In this deeply honest and compassionate episode, Betrayal Trauma Coach, Therapist and Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT) Adam Nisenson shares his personal journey through the heartbreak of being betrayed by his wife—and how that experience transformed both his life and his work. Now the founder of betrayalshrink.com, Adam offers vital support and resources for men navigating the aftermath of infidelity. We explore the raw realities of male betrayal trauma, the often-overlooked emotional toll it takes, and how men can begin to reclaim their sense of self and safety. Adam also discusses his powerful book, A Man’s Guide to Partner Betrayal: Overcoming the Pain & Repercussions of a Cheating Partner, offering practical guidance and insight for those ready to begin healing. This conversation is a lifeline for anyone walking the lonely road of betrayal—and a testament to the resilience of the human heart. Check out Adam’s book- https://a.co/d/fdk7BMI Take the MBT (Masculine Betrayal Trauma) Recovery Assessment https://www.betrayalshrink.com/mbt-assesment

In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie talks to Joanna (marriage and family therapist) and Matthew (relationship coach) Raabsmith about their story of betrayal and recovery. Joanna and Matthew share how hard work, fierce commitment and the principles outlined in their book “The Intimacy Pyramid” created the foundation necessary for healing their marriage and relational transformation. Buy their book here: https://www.amazon.com/Building-True-Intimacy-Creating-connection/dp/B0C2RX95WN Together, they lead their private practice, The Raabsmith Team.

In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal Podcast, Marnie talks with Deb Kaplan, licensed therapist, CSAT and former Wall Street career woman, about money - a topic often dismissed or neglected entirely when helping couples heal from the traumatic impact of betrayal. In this rich (no pun intended) conversation, Marnie and Deb explore the financial impacts of betrayal and discuss the process of building trust around money and creating emotional and financial intimacy.

In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie talks with Gary Katz, LCSW and CSAT about the complex dynamics surrounding infidelity, pornography and betrayal that impact sexuality and intimacy. If you are struggling with sexual and intimacy-related issues after betrayal, including desire, safety, rejection and arousal, this episode will offer clarity and compassion and and opportunity to begin to explore the complexity of sexual and relational healing.

In this intimate and powerful episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie talks with Brett Rankin, son of HCH Betrayal Trauma Coaches Susan and Scott Rankin, who vulnerably and courageously shared their story of relational betrayal on the podcast in August of 2024. In this candid conversation, Brett reflects for the first time publicly on his experience navigating life after the discovery of his father’s addiction when he was 18 years old. He opens up about the emotional impacts of betrayal on himself, his role in supporting his younger sister and and his relationship with both of his parents throughout their separation and healing. He reflects on the healing process, finding resilience, and the steps he's taken toward forgiveness and personal growth. This episode offers a rare and deeply human perspective on the ripple effects of sex addiction on families and the strength it takes to find hope and healing in the aftermath. Whether you're on a similar journey or simply seeking insight into complex family dynamics, this conversation is both eye-opening and inspiring.

In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie talks with Dr. Kevin Skinner about gaslighting and abuse in the context of betrayal trauma. Together, they explore how psychological abuse and gaslighting impacts betrayed partners and creates a significant barrier to relational healing and emotional intimacy. While an incredibly painful topic that can also trigger immense shame and a host of other difficult emotions, turning towards the reality of abuse is the only way to heal.

This week I decided to re-release an old podcast episode from 2019 when me and Duane first interviewed Dr. Omar Minwalla. In this interview, we talk to Dr. Omar Minwalla about the compulsive abusive sexual relational disorder model and how the model has changed the way we view deceptive sexuality and approach treatment. Since the time of this interview, Dr. Minwalla has expanded his model to include terms such as compulsive entitled sexuality and integrity abuse and I decided to re-introduce this initial interview to provide some context and understanding of where we are now and how we got here. The model referred to in this episode is an integral part of the Helping Couples Heal poly-theoretical approach to treating betrayal trauma.

In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Ilyse dive into the profound impact betrayal has on self-trust, exploring how infidelity and sex addiction can leave betrayed partners questioning their intuition, worth, and decision-making abilities. Together, they unpack the ways betrayal damages one’s ability to trust oneself and share actionable steps towards empowerment and self-trust. With empathy and expertise, they offer a compassionate guide to help listeners reconnect with their inner strength, rebuild confidence, and find their way back to themselves. Whether you’re navigating betrayal personally or supporting someone who is, this episode provides invaluable tools for healing.

This week I decided to re-release an episode from April 2023 when Duane and I interviewed Ted Bunch, the COO and co-Founder of A Call to Men. Recently Helping Couples Heal has been focusing a great deal of attention on the topic of male socialization and male sexual entitlement. This interview with Ted provides an opportunity to further the conversation and facilitate a deep dive into the unhealthy psychology that fuels sex addiction and betrayal.

In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie talks about the importance of consistency in healing from betrayal. keeper. Marnie candidly and directly guides both betrayed partners and betrayers to develop an understanding of what consistently means in the context of betrayal and how the role consistently plays in helping couples heal.

In our last episode, Marnie talked about how to move forward after betrayal with a partner who refuses to provide safety, reassurance, consistency and active participation in the healing process. In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Ilyse continue the conversation, this time turning the focus to the betraying partner. Just as the betrayed partner has important life altering decisions to make, so does the person who caused the relational destruction. These decisions must be navigated in the spirit of a fierce commitment to truth and reality, both elements which were non-existent for the betrayed partner prior to discovery. While both partners have difficult decisions to make in the aftermath of betrayal, the discussion of the betraying partner in this context is often neglected or dismissed. In this candid discussion, Marnie and Ilyse explore some hard questions including how can the betrayer even consider leaving a relationship after years of betrayal and deception and under what circumstances could it be the kindest and most honoring of the betrayed partner to make the decision to leave.

In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie talks about the pain and confusion that arises for couples when one partner is not doing the work to heal. She gently and compassionately addresses the hard truth that nobody can force another person to do recovery work, demonstrate empathy, tell the truth, change and/or heal. Using the metaphor of a bridge, we will explore the frustration and grief that accompanies the healing process, specifically when one partner isn't willing or able to cross the bridge together.

In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie talks to HCH coaches Susan and Scott Rankin, a husband and wife with their own story of relational betrayal and healing. Susan and Scott vulnerably share their journey of healing and rebuilding their relationship and open up about the painful impact the addiction had on their lives and their relationship and the path that led them back to themselves and each other. Listeners will hear about the pivotal moments in their recovery journey, including the decision to seek therapy, the role of honesty and vulnerability, and the long, challenging process of rebuilding trust. Susan and Scott share the tools and resources that helped them, the support systems they leaned on, and the personal growth they each experienced. This episode offers a powerful message of hope for anyone facing similar challenges, highlighting the possibility of healing and resilience even after the deepest wounds. Whether you're dealing with betrayal in your own life or simply seeking to understand the complexities of addiction and recovery in relationships, this conversation provides valuable insights and inspiration.