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When it comes to children and teenagers, their behaviour around bodies, boundaries, and sexuality can be complex — and often misunderstood.
- What’s normal curiosity?
- What’s problematic?
- And where does it cross into being harmful or even violent?
In this episode, I sit down with Dr Jennifer Allotey, forensic psychologist and social worker, to unpack these difficult questions. We discuss:
- The Hackett Continuum: a framework used in schools and safeguarding to assess behaviour.
- Why some behaviours should be seen as developmentally expected, while others require intervention.
- The role of consent, power, and context in understanding young people’s actions.
- The influence of the internet and technology on today’s behaviour.
- How schools, parents, and communities can respond without overreacting or labelling young people unfairly.
This is a vital conversation for anyone who cares about safeguarding, prevention, and helping young people navigate healthy development.
Resources mentioned in the podcast are below.
Centre of expertise on child sexual abuse - https://www.csacentre.org.uk
The AIM Project - https://aimproject.org.uk
Shore - https://shorespace.org.uk
Dr Jennifer Allotey information
Website - http://polaris-associates.co.uk/
Dr Jennifer Allotey is a Chartered Forensic Psychologist, Social Worker and Assistant Professor in Forensic Psychology. Jennifer's career began in children and families social work, including working within the family court arena, and time spent in fostering and adoption. Within her social work career, Jennifer specialised in assessment of risk and she went on to work in specialist services including NSPCC, Lucy Faithfull Foundation, and Safer Lives. Jennifer's specialist expertise in assessment and therapeutic interventions with children led to a role as the Clinical Lead for Harmful Sexual Behaviour within a Forensic Child and Adolescent Mental Health Service (FCAMHS). Jennifer is now dual registered as a Social Worker and Forensic Psychologist, and she continues to work with both children and adults who have dispalyed harmful / offending behaviours, with a focus on sexual harm.
Jennifer's doctoral thesis explores experiences of adversity and trauma in children who have displayed harmful sexual behaviour and the focus throughout is sexual abuse prevention. Jennifer's research make recommendations for practice to support all professionals in their role in the prevention of child sexual abuse. Alongside her clinical practice, Jennifer provides consultation, supervision and training to professionals and delivers teaching as an Assistant Professor in Forensic Psychology at the University of Nottingham.
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Bonnie Blue has built a huge following — and makes over £1 million a month — by leaning into schoolgirl and “barely legal” fantasies. But why are these themes so popular, why do they spread so easily on social media, and what does her success say about us as a society?
In this episode, I explore:
- How Bonnie Blue “cracked the code” of algorithms
- Why outrage and support both fuel her rise
- The dangers of normalising virginity and “barely legal” fantasies
- What this means for young people seeing her content online
- Why platforms suppress survivor stories but let this go viral
This is not about shaming anyone's decisions — it’s about asking the bigger question: what can we learn from Bonnie Blue’s rise, and what does it reveal about our culture today?
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Website: https://jeremyindika.com
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Links mentioned below.
The clip I reviewed - https://youtu.be/moJ59Po9aPE?si=Qj_zqt6PigsRv7Eq
The full Mikhaila Peterson podcast - https://youtu.be/4qZoJooGHfY?si=fBDmQZcopePXto8j
The Teen Corn podcast that I mentioned in video - https://youtu.be/C_enOcVeTTw?si=OKaq9gXBhIbNwV07
Why didn’t the government act sooner? For years, concerns have been raised about the easy access young people have to online porn — and the potential impact it’s having on their developing brains. Now, new laws are finally being introduced in the UK to block under-18s from these sites.
But is it too late?
In this episode, we explore:
- The psychological and neurological effects of porn consumption
- How desensitisation and escalation can lead to more extreme content
- The links between compulsive porn use and real-world harm
- Why action to protect young people has taken so long
Watch until the end as we discuss the government’s latest move and whether it can undo the damage that may already have been done to today’s generation.
What do you think — did the UK wait too long?
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In this episode, I speak with Dr. Angela Tan about how to talk to children and young people about their bodies, consent, personal boundaries, and safety. It’s an honest, respectful, and practical conversation to help parents, teachers, and anyone working with children feel more confident navigating these tough — but essential — topics. Because if we don’t talk to them, someone else will… and that person may not have their best interests at heart.
Dr. Angela Tan is a family physician, sexual wellness specialist, and Medical Director of Reiwa Health, with over 16 years of experience in both medical practice and professional coaching.
As a parent herself, Angela understands the emotional complexities of raising tweens and teens. She has conducted sex education workshops in schools and coached parents on how to talk about growing bodies, emotions, and relationships with confidence and care.
Her work goes beyond information-sharing—Angela helps parents build trust and emotional safety through vulnerability, so they can stay connected to their children through every stage of adolescence. She believes that meaningful sex education starts with honest conversations at home, where kids feel seen, safe, and supported.
Dr. Angela Tan's links below.
Website: www.reiwahealth.com
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-angela-tan/
Insta: https://www.instagram.com/reiwa.apt/
Below are my links
Website: https://jeremyindika.com
Podcast: https://shows.acast.com/the-something-to-say-podcast
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This convicted child abuser speaks openly about what makes a child vulnerable to abuse - and I don’t think you’ll be surprised.
Because deep down, these are all things that we already know - but make us feel uncomfortable to face.
I don’t want to give this man praise, but he is giving us something truly valuable here and I don’t want you to miss it - especially if you have children yourself.
Below are my links
Website: https://jeremyindika.com
Podcast: https://shows.acast.com/the-something-to-say-podcast
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YouTube link - https://youtu.be/yDLzgpEbGOA
What do you say to a room full of 13-year-olds about abuse, secrets and speaking up?
In this powerful live talk, I speak directly to Year 8 students about how abuse often doesn’t look like violence — and why speaking up matters. Using real-life stories, questions, and interactive moments, this session helps young people understand grooming, recognise their own coping mechanisms, and feel more confident asking for help.
This video isn’t just for students — it’s for the adults who care about them. Whether you’re a parent, teacher or survivor, you’ll walk away with a deeper understanding of how to talk to young people about abuse in a way that’s honest, clear and age-appropriate.
Below are my links
Website: https://jeremyindika.com
Podcast: https://shows.acast.com/the-something-to-say-podcast
Something to Say: https://somethingtosayofficial.com
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Links I've mentioned in the podcast below.
1. What Is Harmful Sexual Behaviour?
NSPCC Learning – https://learning.nspcc.org.uk/child-abuse-and-neglect/harmful-sexual-behaviour
CSA Centre – https://www.csacentre.org.uk/resources/key-messages/harmful-sexual-behaviour/
Lucy Faithfull Foundation - https://www.lucyfaithfull.org.uk/harmful-sexual-behaviour.htm
2. The Continuum of Sexual Behaviours
NSPCC – https://learning.nspcc.org.uk/media/2522/harmful-sexual-behaviour-framework.pdf
Hackett’s Continuum (via ICMEC Guide) - https://www.icmec.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/07/Hackett-Continuum.pdf
Queensland Health – https://www.childrens.health.qld.gov.au/wp-content/uploads/PDF/hsc-sexual-behaviours-traffic-light-guide.pdf
3. 🧒 Age-Appropriate Sexual Behaviour
Stop It Now – https://www.stopitnow.org.uk/concerned-about-a-childs-sexual-behaviour/
HealthyChildren.org – https://www.healthychildren.org/English/ages-stages/preschool/Pages/Sexual-Behavior-in-Young-Children.aspx
Raising Children Network – https://raisingchildren.net.au/guides/a-z-health-reference/sexual-behaviour-children
4. 🚨 When to Be Concerned
NSPCC – https://learning.nspcc.org.uk/research-resources/leaflets/harmful-sexual-behaviour
NCSBY Fact Sheet - https://www.ncsby.org/sites/default/files/Problematic_Sexual_Behavior_Fact_Sheet.pdf
PCAR – https://www.pcar.org/sites/default/files/pages-pdf/Understanding_Childrens_Sexual_Behavior.pdf
5. 🛠️ Responding to HSB
NSPCC – https://learning.nspcc.org.uk/child-abuse-and-neglect/harmful-sexual-behaviour/responding-to-hsb
Lucy Faithfull Foundation – https://www.lucyfaithfull.org.uk/advice-for-professionals.htm
In this episode, we explore a difficult but essential topic: harmful sexual behaviour (HSB) among minors.
Using real-world examples, expert-backed definitions, and resources from trusted organisations (like the Lucy Faithful Foundation, NSPCC, and the Centre of Expertise on CSA), we break down:
- What HSB actually is
- The traffic light continuum: green, amber, red behaviours
- Age-appropriate vs. concerning behaviour
- Red flags to look out for
- How to respond – as a parent or professional
Whether you're a teacher, social worker, or parent, this episode will help you better understand HSB, avoid panic, and respond with confidence, calm, and care.
Watch/listen and learn how to assess situations and take action that protects children — not punishes them.
📌 Resources mentioned in this episode are linked in the description.
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A new study found that 1 in 6 men admit feeling sexual attraction to children — including teenagers under the age of 18.
In this episode, I break down the findings, challenge the stereotypes about who offenders are, and explore what this means for how we protect children and teens today.
Too often, we imagine offenders as “creepy strangers” or people we’d spot a mile off. But the reality is more complex — and more uncomfortable. If we don’t understand that, we can’t keep children safe.
This episode isn’t about blame. It’s about awareness. It’s about honesty. And it’s about pushing this conversation out of the shadows and into the light.
Watch. Share. Discuss.
Your comments, likes, and shares help push this content into more people’s feeds — and right now, this topic is being buried.
Support the podcast:
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Links to the website and research document that I review in this episode.
Website - https://theconversation.com/a-survey-found-1-in-6-men-admit-sexual-feelings-for-children-so-is-paedophilia-increasing-218124
Research document - https://www.humanrights.unsw.edu.au/sites/default/files/documents/Identifying%20and%20understanding%20child%20sexual%20offending%20behaviour%20and%20attitudes%20among%20Australian%20men.pdf
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This was a big moment for me.
It was the first time I’d ever been invited to speak to Year 5 students—children just 9 and 10 years old. And I won’t lie… I was nervous.
This session is about body safety, the importance of speaking up, and how to recognise when something doesn’t feel right. I speak honestly, but gently—because young children deserve to be informed and protected without being overwhelmed.
This isn’t just a lesson—it’s the conversation I wish someone had with me at that age.
👉 If you're a parent, teacher or professional working with children, I hope this gives you ideas and confidence to keep these conversations going.
📌 Topics covered:
- Body boundaries and personal space
- The difference between safe and unsafe touch
- Secrets vs surprises
- Why trust and speaking up matters
📺 Prefer to watch with visuals?
This video includes slides and graphics designed to help young children understand and stay engaged.
▶️ Watch on desktop or full screen for the best experience.
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In this episode, Jeremy speaks with Anna Sonoda, author of Duck Duck Groom, about how grooming works and how adults—not children—must be empowered to recognize and interrupt it. Drawing from her experience working with sexual offenders, Anna explains the four stages of grooming—flattery, favoritism, forbidden fruits, and fear—and emphasizes that grooming is intentional, gradual, and observable. The conversation focuses on the need for adult education, strong communication with children, and community-wide action to prevent abuse before it happens.
Anna's bio.
Anna Sonoda, an Emory University graduate with degrees in Anthropology and French Studies, earned her Master’s in Social Work from the University of Georgia in 2006 and became a licensed clinician in 2009. With experience counseling sexual offenders, working in mental health settings, and providing anger management and domestic violence treatment, she developed a deep understanding of grooming behaviors. This led her to write Duck Duck Groom: Understanding How a Child Becomes a Target (2022) and Duck Duck Groom: A Guided Journal, offering resources for prevention and survivor healing.
Anna's links.
Website: https://annasonoda.com
Book: https://www.amazon.com/stores/author/B0BYK4LV4Q
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Website: https://jeremyindika.com
Podcast: https://shows.acast.com/the-something-to-say-podcast
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To book me for your school - https://jeremyindika.com/speaker-event/
Many will disagree with me doing this.
But with so many schools saying they’re worried to bring me in to speak to teachers because of what I might say or how far I might push the boundaries, I’ve decided to post a full recording online, so everyone can see exactly what I’m doing.
This comes with a risk (potentially) because now schools can watch it online instead of booking me.
But, everyone knows that this should be done in person because of the audience interaction and participation that I generate and I have faith that the schools see that too.
Below are my links
Website: https://jeremyindika.com
Podcast: https://shows.acast.com/the-something-to-say-podcast
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“If you liked it at the time, then you can’t grow into an adult and change your mind when you look back at it” - is what I’ve seen many sections of society say.
And they’re not shy. They comment on my posts from time to time.
Their view (from what I’ve seen) is that if a teenager flirts and involves themselves at the time, then they know what they’re doing and can’t label it as abusive and exploitative when they’re older.
This is a massive misunderstanding and I explain why as I review Leila’s brave story in my podcast.
This is very important, links below.
Original video: https://youtu.be/PLARjisxolI?si=waOJAwvS1QmkbqCi
Please support us over at @somethingtosayofficial with running costs at - https://jeremyindika.com/donate/
To connect with Leila and buy her book;
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/leilalala07/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/leila.ives
Book: https://amzn.eu/d/jcCEq8e
Something to Say links
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Below are my links
Website: https://jeremyindika.com
Podcast: https://shows.acast.com/the-something-to-say-podcast
Something to Say: https://somethingtosayofficial.com
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Do you think you’d be able to tell if your partner was living a double life behind closed doors?
Imagine what this woman is going through once she finds her partner’s illegal hard drive with 600 photos and videos of children.
Links as promised below,
1. 40-year old man arranges to meet 14-year old girl - https://youtu.be/3PqvA2JjkCo?si=IyaG8BSJ1lGsVtR8
2. Huw Edwards had 7-year olds on his phone and escaped jail - https://youtu.be/0OYYVaj5uAg?si=IRtw8cjqnacMgaZ3
3. Rosie Nelson Survive and Thrive CIC, unfortunately I couldn't find the charity that she founded.
Original video - https://youtu.be/rOUQKB1Lyfg?si=0nnVeVfoul0Ark-X
Below are my links
Website: https://jeremyindika.com
Podcast: https://shows.acast.com/the-something-to-say-podcast
Something to Say: https://somethingtosayofficial.com
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Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/SomethingtoSay
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Something to Say links
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To watch the live recording of my school talk - https://youtu.be/eAdkKhtyYkY
To find Rachel Carey,
Rachel is passionate about developing strong mental health in young people and assists school in developing well-being programs that not only meet the statutory outcomes for RSHE but also help young people to understand and develop their own mental health, resilience, and self-worth.
Personal LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/rachel-carey-462569140
Website: https://elizaeducation.com
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"It will never be good enough" - You may worry that this attitude means happiness can never be achieved, but that’s fine because happiness is not the aim with this.
What you’re about to watch are two people dissecting my school talk in detail. Critiquing it and finding the ways for further improvement, with the overall goal of steering teenagers away from feeling hopeless after sexual trauma.
Please come and get involved in this. The more opinions we collect, the better.
Today’s generation appreciate us adults taking action around this.
Below are my links
Website: https://jeremyindika.com
Podcast: https://shows.acast.com/the-something-to-say-podcast
Something to Say: https://somethingtosayofficial.com
To support
Merchandise: https://somethingtosayofficial.com
Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/SomethingtoSay
Donate: https://jeremyindika.com/donate/
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If you would like to watch this so you follow along with the slides I pull up, click here - https://youtu.be/eAdkKhtyYkY
Many people are curious to see what I’m delivering in schools, so I’ve recorded a session for you to watch.
You’ll see how I weave storytelling techniques with interactive exercises to create something that engages these young people.
Below are my links
Website: https://jeremyindika.com
Podcast: https://shows.acast.com/the-something-to-say-podcast
Something to Say: https://somethingtosayofficial.com
To support
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Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/SomethingtoSay
Donate: https://jeremyindika.com/donate/
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Something to Say links
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I’ve managed to get the work I do in schools and Something to Say onto BBC Radio - how amazing is this. Take a listen.
I’m now going to push to see whether they will bring me into the studio for a full length interview.
This is a celebration - @SomethingtoSayofficial
Below are my links
Website: https://jeremyindika.com
Podcast: https://shows.acast.com/the-something-to-say-podcast
Something to Say: https://somethingtosayofficial.com
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Something to Say links
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I’ve been heckled, I’ve had audiences shout at me and I’ve had event organisers cut my microphone and ask me to leave. You may not know about the situations I faced when I took my story public for the first time at open mic events back in 2019.
But I believe this is what built me as a speaker. None of this has come naturally.
Here's a link to my first ever open mic - https://youtu.be/hXQvXBqfbhw?si=Jr2-agm_4ui6Cqpl
Below are my links
Website: https://jeremyindika.com
Podcast: https://shows.acast.com/the-something-to-say-podcast
Something to Say: https://somethingtosayofficial.com
To support
Merchandise: https://somethingtosayofficial.com
Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/SomethingtoSay
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Something to Say links
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Do you know what to do if your child is sexually harassed, assaulted or abused online or in person? And I’m not talking about the logistics of reporting to the police etc.
I’m talking about supporting your child as a mother, a father, a family, but also, how to support yourself as your world comes crashing down and you feel helpless reading police reports and witnessing your child going through trauma.
15 out of 100 girls and 5 out of 100 boys will be offended against by the age of 16 (statistic from the National Crime Agency), so if you’re a parent then you must equip yourselves.
Experts in this field, Nina Vaaranen-Valkonen and Katariina Leivo, have come onto my podcast to help us understand more.
Protect children links below,
Protect Children main website: https://www.suojellaanlapsia.fi/en
You are Enough™ evaluation summary: https://www.suojellaanlapsia.fi/en/post/2know-yae-evaluation-summary
You are Enough™ parents guide: https://www.suojellaanlapsia.fi/en/post/you-are-enough-guide-for-parents-of-children-affected-by-online-sexual
Other useful materials:
Online Safety guide for all parents: https://www.suojellaanlapsia.fi/en/post/online-safety-parents-guide-not-just-a-device
Supportive website for young people who carry their friend's distressing secret: https://www.suojellaanlapsia.fi/en/myfriendtoo
Our Voice global survey for adults who have fallen victim to sexual violence in their childhood: https://www.suojellaanlapsia.fi/en/meidan-aanemme-kysely
Information regarding sibling sexual trauma/abuse (this is an area where parents feel even more alone:) https://www.suojellaanlapsia.fi/en/post/sibling-sexual-trauma-sibling-sexual-abuse-leaflets
Below are my links
Website: https://jeremyindika.com
Podcast: https://shows.acast.com/the-something-to-say-podcast
Something to Say: https://somethingtosayofficial.com
To support
Merchandise: https://somethingtosayofficial.com
Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/SomethingtoSay
Donate: https://jeremyindika.com/donate/
Social media
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Something to Say links
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Would you like to get involved in something?
I’ve posted this recording of me presenting to Year 8 girls, so people can watch and give their thoughts and opinions on it. I’m aware that I’m one person, with one perspective and to make this the best it can be for young people, I need everyone to get involved.
So please can I ask, for you to listen along to this and let me know what you think is working and what’s not.
If you would like to watch the full version - https://youtu.be/xAgI3_m0F9g
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Below are my links
Website: https://jeremyindika.com
Podcast: https://shows.acast.com/the-something-to-say-podcast
Something to Say: https://somethingtosayofficial.com
To support
Merchandise: https://somethingtosayofficial.com
Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/SomethingtoSay
Donate: https://jeremyindika.com/donate/
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Something to Say links
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When you go to work and your child is with someone else, you cannot guarantee their safety 100% - it’s impossible.
And if they’re of an age where they cannot cannot speak yet - let’s say they’re under 3 - the risk is further increased as they cannot communicate with you.
So, as a parent, what can you do here?
I’ve brought on expert Patricia Cardona onto my podcast to explain some of the techniques you can use to ensure that your child is not an easy target.
This is important information for everyone.
Patricia Cardona (Mallorca, Spain) is a warrior and survivor of both intra- and extra-familial child sexual abuse. After more than thirty years of silence, she first spoke out through her poetry at an event in Amsterdam, where audience members called her brave. Since then, she has become an expert in child sexual abuse prevention and an activist. Patricia is a member of the Brave Movement—a global, survivor-centered organization dedicated to ending childhood sexual violence. She also collaborates with RANA (Red de Ayuda a Niños Abusados) and is a certified Steward of Children through Darkness to Light.
Patricia’s advocacy has taken her to Brussels, where she has addressed the European Parliament, urging the passage and strengthening of the COM (2022) 209 regulation to prevent and combat child sexual abuse and stressing the critical need for comprehensive support for survivors. She has also collaborated with Europol on the GRACE (Global Response Against Child Exploitation) project.
She is the author of “Frases que nunca deberías decir frente a un abuso sexual” (Phrases You Should Never Say in the Face of Sexual Abuse), a resource aimed at helping survivors feel understood, encouraging others to break their silence, and guiding allies to create a world where no victim needs bravery to speak out.
Additionally, Patricia developed the L.A.B.O.R. Method, a 5-step program designed to empower parents to prevent up to 95% of potential child sexual abuse situations.
Patricia's links are below,
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_patricia_cardona/
Email: letstalk@thepatriciacardona.com
Below are my links
Website: https://jeremyindika.com
Podcast: https://shows.acast.com/the-something-to-say-podcast
Something to Say: https://somethingtosayofficial.com
To support
Merchandise: https://somethingtosayofficial.com
Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/SomethingtoSay
Donate: https://jeremyindika.com/donate/
Social media
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jeremyindika/
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LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeremy-indika-31673573/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JeremyIndika
Podcast: https://shows.acast.com/the-something-to-say-podcast
Something to Say links
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/somethingtosayofficial/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/somethingtosayofficial1
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/something-to-say1
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