My Resilient Ride Along client’s boyfriend told her, “I want to see you more.” Is there anything better than this as a first responder or military spouse? Deputy wife, you know what I’m talking about. Time with your partner is precious and sometimes hard to come by in this life. Here’s how to get more time with your partner.
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I’m responding to a couple questions I’ve received about being a strong woman and being married to a police officer. This one got me on a gratitude rant, but also I wanted to show you how I am a working mom with a police husband who supports me and my dreams too. You can have it all. Cheers to being “already there” with me. You’ll understand more after you listen.
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In this episode, I take you through a typical day in the life of a metro police officer to gain empathy for why your routines and communication need to look differently than a traditional 9-5 marriage. This episode shouldn’t be listened to with children present.
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You’re “shoulding” on your marriage or relationship as a police wife, deputy wife, fire wife, or veteran wife and it’s hurting your marriage. Open your eyes to a redefined relationship where you see yourself holding a special role in society. This is where a strong, safe relationship lies.
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So you hear that police are arrogant? I’m so excited to share this episode with you. It’s a mic drop situation and I know it’ll shift your perspective about police.
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You’ve been told marriage advice like “don’t go to bed angry,” but as a first responder or military wife, that would mean not going to sleep til 3am after your police husband gets home from night shift or never sleeping while your firefighter spouse or military spouse is deployed. Or, it might mean that you text your husband your deepest, darkest angry feelings while he’s on duty at a dead body call as a deputy wife. Your husband isn’t biologically available to actively listen to you. You need a new method. I share how my Assertive Trauma Informed Communication method has helped me as a police wife and my client to feel heard and supported.
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This is one of the hardest moment to deal with. It’s one thing for us to work through our own emotions as a police wife, firefighter wife, or military wife, but it’s another to console your child who misses their Dad. I share three practical takeaways you can apply in those moments in this episode.
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I share two stories that will inspire you as a police wife, firefighter wife, or military wife or girlfriend. One is all about how use curiosity instead of assumption to get to know your partner and become the person your partner can trust. The second is a relatable, funny story you’re going to love.
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You think that your resentment is because you feel like your partner is never home or you can’t seem to find time together. In reality, what I’ve seen in coaching over 50 police wives, deputy wives, firefighter wives, and/or military wives this year alone, is that there is a root to uncover that is causing your resentment. Once you address the root cause, the resentment drifts away. I’m so excited for you to get to the root of the issue and welcome in peace.
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We just got back from a two week vacation to Cape Charles, Virginia. Early on in our police marriage, never did I imagine my husband would ever take this much time off. How did we get here and how can you use these two strategies to have more time with your partner as a police wife, firefighter wife, deputy wife, paramedic wife, or military wife or girlfriend? I got you.
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As a police wife, firefighter wife, or military wife, being the default parent and solo parenting is often a major part of your role. After listening to this episode, I hope you feel empowered to advocate for your own self care and protect your peace.
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I share my police wife client’s story where she went from feeling like she had one foot in and one foot out of this life. I share what she did to fully embrace this life and feel like she and her husband could face whatever comes their way.
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This is what’s keeping you lonely- isolated and distant from your police, firefighter, military husband or boyfriend. And, I provide a clear way to improve your connection to your partner.
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My deputy K9 wife client went from feeling like time together with her husband was nearly impossible, especially because he was accepting optional overtime without talking to her first. If you’re a police wife, firefighter wife, military wife or girlfriend, this episode is for you. This is how she flipped their relationship upside down and got back to back dates with her husband.
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Ever feel like your partner’s workouts just take more time away from the family? I felt this way in the beginning of our marriage too as a police wife. I share how I overcame it and you can too.
Women have said that they began supporting their husband’s workouts and improved their own self care after reading my book and completing my Empowered Partner course.
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Feel like you’re butting heads with your police, firefighter, or military husband or boyfriend? You’re not on the same page about anything lately. You’re not sure he wants to be around you and your family. Work seems to be prioritized more than you and/or your family. This episode is for you to switch from a solo sport to playing on the same team again with your partner as a police wife, firefighter wife, veteran wife or girlfriend.
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An Instagram follower asked me, “How does your family dinner look?” She didn’t know just how passionate I am about the family dinner along with my police husband. But, our police family dinner looks different than others and so can yours. I provide ideas on the importance of family meals and how you can navigate them differently based on your partner’s shift as a police wife. Our family has dealt with night, swing, and day shifts.
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Ever feel like your partner is distant, but he won’t open up to you? You push him to talk, but instead of pulling him closer, you push him away. This skill my client learned she says always has him opening up to her when she uses it.
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My client found that her husband of many years was distant. She felt he was no longer sharing about his shift days with her like he used to. He wasn’t as physically affectionate as he was before he experienced a traumatic incident that pushed him over the edge. He wasn’t struggling emotionally and she was feeling like her needs weren’t met. Instead of drawing him closer, she was pushing him away when he pushed him to talk to her. In just 3 weeks of 1:1 coaching, my client used my 30 Day Gratitude Challenge and Assertive Trauma Informed Communication to feel close to her husband again. She was praying with gratitude to God for having the closeness she craved with her husband again.
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Dating a cop can be different. My client’s friends were telling her she wasn’t seeing him enough. She was questioning things and getting all up in her head. Sure, she didn’t see him as much as other people saw their boyfriends because he worked a ton of overtime, but he was there for her, loving, and kind when they were together. Through group coaching in my Resilient Ride Along program, she was able to use my Assertive Trauma Informed Communication method to ask for her desire to move in with her boyfriend and he met her in his excitement to do the same. Now, they’re looking for homes together.
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