Contact Helping.Mom (we don’t spam) Questions every caregiver asks vs ONE we should ask  How long is it going to last?  What is the impact of this upon me—my ____?  What changes do I need to make to ___?  Do we have enough money?  Can I do this? What if my CR ___falls, gets sick, vomits, loses mind, gets worse, becomes violent? Am I going to have to change her diapers? (Or other awful fear)  HOW awful (not is) is this going to be?  Will anyone help me?   Will we have to put into nursing home?  How do govt programs & insurance work?  Where do I go for help?  Who do I ask? Should I tell my friends? Kids?  Will my mom suffer dementia?  Why me?  Why is this so difficult? Can any good come out of this? What if i die first?  Can I do this? SEV  times  The BEST question we can ask instead: What should I do today, right now, to maximize the quality of life for my CR--within the context of all other factors?  Please share your ideas to Info@helping.mom