In this episode, we are joined by Mr. Jay, a renowned betrayal trauma practitioner, as he delves into the complexities of healing from emotional abuse and relational trauma. Mr. Jay explains what betrayal trauma is, how it differs from other traumas, and discusses its profound impact on personal identity. He emphasizes the importance of understanding and addressing past wounds alongside current pain to facilitate true healing. The conversation also explores the role of faith in the recovery process and provides practical strategies for managing triggers and rebuilding trust. Mr. Jay’s unique combination of professional expertise and a faith-based approach offers invaluable insights for those on their journey to recovery.
00:00 Introduction to Mr. Jay and Betrayal Trauma
01:10 Defining Betrayal Trauma
02:39 Personalization and Secrecy of Betrayal Trauma
04:06 Impact of Betrayal Trauma on Past, Present, and Future
04:58 Betrayal Trauma from Suicide and Personal Health
06:09 Identity Loss and Co-Creation in Relationships
08:35 Rebuilding Trust and Individualized Healing Plans
11:13 Role of Faith and Spirituality in Healing
12:00 Forgiveness and Self-Love
15:04 Challenges in Forgiving the Impact
18:47 Willingness to Repair and Rebuild
23:48 Patterns of Behavior and Trust
25:02 Creating Your Soulmate After Betrayal
25:40 Personal Story of Trauma and Healing
27:09 Discovering Betrayal Trauma
28:56 Challenges in Betrayal Trauma Therapy
36:53 Signs of Genuine Effort in Healing
37:55 Coping Mechanisms for Triggers
44:47 Final Messages of Hope and Encouragement
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