Here’s another one of the dope Black podcasts we’ve had the pleasure of joining over the past few months. In this episode, we’re sharing our conversation with Dom L’Amour on The Black Man Talking Emotions Podcast, where we talked about how the messages we received as kids that may have kept us stuck, communication, and a number of the other unspoken hazes of life.
WHAT TO LISTEN FOR
The privilege of open communication [6:13]
Creating a safe space for your partner to communicate freely
Unlearning negative communication styles from childhood
Being able to show up in the world the way you want
Understanding our parents were also in survival mode and possibly didn’t have this privilege
How our mindset shapes our lives
Healing origin story and the need for change [14:29]
Learning to express our wants and desires early
Growing as a person separately while in a relationship
What real, mature relationship looks like
Learning communication as an adult
Breaking your own heart
Why communication is crucial to make relationships work [22:12]
Love language as a means to communicate
We can’t always assume that the other person knows what we want and need—it is our responsibility to tell them
Lack of awareness could sometimes hurt us
Open communication with children [29:05]
The dangers of shielding children from “adult” situations
Safe spaces for children to communicate
Exposure to real life/world situations and conversations
Being a “woke” adult with “soft, unaware” children
Breakthrough and reflection [37:42]
Stuck places from childhood
Familial dynamics
Having the desire to be in tune with yourself
Conversations surrounding sex [38:57]
The birds and bees with your parents
Who talked to your about sex for the first time
Church purity culture
Everything about our behavior is based on our ‘why’ [50:52]
The importance of seeing people for who they really are
The why behind The Love Haze Podcast + our mission
RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE:
The Five Love Languages, book by Gary Chapman
Listen to Issues/Hold On, song by Teyana Taylor
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