What do you do when the man you want to be feels out of reach? 💍🇯🇲
Recorded in Montego Bay while Glen and Yvette celebrate 15 years 🎉, a listener writes in before his own 10-year anniversary: he’s lost motivation, avoids hard conversations, and feels inconsistent in faith and intimacy after weight gain. Without a positive male role model, he’s under a heavy cloud and asking how to lead his family God’s way. ✝️
Have you ever rebuilt confidence in the middle of a marriage? 💬 What first step actually moved the needle for you?
Episode 256 is live from Jamaica 🇯🇲 during Glen and Yvette’s 15th-anniversary trip 🎉.
What do you owe a friend when romance enters the chat? 💔
A listener matched with a guy and told her girls how excited she was—only to learn weeks later that one of them secretly liked him, talked to him, and went on a date. The friend admitted it only after he ghosted her and showed zero remorse. Now the question is clear: where’s the line between shooting your shot and protecting the friendship?
We talk:
Ever had a friend cross the line on dating etiquette? 🚩
Tell us where you draw the boundary. Episode 255 is live—drop your take in the comments! #HowMarriedAreYou #Friendship #GirlCode #Podcast
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What happens when the "perfect boyfriend" suddenly explodes? 😳
A listener writes in about her kind, generous dream man—until he shouted, cursed, and loomed over her at 3 AM after she said she felt left out of his hobby-club mixer. Childhood memories of an angry step-dad came rushing back, and now she wonders: if rage shows up once, will it move in after I do? Glen and Yvette weigh safety, trauma, and how much grace is too much.
We talk:
🚩 He played himself—no one should talk to a partner like that, Glen says, urging her to trust the fear signal.
🛑 Glen’s first instinct: leave if he scares you—therapy can’t fix disrespect you tolerate.
🔄 Yvette on trauma stacking and how tiny slights pile up until the midnight blow-up feels massive.
🎯 Glen explains that if he invites you, he needs you in the hobby—not policing him.
🧭 The hosts’ blueprint for clear expectations, compartmentalized friendships, and mentors before marriage.
Have you ever loved someone who seemed perfect—until the anger flared? 💥 What told you it was time to walk away or stay?
Episode 254 is live—tap in and share your story with #HowMarriedAreYou #HMAY254!
Can a prophetic word outweigh chemistry that’s already lit the fuse? 🕯️
One listener writes in torn between a four‑year, on‑again‑off‑again love and the fear he’s missing the real woman God promised. Childhood trauma, church expectations, and a couple of busted boundaries all collide as he wonders: am I the problem—or am I over‑spiritualizing everything?
We talk:
🗣️ Make a decision—then make it right.
🔍 Consider the source: weigh any prophecy against your own walk with God.
🚧 Boundaries only work when you enforce them as the leader.
🧠 Your body doing what it’s designed to do isn’t evil—how you act on it matters.
🕺🏾 Love her to perfection: argue well, get therapy, keep working the plan.
Ever had to choose between a “word from God” and the relationship right in front of you? 💌 Episode 253 is live—tell us how you found clarity! #HowMarriedAreYou #RelationshipRealTalk
Can love survive emotional whiplash and a husband who leaves you on the curb? 😶🌫️
One listener kept chasing a woman who ping‑ponged between “just friends” and “let’s try again.” Another rushed into marriage for a missions trip—only to discover her new spouse measures quality time in bedroom minutes and once made her walk home after a joke.
Both are wondering: Am I crazy for calling it quits—or crazy for staying
We talk:
🙏🏾 “You deserve a clear conversation, not constant confusion.”
🛑 Why loneliness inside a relationship can hurt more than being single.
👥 The lifesaving power of accountability and community—don’t partner with someone who avoids both.
🔄 “Make a decision, then make it right—fear can’t drive your love life.”
🗓️ Practical rescue plan: schedule date nights, schedule sex, and get real counseling before calling the movers.
Have you ever begged for clarity—or begged for a simple date night? 💭
Drop your story and wisdom below—Episode 252 is live now! #HowMarriedAreYou #HMAY
A 26‑year‑old listener feels sparks 🔥 with a 35‑year‑old pastor, but her dad and step‑mom insist, “He’s too old!” Now she’s weighing wisdom, faith ✝️, and a widening generation gap 🕰️. Can she trust her own maturity—and God’s timing—over her family’s fears?
We talk:
🙏🏾 Why shared faith, values, and life vision matter more than the number on a birth certificate
🚩 How repeating “much younger” partners can hint at deeper immaturity or control issues
📝 Using premarital coaching and mentors to see compatibility with clear eyes—not just butterflie
👨👩👧 Balancing family concerns with wisdom from couples who live the kind of marriage you want
🌱 Spotting true maturity through character and growth, not calendar years
Ever crossed a 10‑year age gap? ⏳ What convinced you it could work—or that it couldn’t? Episode 251 is live—tap in and share your story in the comments!
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What do you do when you realize nobody’s coming to save you? 🧠💔📉
In this episode, we hear from a 24-year-old man who's been in a relationship for almost a decade—but feels like he’s barely shown up for any of it.
He moved across the country to be with the love of his life. She’s held down the bills, the home, and the hope. And while he battles depression, anxiety, and a lack of discipline, he's asking the hard questions: How do I stop drowning in self-pity? How do I become the man she deserves… and the man I want to be.
Glen and Yvette dig deep on this one.
We talk:
If you’ve ever felt stuck in your own life—or like you’re falling behind the partner who believes in you—this one’s for you.
Episode 250 is live. Tap in and tell us:What helped you take control when you finally got tired of waiting? 👇🏾
What do you do when the glue of your family is gone—and everything starts to come undone? 🕊💔
In this episode, we hear from a listener grieving the loss of her mother… while also navigating a painful shift in her relationship with her sister.
They’ve survived so much together—abusive relationships, single motherhood, and even the loss of their fiancés just weeks apart. But now, in the wake of their mother’s death, grief is exposing the cracks: an imbalance in caregiving, a new boyfriend causing tension, and a fear that their bond may not survive this chapter.
Yvette and Glen hold space—and offer clarity.
We talk:
If you’ve ever lost someone and felt like you were losing more than one person in the process—this one’s for you.
Episode 249 is live. Tap in, breathe deep, and tell us:What boundaries have helped you stay grounded during a season of loss? 👇🏾
When your parents’ lifestyle makes you uncomfortable—what do you do? 🤯
In Episode 248, we read an email from a woman trying to navigate a very complicated family dynamic. After growing up loosely Christian, she’s now leaning more into her faith—but her mom and stepdad have recently entered a polyamorous relationship and moved a third partner into the family home… a woman who also happens to work with her dad. 😳
She’s feeling overwhelmed, grossed out, and unsure how to handle visits or conversations without compromising her values or cutting ties completely.
So what does it mean to respond in a godly way—without enabling what you don’t agree with?
We talk about:
Tap in for a raw, real convo—and then join us in the comments:
How do you set boundaries without being harsh or judgmental?
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What do you do when the creativity dries up? 🎤📱💭
In this episode, we hear from a female rapper who’s feeling stuck. She went from writing multiple songs a week… to barely one every few weeks.
She’s working in a beige windowless room, caring for a loved one recovering from a stroke, and feeling creatively drained—while also lowkey addicted to her phone.
She’s asking for help. For hope. For a spark. 🔥
Glen—our resident rapper—takes the lead on this one.
We talk:
Episode 247 is live. Tap in, get encouraged, and drop a comment below:
What helps YOU keep creating when you’re in a dry season? 👇🏾
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This week, we’re responding to two emails—both full of tension, questions, and heart.
First up:
A man writes in, self-conscious about being seen as a “toxic male.” 😓
He wants to correct things in his relationship—like how the house is cleaned—but he’s struggling with how to say it and whether he even should.
He’s worried about being part of the problem…
But is he overthinking society’s expectations and missing what’s actually going on in his own relationship?
Then we hear from a woman with a difficult dilemma:She overheard something serious about her friend’s marriage—infidelity. 💔
The friend knows what’s happening in her marriage, but she hasn’t shared it directly.So now, the question is:Do you bring it up? Or do you stay quiet and show support another way?
Glen and Yvette weigh in on why some people stay silent about their pain, and how to be a safe, steady friend—even when you know something you weren’t meant to hear. 🧏🏾♀️
Episode 246 is now live—watch and join us in the comments:What would you do if you knew something about your friend’s marriage…but they didn’t tell you themselves? 👇🏾
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What do you do when your marriage feels like your biggest regret? 😔
This week, we hear from a husband who’s at his breaking point.
He says he can’t be himself around his wife.
He loves her, but he doesn’t like her—and after years of deception, emotional distance, and barely any intimacy, he’s not sure there’s anything left to fight for.
She's told some big time lies about about finances and debt.
They have major differences in parenting styles.
They’ve had sex a handful of times in five years.
They've tried counseling, but she barely shows up to the process.
Now he’s wondering: Is she just waiting on me to walk away?
In this episode:
💔 We reflect on the difficulty of marriage
🙅🏾♀️ Yvette shares moments when she was ready to walk away
🧩 We talk about what to do when the going gets tough
🙏🏾 Plus, a call to prayer when your home feels like it’s falling apart
This one’s honest, painful, and powerful for anyone navigating relationship regret, communication issues, or spiritual disconnection in marriage.
Watch now and join the conversation in the comments:
Have you ever felt like giving up on your relationship?
What helped you hold on—or helped you let go? 👇🏾
What if your family background feels like something you’ve had to escape—like you came from bad cloth—and now you’re trying to build a life from something new? 🧵
That’s the story behind this week’s email—from a man who cut ties with his manipulative, chaotic family and is now dating a woman whose family seems to have it all together.
Respectable. Traditional. “Good cloth.”
But the longer he’s around them, the more he notices the snags.
Microaggressions. Anti-Black comments. Quiet superiority.
Now he’s asking:
How do I protect my future family from this too?
In this episode:
✂️ Glenn opens up about drawing hard lines with his own family
💬 Yvette reflects on coming from a “cleaner cloth”—and what still gets revealed over time
🛑 We talk about boundaries, bias, and how to protect the culture of your home
📍Plus, advice for having real conversations with your partner’s family—even if you’re not married yet
This one is vulnerable, honest, and deeply relevant if you’re thinking about what you want to pass on… and what has to stop with you.
Watch now and join us in the comments:
Where have you had to draw the line with family?
And what do you want to protect your kids from—no matter who it comes from? 👇🏾
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“My man only brushes his teeth once a week… and still wanna kiss me in the mouth?!” 😩🪥
This listener wrote in with a situation that had us both shook—and honestly?
Sis, you’re not asking for too much.
She’s pregnant 🤰🏾, in PJs most days, not feeling her cutest—and her husband is still calling her beautiful and trying to love on her real close.
The only problem? His breath is breathin’. 💨👃🏽
She’s brought it up, but he says brushing isn’t his focus right now. He’s thinking about bills, baby prep, and just trying to make it through.
But affection without hygiene? That’s a tough love language to translate.
In Episode 239, we talk about:
🗣️ When the “little things” feel big
🧼 Why personal care isn’t shallow—it’s sacred
💞 How to hold space for your spouse and still speak your trut
😤 Navigating love when the vibes ain't vibin'
🎥 Watch the full episode to hear our take—and why we think she’s more than fair for bringing it up.
Comment below:What’s one “small” thing in your relationship that turned into a BIG conversation?
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This week’s email hits deep. A wife writes in, asking for advice on how to encourage her husband to go to therapy to address childhood trauma. But he’s resistant—and it’s not just personal… it’s cultural. 🌍🧠
Glen & Yvette open up about the stigma around therapy in Caribbean communities and how that resistance can impact marriages, healing, and connection. 🇯🇲💬
They also get real about their own journey with therapy—what helped, what hurt, and how they’ve learned to show up for each other while doing the work.
If you’ve ever wrestled with therapy, felt stuck trying to support a partner, or wondered how your upbringing shapes your healing process—this one’s for you.
Tap in, listen close, and join the conversation. 👂🏾💭
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Have you or your spouse ever resisted therapy? What helped shift the perspective?
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Sisters. Podcasts. Beef. And… a flying water bottle?! 🥴💥
This week, we’re diving into a wild email from a listener caught in some serious sister drama. Two sisters started a podcast together, but when one decided she was done, things got messy.
👉🏾 One sister wanted control.
👉🏾 The other was tired of being told what to do.
👉🏾 Then came the accusations—flaky, bossy, better-than-you vibes.
👉🏾 And yes, a water bottle got thrown (missed, but still…).
Now, the sister writing in wants to make things right, but everyone else seems ready to just move on like it didn't happen. So what do you do when the people you love don’t wanna deal with the real issues?
Tap in to hear our take, and let us know what you’d do in her shoes.
🎧 Watch Episode 242 now.
📝 Drop a comment with your thoughts.
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Are all the husbands out here flopping… or are we just not hearing the whole story? 🤔💭
In this episode, we read another email from a wife who’s had it. Her man’s doing the bare minimum, communication is a mess, and she’s at her breaking point. But after reading a bunch of emails like this lately, we had to pause and ask: Is it really always the man? Or are we missing something?
We talk about how easy it is to misjudge a whole situation when you’ve only got one side, and we get real about some of our own relationship moments where both people thought they were right—but nobody was actually hearing each other.
Tap in for the conversation, stay for the callout—we need more men to speak up and share their side. ✍🏽👂🏾
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Sometimes you gotta move to find your peace. 🏡✨
Last year? Whew. It was a whole lot.
We moved out to the farm thinking it was gonna be this beautiful new chapter for our family… and listen — some of it was. 🌻 But some of it? Straight up survival mode. 💀Fast forward to now — we’re in Fallbrook.
And it finally feels like home. 🖤🌴
We’re breathing different. Living different. Smiling different.
God really knows how to set you up when you trust Him with the whole story. 🙏🏾
Thanks for rocking with us through all the ups and downs.
This next chapter? We ready. 🏁
Drop a comment and tell us — what’s a season you thought would go one way but ended up growing you in a way you never expected? We’d love to hear your story. 🖤
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He gave up his best friend for love… but was it worth it? 💍💔And what do you do when marriage hits hard just four months in? 😬
In this episode, we’re diving into two real-life relationship updates that had us both nodding... and hollering. 😭😂
First up: remember the fiancé who asked her man to choose between her and his female best friend? 👀 Well—he called back with an update.Spoiler: there's a wedding date on the books 💒... but was the friendship loss worth it?
Then, we hear from a newlywed who’s four months into marriage and struggling.They did all the prep—counseling, mentorship, community—but real life ain’t reading like the workbook. 📖💥Now she’s wondering: did I marry the wrong man? Or is this just part of the process?
We’re sharing the truth about what Year One really felt like for us, what kept us going, and how to know when it’s time to press in—or possibly peace out.
Tune in for the real, the raw, and the reminders that choosing love takes work... but you’re not alone.
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What do you do when God is the one exposing the truth in your marriage? 😳💔
In Episode 237, we’re diving into one of the wildest calls we’ve received yet. A woman finds out her husband has a hidden child, a secret past, and no desire to tell the truth—so God starts revealing it in her dreams. 👀
We talk trust, spiritual red flags, emotional safety, and the power of redemption—even when it feels impossible. Plus, what do you do when you’re still in love with someone from your past? Whew. Let’s talk about it.
🎧 Tap in for real stories, real faith, and real conversations that just might hit you right where you are.
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