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Honey, We Need to Chat
Honey, We Need to Chat
90 episodes
1 day ago
Honey, We Need to Chat is the podcast for couples who want to fight less, connect more, and actually enjoy talking again. We’re Amy and Blair, a real-life couple sharing honest conversations, relatable stories, and practical tools to help you navigate conflict, deepen communication, and build a relationship that feels good, not just looks good. We dive into wild Reddit threads, expert interviews, real-life coaching, and hard-earned lessons, offering fresh insights and actionable steps you can use today! Because when communication dies, bad things happen. So... let’s chat!
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Honey, We Need to Chat is the podcast for couples who want to fight less, connect more, and actually enjoy talking again. We’re Amy and Blair, a real-life couple sharing honest conversations, relatable stories, and practical tools to help you navigate conflict, deepen communication, and build a relationship that feels good, not just looks good. We dive into wild Reddit threads, expert interviews, real-life coaching, and hard-earned lessons, offering fresh insights and actionable steps you can use today! Because when communication dies, bad things happen. So... let’s chat!
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Honey, We Need to Chat
RE-RELEASE 3: Why Are So Many People Getting This Wrong? | Mental Load, Gaming Addictions & Shut-Down Partners

Welcome to our REWOUND RE-RELEASE Bonus Series. These are our TOP episodes ever, so we're bringing them back as bonus video episodes.

In one of our most-downloaded conversations, we dive into the heart of what’s really going wrong in so many relationships: uneven emotional labour, avoidant communication, and partners who shut down instead of stepping up. We explore Reddit stories and real listener write-ins that expose the silent struggles so many couples face — including weaponised incompetence, gaming addictions, messy house resentment, and painful mother-in-law dynamics.

💥 Inside this episode:• The real reason your partner shuts down — and what to do about it• Why “I'll try harder” isn’t enough (and how to hold them accountable without blame)• How to start hard conversations that actually lead to change• Mental load, stepfamily tensions, and feeling invisible in your own home• Is gaming harmless... or is it costing your connection?

This one’s honest, raw, and potentially life-changing — whether you're the one carrying the load, or the one ready to grow.

🔁 If you're new here: this is a rewind episode from the Honey, We Need to Chat archives — and it's worth every second.



Visit www.honeyweneedtochat for free check-in prompts, relationship reflection tools, and powerful starter phrases to reconnect with your partner.

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4 days ago
1 hour 15 minutes

Honey, We Need to Chat
RE-RELEASE 2: Why Won’t You Talk to Me? | Understanding Stonewalling, Avoidance & Emotional Shutdowns in Relationships

Welcome to our REWOUND RE-RELEASE Bonus Series. These are our TOP episodes ever, so we're bringing them back as bonus video episodes.


Does your partner shut down during conflict? Do conversations feel like hitting a brick wall, no matter how hard you try? You're not alone — and it's not hopeless.

In this powerful re-release of one of our most-shared episodes, we explore what’s really going on when one partner stonewalls, shuts down, or avoids hard conversations. We break down the psychology behind it, how to know if it's actually stonewalling (spoiler: it’s not always what you think), and what to do when the person you love just… won’t talk.

You'll hear:

  • An honest audio submission from a listener wrestling with this dynamic after 13 years of marriage

  • Real Reddit stories unpacking both sides of the silence

  • Personal stories from our own relationship (including a toilet disaster 🙈)

  • How to stop repeating this pattern — even if your partner won’t engage

We also cover Gottman’s Four Horsemen, healthy vs manipulative silence, and what actually helps you reconnect and repair. Whether you’re the one shutting down or the one left hanging, this episode will help you move forward with empathy, self-awareness, and actionable tools.

🛠️ Plus: Why defensiveness, shame, and stress might be the real culprits — and how to change the cycle before it breaks your bond.


Visit www.honeyweneedtochat for free check-in prompts, relationship reflection tools, and powerful starter phrases to reconnect with your partner.

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4 days ago
1 hour 9 minutes 3 seconds

Honey, We Need to Chat
RE-RELEASE 1: Thought I Was Helping! Why Strong Couples Still Miss the Mental Load

Welcome to our REWOUND RE-RELEASE Bonus Series. These are our TOP episodes ever, so we're bringing them back as bonus video episodes.

Ever thought, "But I am helping!" — and still ended up in a fight?
This episode is for every couple who’s ever tripped over the invisible burden of mental load.

In this top re-release from Honey, We Need to Chat, we dive into the subtle but powerful dynamics that can derail even well-intentioned partners. Amy shares what mental load actually looks like (hint: it’s not just housework), and Blair reflects on what it felt like to realise he was missing it — despite thinking he was doing the right thing.

We talk about:

  • Why mental load feels so heavy (and so unseen)

  • How good guys can still miss the mark

  • Real scripts for starting a conversation without shame or blame

  • The invisible work of parenting, household management, and emotional planning

  • How to share the load without turning it into a scoreboard

Whether you’re the one carrying too much or just starting to notice the weight, this one’s worth a listen — and a share with your partner.

👉 If you’ve ever heard “just let me know how to help”… this is the episode.




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4 days ago
55 minutes 56 seconds

Honey, We Need to Chat
58: How to Future-Proof Your Relationship (Before the Cracks Break You)

Struggling with miscommunication, built-up resentment, or avoided conversations in your relationship?

In this episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, Amy and Blair unpack what it really means to future-proof your relationship, before emotional triggers, sarcasm, or misaligned expectations quietly wear it down.

We talk:💔 The subtle cracks that break couples, and how to spot them early🎯 Why strong couples still struggle with communication, tone, and emotional triggers🛠️ How to build a relationship that bends (not breaks) under stress
💬 What to do when you feel “off” but don’t know how to start the conversation
🔄 Tools like emotional check-ins, micro-repairs, and curiosity over assumption

Whether you’re the one noticing the cracks or just want to show up better in love, this is your relationship reset point.

Visit www.honeyweneedtochat for free check-in prompts, relationship reflection tools, and powerful starter phrases to reconnect with your partner.



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4 days ago
55 minutes 49 seconds

Honey, We Need to Chat
57. Oops, That Came Out Wrong | Repairing Hurtful Comments in Relationships. Reddit Stories

Ever blurted something out and instantly regretted it? Whether it's sarcasm, body image comments, or unspoken assumptions, clumsy conversations happen in every relationship. In this episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, Amy and Blair dive into the messy aftermath of words that land wrong, even when you didn’t mean it that way.

Using real Reddit stories, they explore what causes these misfires, how emotional baggage and burnout play a role, and what practical tools couples can use to repair and reconnect. From accidental “fat” comments to misreading your partner’s mood, this episode tackles the real-life communication traps couples fall into, and how to come out stronger.

🎙️ Inside the episode:

  • When your words don’t match your intention

  • How exhaustion & past experiences fuel misunderstandings

  • What to do when you’ve triggered your partner

  • Repair tools and reset scripts that actually work

  • Why tone, timing, and trauma all matter in conflict

Whether you're the one who said the wrong thing or the one who felt it, this episode will leave you encouraged, equipped, and just a little more self-aware.


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1 week ago
45 minutes 45 seconds

Honey, We Need to Chat
56. Why Can't I Just Say It Right? How to Fix Clumsy Communication in Your Relationship

Ever find yourself saying, "That's not what I meant!" after a conversation spirals out of control? Or maybe your partner’s words always seem to come out wrong, sparking frustration instead of connection.

In this practical episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we're tackling how to overcome clumsy communication, decode mixed messages, and finally say what you mean, clearly and constructively.

From navigating nervous system reactions and emotional overwhelm to mastering practical conversation starters, you’ll gain the tools you need to break unhealthy communication patterns and rebuild clarity and intimacy.

Perfect for anyone exhausted by misunderstanding, miscommunication, or constant relationship tension.

✨ In this episode, learn how to:

  • Understand why your nervous system sabotages clear communication

    • Practise simple scripts to clarify your intentions and soften tough conversations
    • Move past defensiveness and assumptions for better understanding

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    2 weeks ago
    42 minutes 20 seconds

    Honey, We Need to Chat
    55. How to Navigate Painful Conversations in Relationships

    Struggling with blunt comments, sarcastic jabs, or misunderstood intentions in your relationship?

    This episode of Honey, We Need to Chat cuts straight to practical tools and honest insights to decode hidden messages, manage emotional triggers, and navigate tough conversations effectively.

    Break negative patterns and reconnect with your partner. Perfect for couples ready for clear, constructive communication.


    ✨ In this episode:

    • How emotional triggers affect your reactions

    • Tips to decode hidden meanings behind harsh words

    • Tools to break negative communication cycles


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    3 weeks ago
    49 minutes 27 seconds

    Honey, We Need to Chat
    54: Mental Load from the Other Side: What the “Receiver” is Really Thinking | REDDIT STORIES

    In this eye-opening episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, Amy and Blair dive deep into the other side of the mental load conversation, exploring what it might feel like to be the partner on the receiving end, from real life stories.


    Are they really ignoring the invisible labour… or just overwhelmed in their own way?


    Featuring real Reddit stories and brutally honest forum comments, this episode unpacks emotional labour, communication breakdowns, unspoken contracts, resentment, parenting stress, and gender dynamics in relationships.
    Whether you're the one carrying the mental load or the one being asked to step up, this episode will stretch your understanding and help you navigate these tensions with more curiosity, compassion, and clarity.

    📌 Topics Covered:
    • What is mental load, really?
    • Why your partner might shut down or seem defensive
    • The myth of 50/50 mental labour
    • “Optional martyrdom” and emotional overfunctioning
    • How to build mental load literacy in your relationship

    🔁 Don’t forget to listen to our original episode on Mental Load for foundational context!




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    1 month ago
    45 minutes 23 seconds

    Honey, We Need to Chat
    53. When Mental Load Leads to a Stand-Off | How to Move Forward When Your Partner Shuts Down

    You finally brought up the mental load. You found the words. You mustered the courage. And then… nothing. Maybe they shut down. Maybe they pushed back. Maybe the conversation just fell flat.

    In this powerful follow-up to our original Mental Load episode, we unpack what happens when that invisible labour finally gets named, but the conversation doesn’t land.

    Whether you're met with defensiveness, silence, or a flat-out dismissal, this episode walks you through what to do when your partner isn’t ready to engage.

    We cover:

    • What mental load really is (and how it differs from task load)

    • Why your partner might resist or shut down the conversation

    • How to zoom out and see the bigger system at play

    • Practical tools to move forward—even if you're carrying it alone for now

    This isn’t about blame. It’s about building bridges, one small shift at a time. If you’ve ever said “I’ve tried to talk about it… but nothing changes,” this one’s for you.


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    1 month ago
    56 minutes 9 seconds

    Honey, We Need to Chat
    52: The Silent Thing Ruining Your Relationship: Unbearable Feelings and What to Do About Them

    What’s the feeling you can’t even name, let alone share?

    In this episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we’re diving deep into the emotional undercurrents that silently shape our reactions, create disconnection, and quietly erode intimacy.


    We explore the concept of unbearable feelings, those overwhelming emotions like shame, hyper-responsibility, fear of being too much or not enough, and how they manifest in relationships through bottling, numbing, stonewalling, over-functioning, and explosive reactions.

    We get raw about their own patterns, childhood roots, and the real-life impact these invisible feelings have on communication, parenting, and connection.

    With practical questions, examples, and a free downloadable resource to help you identify your own hidden emotional drivers, this is an episode you’ll want to reflect on, revisit, and share with your partner.

    🎧 Whether you’re curious about emotional intimacy, want to communicate better, or just feel stuck in unhealthy patterns, this conversation will give you tools and language to move forward- together.




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    1 month ago
    44 minutes 11 seconds

    Honey, We Need to Chat
    51: Why You Keep Missing Each Other in Conflict (and How to Change It) with Sam & Liv Ramsden from Silly Stories for Kids

    Ever feel like you're speaking two different languages in your marriage? Or wonder why your partner shuts down when you bring something up?

    We sat down with Sam and Liv Ramsden (aka Mr. & Mrs. Silly Stories for Kids) to explore what really goes on under the surface when we miss each other in conflict. This one’s packed with honest conversation, real-life tools, and the kind of grace that keeps a marriage grounded.

    We talk about:

    • Why emotional wiring matters in conflict

    • How to study your partner instead of fixing them

    • Staying on the same team (even when you clash)

    • Parenting, overstimulation, and emotional repair

    • What really holds a marriage together behind the chaos of raising kids and building a podcast

    If you’re in a season of disconnect or just want to grow your communication muscle, this episode will meet you where you’re at.

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    You can connect with Sam & Silly Stories for Kids:

    • Anywhere you get your podcasts
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    • www.sillystoriesforkids.com
    • Instagram - @sillystoriesforkids

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    1 month ago
    1 hour 17 seconds

    Honey, We Need to Chat
    50: Unspoken Contracts in Relationships: How Hidden Rules Create Disconnection & Resentment

    In this revealing episode, we dive into the powerful concept of unspoken contracts - the invisible rules and assumptions quietly shaping your relationship. From mental load to emotional shutdown, financial habits to intimacy dynamics, we’ll help you uncover the hidden systems that might be leaving you feeling stuck, resentful, or disconnected.


    Through relatable real-life examples, Amy and Blair show you how to identify these silent agreements, why they form, and how to transform them into intentional, balanced partnerships.

    🎧 Listen for practical tools to:

    • Recognise default patterns that may be sabotaging connection.

    • Understand unmet needs and how they create resentment.

    • Shift from blame and frustration to curiosity and teamwork.

    • Rebuild communication and intimacy by bringing these hidden contracts into the open.

    Whether you’re feeling distant in your marriage, struggling with mental load, or just wanting to communicate better, this episode will empower you to take back clarity, balance, and connection.

    ******


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    ____________________


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    2 months ago
    45 minutes 33 seconds

    Honey, We Need to Chat
    49. Scorekeeping in Relationships: How to Stop Tallying and Start Connecting | REDDIT STORIES

    Welcome to Honey, We Need to Chat, where we dig deep into the real struggles couples face, from silent resentment to those tricky conversations that can make or break a relationship.


    In this episode, we uncover the hidden habit of scorekeeping in relationships, what it is, why it happens, and how to stop it. Whether you’re feeling unseen, unheard, or just overwhelmed, we’ll share practical tools to break the pattern of resentment, rebuild trust, and create healthier communication.



    🎧 Listen on Spotify, Apple, or wherever you get your podcasts.

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    2 months ago
    46 minutes 56 seconds

    Honey, We Need to Chat
    48. What’s Driving You? Understanding the 6 Core Needs Behind Your Relationship Patterns

    Ever wonder why you react the way you do in conflict, or why certain habits feel impossible to break?

    In this episode, Blair gets coached live by Amy using the “Six Core Human Needs” framework to explore what truly drives our behaviour in relationships. From control issues to chasing dopamine hits, we unpack how unmet needs shape our communication, emotions, and connection.

    Whether you’re craving more balance, peace, or clarity in your relationship, this episode offers real-time insight, vulnerability, and practical tools to shift stuck patterns. Tune in and discover what’s driving you.

    ➡️ Book a Free Clarity Session with Amy!

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    2 months ago
    46 minutes 15 seconds

    Honey, We Need to Chat
    47. Unmet Needs in Relationships: Why You’re Arguing About the Wrong Thing | REDDIT STORIES

    Why do the smallest things trigger the biggest arguments? In this episode, we unpack the sneaky, subtle unmet needs that quietly shape our relationship dynamics, often without us realising it. From rejected dinners to phone use tensions and dead bedrooms, we explore real Reddit stories that show how core emotional needs go unspoken and how that misfires into conflict.

    You'll learn:

    • What unmet needs really are (and why they’re so sneaky)

    • Common signs you’re missing each other emotionally

    • Why assumptions and silence create deeper disconnect

    • Practical tools to communicate needs without drama

    • How to spot patterns and build healthier habits together

    💬 Whether you’re feeling disconnected or want to avoid drifting apart, this episode gives you relatable insight and practical tools to tackle the root - not just the symptoms - of tension.

    🎧 Listen on Spotify, Apple, or wherever you get your podcasts.
    📺 Watch on YouTube
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    2 months ago
    52 minutes 10 seconds

    Honey, We Need to Chat
    46. Why We Pull Away (or Cling Closer): Attachment Styles in Real-Life Relationships | Chit-Chat

    Feel like you and your partner keep missing each other emotionally? Do you shut down when things get tense or over-explain to get back on the same page? In this episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we unpack how attachment styles shape the way couples communicate, fight, and try to reconnect.

    We break down the three main attachment styles (secure, anxious, and avoidant) where they come from, and how they play out in everyday moments (like text message tone, stonewalling, or needing constant reassurance). Plus, we share our own journey of shifting out of old patterns and building a more secure connection over time.

    Whether you're married, dating, or just reflecting on your emotional habits, this conversation will help you put language to your patterns and start healing the cycle.

    🧠 Topics covered:

    • What attachment styles actually are (and where they come from)

    • Signs of anxious vs. avoidant vs. secure behaviour

    • Real-life examples of these dynamics in marriage

    • How to begin healing patterns and move toward secure connection

    • A practical “Reality Check Corner” with reflective prompts


    🎧 Important links:

    Want more on Attachment Styles? Download your free worksheet and conversation starter kit on attachment styles at honeyweneedtochat.com/free-relationship-resources

    Come see Amy in Come From Away! ➡️ alburyentertainmentcentre.com.au/whatson/come-from-away

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    🔗Listen now: Anywhere you find your podcasts!

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    2 months ago
    41 minutes 16 seconds

    Honey, We Need to Chat
    45. Getting on the Same Financial Page as a Couple | Money and Marriage with Phil and Kate Thompson

    Money stress can quietly erode trust in a relationship, but it doesn't have to. In this episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we sit down with our friends Phil and Kate Thompson to share real-life lessons about navigating finances as a team.


    From starting marriage with nothing to building a business and raising a family, they open up about what worked, what didn't, and what they wish more couples knew earlier.


    We talk about why financial transparency matters, how to set shared goals, and how to balance ambition with contentment. Whether you're saving, budgeting, investing, or just trying to survive a mortgage, we’re sharing practical tools, honest stories, and encouragement to help you build a financial foundation that strengthens your connection.

    If you're keen to connect with Phil's work further, you can find him at https://www.skye.com.au/


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    3 months ago
    46 minutes 32 seconds

    Honey, We Need to Chat
    44: How the Silent Treatment Damages Relationships (and What to Do Instead) | REDDIT STORIES

    The silent treatment might seem like a quiet moment to cool off—but we’ve seen how it can loudly erode trust, create emotional distance, and chip away at connection over time.

    In this episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we’re diving into the real cost of the silent treatment in relationships. We talk about why people withdraw, what’s actually happening in your brain during emotional shutdown, and how silence can unintentionally become a power play. With personal stories, wild Reddit relationship drama, and tools we love (shoutout to the Gottman Four Horsemen), we’re unpacking how silence can become damaging—and what healthier communication really looks like.

    Whether you’re the one who shuts down, or the one left feeling confused and alone, this conversation brings empathy, perspective, and simple, realistic ways to reconnect. And make sure you stick around for the Reality Check Corner, where we share a practical challenge and a powerful visualisation to help you show up in your relationship the way you actually want to.


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    3 months ago
    45 minutes 13 seconds

    Honey, We Need to Chat
    43: Chit-Chat: Burnout in Relationships: How to Recognise the Signs & Support Each Other Through It

    In this raw and honest episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we dive into one of the most misunderstood yet widespread relationship challenges, burnout. Whether you’re the one feeling physically, emotionally, or mentally drained, or you're supporting a partner through exhaustion, this episode will resonate deeply.

    We unpack what burnout actually looks like in a relationship, the cultural lies that normalise overwhelm, and the signs you might be missing until it’s too late. From real stories of personal burnout, to practical strategies for prevention and recovery, this episode is filled with relatable insight, vulnerability, and actionable tools.

    Tune in to learn:

    • The subtle signs of burnout you shouldn’t ignore

    • How to navigate burnout in marriage or partnership

    • Practical tools to rebalance when you're already running on empty

    • The emotional aftermath of supporting someone in burnout

    • Why cultural “busyness” is breaking our connections

    Whether you’re in burnout, on the edge, or just want to build healthier rhythms—you’ll leave feeling seen, equipped, and empowered.

    🎧 Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, YouTube, and everywhere you stream.
    💬 Let us know your thoughts and share this with someone who needs it.


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    3 months ago
    48 minutes 27 seconds

    Honey, We Need to Chat
    42: Talking About Marriage While in the Thick of it: A Candid Conversation with Andrew & Kayte Kitchen

    This powerful episode of Honey, We Need to Chat welcomes Andrew and Kayte Kitchen (creatives, therapists, and real-life warriors) into a vulnerable and deeply encouraging conversation.

    What makes this episode especially moving is that they didn’t wait until things were resolved to speak. Andrew and Kayte joined us while still walking through a hard season in their marriage and work life, a rare and courageous choice that sets the tone for something truly real.

    Together, we explore what it means to communicate during seasons of exhaustion, loss, and inner transformation. Expect insights on navigating marriage in hard times, how Sabbath rest can restore your soul, the role of active listening in healing communication, and how deconstructing ego creates space for authentic connection.

    If you've ever questioned your worth, struggled to feel heard in your relationship, or wondered how to slow down in a nonstop world, this episode is for you. Plus, Andrew’s take on protecting creativity from the digital world will stick with you for days.

    You can connect with Andrew at sparrowcollective.com.au and with Kayte at admirari.com.au.


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    3 months ago
    59 minutes 38 seconds

    Honey, We Need to Chat
    Honey, We Need to Chat is the podcast for couples who want to fight less, connect more, and actually enjoy talking again. We’re Amy and Blair, a real-life couple sharing honest conversations, relatable stories, and practical tools to help you navigate conflict, deepen communication, and build a relationship that feels good, not just looks good. We dive into wild Reddit threads, expert interviews, real-life coaching, and hard-earned lessons, offering fresh insights and actionable steps you can use today! Because when communication dies, bad things happen. So... let’s chat!