselling – Therapy for men and boys who’ve grown up in silence. malemindscounselling.com malemindscounselling@gmail.com In-person and online therapy available

When a woman discovers she’s been cheated on, it’s rarely just about the betrayal — it’s about everything the betrayal represents. In this episode, I break down what infidelity does to a woman emotionally, psychologically, and even physically. Drawing from my experience as a male therapist — and founder of Male Minds Counselling — I explain why cheating cuts so deeply, and why “just saying sorry” isn’t enough. We’ll explore:🔹 Why infidelity can trigger trauma🔹 How childhood, culture, and conditioning shape her response🔹 What many men don’t understand about emotional safety🔹 Why she might still be in pain, even months or years later🔹 The difference between guilt and shame in healing🔹 What real repair looks like after trust is broken Whether you’re a man trying to understand your partner’s pain, or a woman trying to feel seen in your healing process — this video offers a bridge of understanding. 🧠 For therapy sessions or more info: [Your website]📍 Based in Reading, Berkshire | Male Minds Counselling👥 Counselling for men, women, and couples #Infidelity #Relationships #TherapyForMen #BlackTherapist #MaleMindsCounselling #TrustIssues #HealingAfterCheating #EmotionalIntelligence #CouplesTherapy #MensMentalHealth

What happens to a boy when the man he looks up to is labelled a sex offender? What kind of damage does it do when a child watches his father get arrested — shamed, handcuffed, and taken away? In this podcast, I break down the long-term emotional, psychological, and identity wounds that boys carry when their fathers are convicted of sex offences. This isn’t just about crime — it’s about shame, silence, confusion around masculinity, and the deep fear of becoming "just like him." We’ll explore: The guilt and shame children carry (even when they’ve done nothing wrong) Why watching a father’s arrest is more than just a memory — it’s a turning point How this experience affects boys’ views on sex, trust, authority, and themselves The silent suffering most people never see Whether you’re a professional, a parent, or someone who’s lived this reality, this video opens up the hard conversation most people avoid. Listen. Share. Start the conversation. Male Minds Counselling – Therapy for men and boys who’ve grown up in silence. malemindscounselling.com malemindscounselling@gmail.com In-person and online therapy available   #MaleMinds #TherapyForMen #FatherWound #SexOffenderImpact #GenerationalShame #Masculinity #CounsellingForMen #TraumaHealing

“I Found My Birth Mother… But It Didn’t Heal Me. It Broke Me in a Different Way.” In this powerful and honest episode, I explore the emotional reality behind adoption reunions — especially for adopted boys and men. We often imagine that finding our birth parents will bring closure, peace, or a sense of identity. But the truth can be far more complicated. What if your birth parent doesn’t remember things the same way? What if they don’t want to talk about the past? What if the answers you’ve been chasing leave you feeling even more lost? This episode is for adopted men, adoptive parents, therapists, and anyone who’s been affected by adoption. I talk about the deep emotional impact of adoption, the unspoken grief, and the questions we rarely feel safe enough to ask out loud. If you’ve ever felt like something’s missing, or if you’re thinking about searching for your birth family — watch this first. Read the full blog on Substack: https://cassimkaweesa.substack.com Website: www.cassimkaweesa.com Instagram: @cassimkaweesaofficial Twitter/X: @CassimKaweesa All Links: https://linktr.ee/cassimkaweesa Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and share if this helped you or someone you know!

In part 2, we explore how men can move from isolation and shame to receiving real mental health support—starting right in the workplace. And how work places can help with this. Many men struggle in silence, fearing judgment, stigma, or the risk of appearing “weak.” But change is possible. We’ll talk about: Why shame stops men from seeking help How workplace culture can either silence or support mental health conversations The role of leaders, colleagues, and HR in creating psychologically safe environments Practical steps men can take to access support and look after their well-being What real support looks like—not just awareness days, but action If you're a man struggling with mental health, or someone who wants to support men better at work, this video is for you. Don’t forget to subscribe for more content on men’s mental health and emotional wellbeing.   #MensMentalHealth #WorkplaceWellbeing #ShameToSupport #MentalHealthAwareness #MaleMindsCounselling Let’s Connect: Website: www.cassimkaweesa.com Cassimotive Hoodie: Cassimotive Store Instagram: @cassimkaweesaofficial Twitter/X: @CassimKaweesa All Links: https://linktr.ee/cassimkaweesa Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and share if this helped you or someone you know!

In part 1, we explore how men can move from isolation and shame to receiving real mental health support—starting right in the workplace. Many men struggle in silence, fearing judgment, stigma, or the risk of appearing “weak.” But change is possible. We’ll talk about: Why shame stops men from seeking help How workplace culture can either silence or support mental health conversations The role of leaders, colleagues, and HR in creating psychologically safe environments Practical steps men can take to access support and look after their well-being What real support looks like—not just awareness days, but action If you're a man struggling with mental health, or someone who wants to support men better at work, this video is for you. Don’t forget to subscribe for more content on men’s mental health and emotional wellbeing.   #MensMentalHealth #WorkplaceWellbeing #ShameToSupport #MentalHealthAwareness #MaleMindsCounselling Let’s Connect: Website: www.cassimkaweesa.com Cassimotive Hoodie: Cassimotive Store Instagram: @cassimkaweesaofficial Twitter/X: @CassimKaweesa All Links: https://linktr.ee/cassimkaweesa Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and share if this helped you or someone you know!

What does it mean to be a man in a world that tells you to be strong but never soft, loud but never vulnerable? In this powerful episode, we dive deep into what masculinity looks like when you strip away the ego, the armour, and the pressure to perform. If you’ve ever felt like you had to “man up,” stay silent about your pain, or wear a mask just to survive this conversation is for you. From young men still figuring it out, to grown men trying to heal decades of silence, this episode will help you reconnect to your true strength and power your roar. What we cover: Why many men feel disconnected from themselves The emotional masks men are taught to wear How suppressed pain shows up in relationships, work, and health What reclaiming your voice actually looks like Real quotes and wisdom from Dr. Myles Munroe, TD Jakes, Robert Bly, and Jim Rohn How to break generational patterns and show up fully as yourself This is more than a podcast. It’s a movement to bring men back to their authentic selves. Let’s Connect: Website: www.cassimkaweesa.com  Cassimotive Hoodie: Cassimotive Store Instagram: @cassimkaweesaofficial  Twitter/X: @CassimKaweesa All Links: https://linktr.ee/cassimkaweesa Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and share if this helped you or someone you know! Let me know if you want a thumbnail text or quote to match.

5 Essential Questions Couples Should Honestly Ask Before Saying “I Do” Marriage is not just a ceremony — it’s a commitment that will test your communication, trust, and personal growth. Before you say “I do,” there are five deep, often uncomfortable questions every couple needs to ask and answer with honesty. In this episode, I walk you through the most important conversations couples often avoid before marriage — and why ignoring them could lead to heartbreak later. Whether you're engaged, dating seriously, or thinking about settling down, this is the relationship talk you didn't know you needed. In This Episode: The #1 reason couples regret getting married too soon How to explore values, lifestyle, and emotional needs Why sexual expectations and intimacy need real conversation What couples misunderstand about money, roles, and family Why silence on the big issues creates resentment Let’s Connect:Website: www.cassimkaweesa.comCassimotive Hoodie: https://teespring.com/stores/cassimotiveInstagram: @cassimkaweesaofficialTwitter/X: @CassimKaweesaAll Links: https://linktr.ee/cassimkaweesa Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and share if this helped you or someone you know!

Why Talking About Suicide Out Loud Can Save Lives What if the very thing we’re afraid to say... is the thing that could save a life? In this raw and powerful episode, I open up about what suicidal thoughts actually sound like, why men struggle to talk, and how speaking up — even just once — can be the difference between life and death. Whether you’re someone who’s been there, love someone who’s struggling, or want to understand the silent pain many young men carry — this is the conversation we need to stop avoiding. What You’ll Learn: The real reasons why so many men stay silent What suicidal thoughts often sound and feel like The masks men wear to hide their pain What “help” can actually sound like (not clichés) Why honest conversations about suicide save lives How to support yourself or someone else who’s on the edge You’re not broken. You’re not weak. You’re not alone. Talking about suicide won’t put the idea into someone’s head — it can help them finally let it out. Get your Cassimotive Hoodie: https://teespring.com/stores/cassimotive Connect with me: Website – www.cassimkaweesa.com Instagram – @cassimkaweesaofficial Twitter – @CassimKaweesa All links, books & more: https://linktr.ee/cassimkaweesa If this episode helps you — like, comment, and share it with someone who might need it. You never know the life it could save. #MensMentalHealth #SuicidePrevention #RealTalk #CassimKaweesa

What happens when a man finally talks about his feelings? This video is a raw and honest look into what many men carry in silence — and what changes when they finally speak. As a Black male therapist who grew up fatherless, battled depression, experienced homelessness, addiction, and suicidal thoughts, I’ve lived both the silence and the healing. In this video, I explore: Why men struggle to open up emotionally The hidden rage that often stems from childhood (inspired by Fury by H.G. Tudor) The games some men unconsciously play in therapy (from Games People Play by Eric Berne) How silence damages relationships, fatherhood, and mental health Why emotional honesty isn’t weakness — it’s power The spiritual and cultural layers behind male pain As someone who went from rock bottom to becoming a therapist, author, property investor, and group facilitator, this isn’t just theory — it’s truth, lived. Full Podcast Series: https://linktr.ee/cassimkaweesa Cassimotive Hoodies & Apparel: https://teespring.com/stores/cassimotive Website: www.cassimkaweesa.com Instagram: @cassimkaweesaofficial Twitter/X: @CassimKaweesa

You’re NOT Lazy – The Truth Nobody Told You About Setting Goals What if you’re not lazy — you just never learned how to set goals that actually work? In this episode, I break down the hard truth about goal setting, motivation, and why most people stay stuck for years. This isn’t hype or hustle culture fluff — it’s real talk from someone who’s been at rock bottom and clawed his way up to writing five books. Whether you're a young man feeling unmotivated, a student unsure of your path, or someone who’s just tired of failing the same goals every year, this is the episode you didn’t know you needed. What you'll learn: Why your goals don’t stick The 6-step, no-BS method to actually get what you want Why “starting from the bottom” is your greatest asset What success really looks like, especially if you’ve messed up before You’re not broken. You’re not weak. You just need a system that makes sense to you. Let’s fix that — starting now. Helpful links: Get the Book: How to Set Goals: 6 Step No-BS Way to Get What You Want Starting from the Bottom Full Podcast Series: https://linktr.ee/cassimkaweesa Cassimotive Hoodies: https://teespring.com/stores/cassimotive Website: www.cassimkaweesa.com Instagram: cassimkaweesaofficial Twitter: Cassim Kaweesa Please like, subscribe, and share. Because someone you know is calling themselves lazy — and it’s a lie that needs to be broken. You are not lazy. You’re just not taught.

📚 What Nearly Broke Me Built 5 Books (And Might Save You Too) Welcome to this episode of Journal Entries Podcast – where real stories meet real survival. In this episode, I take you behind the scenes of the pain, purpose, and persistence that led me to write 5 life-shifting books. From the darkest valleys of my life to the pages of purpose, I share what nearly broke me – and how those moments became the blueprint for every book I’ve written. Whether you're a young man struggling with your feelings, someone standing on the edge, or just looking to level up without a university degree, there’s something here for you. Here’s what we cover: The raw story behind each book What they all have in common Why I wrote them What you can expect from this weekly podcast  Books Mentioned in this Episode: The Best Kept Secret: Unlocking the ROAR inside you How to Set Goals: 6 Step No Bull Way to Get What You Want Starting From the Bottom The Fundamental Books List for People Who Didn’t Go to University I WANT TO KILL MYSELF: A Conversation with an Unknown Friend About Suicide and the Edge Principle Conversations: Pre-Marriage Counselling for Engaged & Soon-to-be-Married Non-Religious Couples WHY SHOULD I TALK ABOUT MY FEELINGS? I’M A MAN: How to Get Boys and Men into Therapy (And Why They’ll Actually Want to Stay) We hope you enjoy and do not forget to like and subscribe. 🔗 https://linktr.ee/cassimkaweesa 🧥 Go get your Cassimotive Hoodie: 🛒 https://teespring.com/stores/cassimotive 📲 Get in touch with me: 🌍 Website: www.cassimkaweesa.com 📸 Instagram: @cassimkaweesaofficial 🐦 Twitter: @CassimKaweesa 🎙 Subscribe. Share. Come back next week. Someone out there is waiting for a message like this.   #CassimKaweesa #Cassimotive #MensMentalHealth #Podcast #Books #SelfHelp #Therapy #Purpose #Survival #Healing #AuthorLife #MensIssues #Motivation

Why Men Don’t Talk About Their Feelings | The Silent Struggle Revealed Why do so many men suffer in silence? In this powerful episode, we dive deep into the real reasons why men often avoid talking about their emotions. From cultural conditioning and childhood trauma to fear of judgment and emotional shutdown — this video breaks down the hidden barriers keeping men silent. If you're a man who's ever struggled to open up — or you know someone who has — this is the conversation we all need to hear. Don’t forget to LIKE, COMMENT, and SUBSCRIBE for more real talk on mental health, masculinity, and emotional healing. In This Episode0:00 Intro1:30 Masculine Norms & Cultural Conditioning4:00 The Fear of Being Judged6:10 Why Men Lack Emotional Language8:45 Trauma, Shame & Responsibility12:00 Why Therapy Feels Like a Last Resort14:30 Real Solutions & What Needs to Change Let’s Keep the Conversation GoingDrop a comment below — What’s been your experience with talking (or not talking) about your feelings? #MensMentalHealth #WhyMenDontTalk #Masculinity #EmotionalWellness #MentalHealthPodcast #MenAndFeelings #TherapyForMen

My friend applied to a temporary sales assistant position at Superdry and she got a team tryout interview. She is absolutely stunning, she models as well. Social skills are good as well. She got rejected and I was so shocked because all I’ve heard was for sales roles looks play a high importance. 12 people were interviewed and 3 positions so chances were high. In your experience for the position she applied for how much importance is placed on looks?   My friend applied to a temporary sales assistant position at Superdry and she got a team tryout interview. She is absolutely stunning, she models as well. Social skills are good as well. She got rejected and I was so shocked because all I’ve heard was for sales roles looks play a high importance. 12 people were interviewed and 3 positions so chances were high. In your experience for the position she applied for how much importance is placed on looks? The question was from the studentroom —————————————————————————————————— We hope you enjoy and do not forget to like and subscribe. https://linktr.ee/cassimkaweesa Go get your Cassimotive Hoodie at : https://teespring.com/stores/cassimotive Get in touch with me via: Website: www.cassimkaweesa.com Instagram: cassimkaweesaofficial Twitter: Cassim Kaweesa   mental health,student life,uni,university,teen,song writing,a levels,teenager,trending,explore page,girlfriend,the student room,friendship,memories,sadness,isolation,lost,advice,life advice,viral,depression,social anxiety,story,journaling,counselling,psychotherapy

I'm 16 I'm a high school drop out my family doesn't make a lot of money and my house is over a hundred years old my house is falling apart. The question was from the studentroom  —————————————————————————————————— We hope you enjoy and do not forget to like and subscribe. https://linktr.ee/cassimkaweesa Go get your Cassimotive Hoodie at : https://teespring.com/stores/cassimotive Get in touch with me via: Website: www.cassimkaweesa.com Instagram: cassimkaweesaofficial Twitter: Cassim Kaweesa