We talk a lot about communication and boundaries for our personal lives, and a lot of those same principles can be applied to our professional relationships, too. Self-advocacy is universal, but it's also so personal, y'all. Join us as we unpack that.
WHAT TO LISTEN FOR:
Self-advocacy and setting boundaries in professional relationships [1:20]
Some leaders, especially people of color, seem unaware that they can advocate for themselves
Scott’s story of how he realized that he has the right to advocate for himself
Being a team player DOES NOT mean you can’t say no
Most organizations prioritize their interest over your well-being, so make sure to look out for yourself
Setting boundaries around your time to prioritize self-care and avoid burnout and overcommitting
Ways to set boundaries at work [17:37]
Clearly communicating your availability to protect and honor your time (e.g. putting a sign on your office door)
Remembering that people can overstep your boundaries only if you let it
Putting guardrails around how you spend your time (i.e.putting Slack notes to notify people of what you’re currently doing)
Setting goals with your team as a way to also respect their time
The haze of setting boundaries at work [21:15]
Some people struggle with understanding boundaries
Having conversations about setting boundaries could be difficult
Asserting boundaries can sometimes make you feel like you’re being mean
Setting boundaries with a peer could be manageable, but doing so with your superior can be hard
Having a “ruinous empathy” rather than offering to meet halfway
The fear of being replaced to prove your enoughness
Navigating the haze [43:44]
Getting the support that you need
Asserting your boundaries in a respectful way
Biggest lessons [45:06]
You can’t advocate for others if you can’t advocate for yourself
People will do what you allow them to do—it’s a disservice to both you and other person
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