Life has been life-ing, y’all. And when we’re in seasons like this, it’s easier for our emotions to get the best of us. So in this episode, we’re talking through the value of holding onto your emotions even when everything else feels like it’s falling through the cracks.
WHAT TO LISTEN FOR:
Showing up in tough seasons [2:37]
What exactly is emotional regulation?
Finding the grade to regulate your emotions
How to have self-awareness
Growing through the difficulties
Being cool, calm, and collected under pressure
How you act differently when you’re tired
The key to having high EQ
Navigating emotions in the neurodivergence spectrum
Healing from “not enoughness” [14:24]
Understanding that we have different level of needs
Feeling that you are not enough could lead to shutting down others
Realizing that there is nothing wrong with pure, ra, and honest emotion— it just needs parameters
Whatever you feel, don’t let it control your emotion
Controlling your emotions, so they don't control you
The haze of regulating your emotions [18:21]
Being in autopilot you sometimes barely care about what other people might feel around you
Most people don’t realize that therapy is NOT healing; it merely allows you to harness your own healing
Thinking that a mistake or setback is an opportunity to learn is difficult
Being present in the moment could be exhausting
We’re still figuring out how to give ourselves permission to take a step back and just breathe
Figuring out ways on how to get out of a toxic environment and care for your well-being
Navigating the hell of a haze of regulating your emotions [30:16]
Withdrawing from always wanting to feel good—you’re NOT a baby that always needs to be pacified
Working on understanding human emotions and that there are days that you’ll feel different emotions (You should not let these temporary emotions dictate your decisions)
Learning to address your childhood wounds so they don’t up consuming you
Biggest lessons around emotion regulation [35:28]
Pausing before responding can do wonders to your relationships (because things you’ve said in the heat of the moment can probably be forgiven, but not forgotten)
DON’T make permanent decisions based on temporary emotions
Being emotional is NOT a negative thing!
RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE:
The Color of Emotional Intelligence by Farrah Harris
The Love Haze: Episode 53, "Bigger than my bottom."
The Love Haze: Episode 35, "The stories we tell ourselves."
The Love Haze: Episode 41, "Re-parenting your inner child."
Listen to It’s a Beautiful Day by TRINIX
Listen to Regulate by Warren G
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