Connection is a reflection of the self: who we are and who we are becoming. But what even is the self? Does it exist outside of our relationships? Both psychology and philosophy have some hot takes, including important notes on agency, recognition, and expansion.
Maybe it's a little less about "do I like them" and a little more about "do I like who I am when I'm with them."
Show Notes:
00:00 Welcome to Hint of Trauma
01:19: What this podcast is about
02:29 Who am I without you?
03:00 The self vs the relational self
05:25 Lacan and the mirror stage
07:46 The self is fixed?
08:12 Post-modernism and the changing self
09:53 Stop throwing around the word codependency
10:27 What is the relational field
12:47 The responsibility to the Other
13:07 Why relational shifts feel threatening to selfhood
14:24 The beauty in the breakup: Byung Chul Han on grief
16:43 Who do I become around you?
17:45 Dan McAdams and Narrative Identity
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