Life is always out here doing what it wants to do, and there’s nothing we can really do about it. So what could it look like to accept that, to learn how to go with the flow, and grow through it, too? Join us as we process through it.
WHAT TO LISTEN FOR:
Life teaches us that it is NOT linear [3:42]
Our tendency to have our life planned chronologically
Life is not as easy as going from point A to point B to point C. You could be at any point, then have to go three steps back (how the world had to deal with COVID, for example)
How Shaté planned to marry at 25 but ended up getting married at 38
Our relationships and careers will never be linear—we’ll always experience pivots
Always choosing to follow your heart path
Giving people the freedom to just be becoming [12:07]
People are allowed to change career paths
Stop asking kids what they want to be when they grow up. They don’t know, even some adults don’t!
Learning doesn’t stop when we graduate. We should be habitual students of life.
Life is HARD. But if we learn to grow through
Why Scott hates the statement “learn to live life on life's terms”
Learning to appreciate every season [18:58]
If you keep on wishing for a different season, you’ll never appreciate the beauty of the current one
The haze of going with the flow [22:31]
It’s hard to see the silver lining when your sacrifices don’t give you the one thing that you want
Reframing our thinking could be a challenge
Navigating the haze [26:02]
It’s normal to feel hurt when things don’t go as planned, but don’t stay there
Looking for support to help you get through the tough times
Language matters!
Letting God take charge and do the rest (instead of fighting His will)
“Redefining what the fruit looks like”
“Trust and adjust” as a way to navigate the haze
Whatever we have, wherever we are, they’re all good enough for us to start
Biggest lessons around trusting the process [37:01]
Learning how to zoom out to see the bigger picture—this is how we can find a way to thrive in life
Being present and giving yourself the freedom to experience life as it is
RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE:
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