Listen, if we hear ONE more person come for #BlackLoveDoc, it’s gon’ be a problem. With the recent news of Ms. Tina Knowles-Lawson’s divorce, commenters have been pretty hard on the show, calling it cursed because five of the couples featured have gone their separate ways. Well, we have plenty to say about that, and we got time today.
WHAT TO LISTEN FOR:
The Black Love Journey [3:51]
The Black Love documentary is not about the do’s and don'ts; it’s simply a representation of Black love
Out of the 70-80 couples featured in 5 seasons, about 5 couples have broken up—this should not be viewed as a curse
In every separation lies the story of resilience and the beauty of standing up for what really would make you happy
The constant fear of being judged [16:50]
The struggle to be someone who respects his own humanity… and others’
People tend to look for the drama
You need to give yourself permission to wiggle out of relationships that are no longer in alignment with who you want to be
Being divorced is NOT the end of life
The haze of choosing the way out [23:55]
You will encounter people who don’t honor your journey, your story
The “negative publicity”
Understanding the separation can be for the better
Breaking free from guilt and shame can be a challenge
Finding the courage to share your story despite the judgment that may come your way
Facing biases (how the Black community is perceived)
Navigating the haze [32:03]
Giving yourself to love, make mistakes, and learn
Getting rid of the notion that you/your life can be perfect
Letting others see your humanity
Being your authentic self, unafraid to share your story
RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE:
Listen to I Was Here by Beyonce
Listen to Real Love by Mary J. Blige
Love Again by Daniel Caesar and Brandy
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