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Healing for Male Survivors with Mike Chapman
Mike Chapman
85 episodes
1 hour ago
Welcome to the Healing for Male Survivors Podcast, where male survivors of childhood trauma, especially sexual trauma, can find hope and healing. My main goal is to give a platform to YOU, my listener and fellow survivor. I want to make this a safe space for you to tell YOUR story - and telling your story can often jumpstart your healing. This *is* a faith-based podcast, but do not expect a lot of preaching, but I want to welcome anyone here regardless of faith. **Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victims perspective.
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Welcome to the Healing for Male Survivors Podcast, where male survivors of childhood trauma, especially sexual trauma, can find hope and healing. My main goal is to give a platform to YOU, my listener and fellow survivor. I want to make this a safe space for you to tell YOUR story - and telling your story can often jumpstart your healing. This *is* a faith-based podcast, but do not expect a lot of preaching, but I want to welcome anyone here regardless of faith. **Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victims perspective.
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Healing for Male Survivors with Mike Chapman
81 - 🎥 Interview with Dr Glenn Miles, PhD

Glenn Miles PhD, is a Senior Researcher with up! International. He is on the board and the academic research advisor for the Chab Dai Butterfly ten-year Longitudinal Research Project which listens to the survivors of sex trafficking. He does independent research, advocacy, training and evaluation of programs. His current research interests include working with survivors of trafficking to uncover sexual exploitation of boys and young men including through the use of the internet in Thailand, familial sexual exploitation and trafficking of young men in the States, labour exploitation of children in tea plantations in Sri Lanka, child participation and service provision of children in Armenia,  He is an active member of the Global Association of Human Trafficking Scholars (GAHTS), and he is also a survivor of childhood sexual abuse.

If you want to see the VIDEO 🎥 version of this podcast, you can watch from either Spotify or Youtube.

Glenn’s Links:

  • Website

  • LinkedIn

  • Curriculum Vitae

  • up!

    • up! International

    • up! Collective

  • Chab Dai

    • Website

    • Butterfly Longitudinal Research Project

  • Glenn’s autoibiography, Embracing (Cwtch-ing) Me, God and Others (Amazon)


Links Mentioned:

  • Global Association of Human Trafficking Scholars (GAHTS)

  • Wikipedia article on "Child labour in cocoa production"

  • Perry Power

    • Website

    • Facebook

    • Powerful Books

  • International Human Trafficking & Social Justice Conference (IHTSJ) 

  • Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) - Wikipedia article

  • EMDR - Wikipedia article

  • Ena Lucia Mariaca Pacheco, Researcher on Sexual Exploitation of Males (Linktree)

  • Urban Light - Thailand

  • Dton Naam

Previous podcast episodes mentioned:  

  • Episode 41 - ACEs - Adverse Childhood Experiences

    • Free PDF on ACEs includes the test and what the results mean

    • NPR Article on ACEs

    • Wikipedia article on ACEs

    • ACEs Too High article on ACEs

  • Episode 76 - My Presentation at IHTSJ 2025

Mike Chapman’s links:

  • Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREE

  • Info on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid)

  • Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsApp

  • Mike’s Website

  • Schedule a free 30-minute Coaching Intro call with Mike

  • Mike’s Story

If you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at: 

PolarLifeConsulting.com/live

Please Note: The views and opinions expressed by guests of this podcast are their own, and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them, their beliefs, or any entity they represent, by neither Mike Chapman nor Polar Life Consulting.

**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening. 

Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.
DONATE – Tax-Deductible gifts to Husband Material Ministries

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1 week ago
1 hour 15 seconds

Healing for Male Survivors with Mike Chapman
80 - 🎥 LIVE Interview with Ken Freire

Ken Freire is a coach, entrepreneur, and host of the Shame(less) Podcast, where he helps Christian men overcome shame and addiction by pointing them back to Christ and their God-given purpose. After surviving childhood abuse and battling addiction, Ken now equips others kill shame, stand strong, and be on mission. He also leads Solo:Scaled were he helps coaches scale their business without burnout or headcount.

If you want to see the VIDEO 🎥 version of this podcast, you can watch from either Spotify or Youtube.

Suicide is talked about in this episode. If you are experiencing feelings of suicide or you know someone who is, don't hesitate to get in touch with the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline in the US available 24/7 to provide free, confidential emotional support to people in suicidal or emotional distress. Their number in the US is 988 or 1-800-273-8255 or at https://988lifeline.org/ – in other countries, reach out to your local suicide prevention hotline which you can find at https://findahelpline.com/.

Ken’s Links:

  • Shame(less) podcast

  • Solo:Scaled

  • Scriptures.Blog

  • https://kenfreire.com/

Links Mentioned:

  • Prosperity Theology (aka Proesperity Gospel; Wikipedia)

  • Previous HFMSwMC podcast episode mentioned (links to Spotify):  

    • Episode 57 - Forgiveness - Part 1 - James Gianakon’s podcast

    • Episode 58 - Forgiveness - Part 2 - Panel Discussion - LIVE

  • Husband Material Podcast with Drew Boa (Spotify | Youtube)

    • From Shame to Identity in Christ (with Ken Freire) (Spotify | Youtube)

Mike Chapman’s links:

  • Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREE

  • Info on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid)

  • Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsApp

  • Mike’s Website

  • Schedule a free 30-minute Coaching Intro call with Mike

  • Mike’s Story

If you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at: 

PolarLifeConsulting.com/live

Please Note: The views and opinions expressed by guests of this podcast are their own, and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them, their beliefs, or any entity they represent, by neither Mike Chapman nor Polar Life Consulting.

**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening. 

Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.

DONATE – Tax-Deductible gifts to Husband Material Ministries

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2 weeks ago
58 minutes 14 seconds

Healing for Male Survivors with Mike Chapman
79 - 🎥 Male Survivor Awareness Day (replay of 2022 HM Live Event)

#MSAD #MSAD2025 #MaleSurvivorAwarenessDay #MaleSurvivorAwarenessDay2025 #MenToo #1in6

In today's special episode, to honor Male Survivor Awareness Day 2025, which is recognized in the US on October 25 each year, I wanted to replay the Video Recording I did to honor the first Male Survivor Awareness Day in 2022 of a live event I hosted within the Husband Material Community which was recorded and resulted in a Husband Material Podcast episode. The Audio from the episode was used on *This* podcast for episodes 5, 6 & 7. This time I am making 1 long (almost 2 hour!) video of the event.  The event was the result of efforts by myself, Drew Boa, Dr. Doug Carpenter, with many contributions from Survivors within the Husband Material Community who submitted poetry and other items to be shared, some live, some previously recorded and some read by others. There was also a time for Questions and Answers by the live Zoom audience. The goal for this event (and the “Day” in total) was to help non-survivors understand and work with survivors to help support them on their healing journeys..

If you want to see the VIDEO 🎥 version of this podcast, you can watch from either Spotify or Youtube.


FULL Show Notes: 

https://docs.google.com/document/d/1yvsTf84TxY-oIJoRMVyM6XPWNQeB8BHoq98OgBGzREk/edit?usp=sharing


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3 weeks ago
1 hour 42 minutes 4 seconds

Healing for Male Survivors with Mike Chapman
78 - 🎥 Interview with Scott Ralitz

Scott was born and raised in Central Wisconsin. Last year he and his wife, Dorothy, celebrated 40 years of marriage. While they lived 12 years as missionaries overseas, they now have moved back home to be near extended family. It's been only since 2020 that he started to dig deeper into his past trauma, including childhood sexual abuse, that had buried. Much of it was forgotten and some was just pushed aside with the “help” of spiritual bypass.

If you want to see the VIDEO 🎥 version of this podcast, you can watch from either Spotify or Youtube.

Suicide is talked about in this episode. If you are experiencing feelings of suicide or you know someone who is, don't hesitate to get in touch with the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline in the US available 24/7 to provide free, confidential emotional support to people in suicidal or emotional distress. Their number in the US is 988 or 1-800-273-8255 or at https://988lifeline.org/ – in other countries, reach out to your local suicide prevention hotline which you can find at https://findahelpline.com/.

Links Mentioned:

  • Husband Material Podcast with Drew Boa (Spotify | Youtube)

    • What Is Spiritual Bypass? (with Dr. Craig Cashwell) (Spotify | Youtube)

    • How To Transform Your Triggers: The F.L.O.S.S. Method - Part 1 (Spotify | Youtube)

    • How To Transform Your Triggers: The F.L.O.S.S. Method - Part 2 (Spotify | Youtube)

  • Interview with Mary Knight on the “False Memory Syndrome Foundation” and how they battle against the truth of survivors of childhood sex trafficking:”Mary Knight - Am I Crazy? The False Memory Syndrome Foundation's War on Survivor Disclosures” (The Imagination Podcast)

  • Eight Threat Responses (Fight, Flight, Freeze, etc.; graphic via Facebook)

  • Pure Desire Podcast (Spotify | Youtube)

  • MaleSurvivor.org - has an on-ine discussion board for survivors & more

  • Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsApp

Mike Chapman’s links:

  • Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREE

  • Info on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid)

  • Mike’s Website

  • Schedule a free 30-minute Coaching Intro call with Mike

  • Mike’s Story

If you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at: 

PolarLifeConsulting.com/live

Please Note: The views and opinions expressed by guests of this podcast are their own, and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them, their beliefs, or any entity they represent, by neither Mike Chapman nor Polar Life Consulting.

**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening. 

Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.

DONATE – Tax-Deductible gifts to Husband Material Ministries

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3 weeks ago
57 minutes 46 seconds

Healing for Male Survivors with Mike Chapman
77 - 🎥 Updates on the Menéndez case, Ohio State University Atheltics Sexual Assault case

  1. I wanted to update my listeners on the Erik & Kyle Menéndez case that I mentioned in Episodes 47, 63, 68, & 75

  2. In addition, I wanted to update my listeners on the controversy on the mutiple Sexual Assault victims who were part of Ohio State University Atheltics and Sexually Assaulted by the Team Physician.

If you want to see the VIDEO 🎥 version of this podcast, you can watch from either Spotify or Youtube.

FULL Show Notes: 

https://docs.google.com/document/d/1bp_ZzGcOAcvb8oKQHPKgzKk_m96U_lZoJcD0T5B_eWY/edit?usp=sharing


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1 month ago
10 minutes 38 seconds

Healing for Male Survivors with Mike Chapman
76 - 🎥 My Presentation at IHTSJ 2025

This is a pre-recorded presentation I shared at the International Human Trafficking & Social Justice Conference [https://www.traffickingconference.com/] September 17-19, 2025. My presentation is entitled "Family-Controlled Sex Trafficking of Young Boys: One Survivor’s Healing Journey" talking about my experience of being sex trafficked as a child.

This is my story of being a victim of Family-Controlled Sex Trafficking at the hands of my father in the early 1970s in my home state of Oregon. I also discuss my Healing Journey which has led me to my involvement with Husband Material, Life Coaching and Anti-Trafficking advocacy..

If you want to see the VIDEO 🎥 version of this podcast, you can watch from either Spotify or Youtube.


FULL Show Notes: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1RjbQngABXu0LuqTr7w44sqbsBXZVAD5CiDFViQC31lg/edit?usp=sharing

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1 month ago
50 minutes 48 seconds

Healing for Male Survivors with Mike Chapman
75 - 🎥 Updates on the Menéndez case, The Take It Down Act, & the Michael Tait/Newsboys controversy
  1. I wanted to update my listeners on the Erik & Kyle Menéndez case that I mentioned in Episodes 47, 63, & 68
  2. In addition, I wanted to update my listeners on the new “Take It Down Act” signed into law in the US to help fight Revenge Porn, including those generated via Artificial Intellegence.
  3. I also wanted to share aboutthe recent controversy with former lead singer, Michael Tait, from the Contemporary Christian Band “Newsboys”.
  4. Also a quick update on the podcast itself.


If you want to see the VIDEO 🎥 version of this podcast, you can watch from either Spotify or Youtube.

Suicide is talked about in this episode. If you are experiencing feelings of suicide or you know someone who is, don't hesitate to get in touch with the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline in the US available 24/7 to provide free, confidential emotional support to people in suicidal or emotional distress. Their number in the US is 988 or 1-800-273-8255 or at https://988lifeline.org/ – in other countries, reach out to your local suicide prevention hotline which you can find at https://findahelpline.com/.


Links Mentioned - Menéndez:

  • Previous HFMSwMC podcast episode mentioned (links to Spotify):  

    • Episode 47 - Three Word Challenge Update & The Lyle and Erik Menéndez Case Update

    • Episode 63 - Update on the Menéndez case & my recent Charlotte interview

    • Episode 68 - Update on Leaving Neverland II, the Menéndez case & my own Healing Journey 

  • New Article: “Menendez Brothers Resentenced to Life With Parole, Paving Way for Freedom”. (from May 2025; NY Times) 

  • Article with a good explanation of the current state of the Menéndez case. (from April 2025; BBC)

  • CourtTV Video Archive: CA v. MENENDEZ (1993) (121 parts)

  • Peacock Documentary Series (2023): Menendez + Menudo: Boys Betrayed 

  • Netflix Docudrama Series (2024): Monsters: The Lyle and Erik Menendez Story 

  • Netflix Documentary (2024): The Menendez Brothers

  • LA Times Article (05/2023): Ex-Menudo star accuses boy band founder of sexual assault. Now the LAPD is investigating

  • Real Crime Profile Podcast (discussing the case and how it relates to all CSA cases; Spotify): Part 1 | Part 2 | Part 3 l Part 4 | Part 5 | Part 6

  • Deadline.com articles:

    • Menendez Brothers Resentencing Supported By L.A. DA; George Gascón Sets Press Conference For This Afternoon On Ryan Murphy Spotlighted Case

    • Menendez Brothers Eligible For Possible Immediate Parole As L.A. DA Recommends Resentencing; Judge Will Consider Case Next Month

  • Los Angeles District Attorney Gascón’s Press Conference on the Menendez Sentencing Reconsideration (from Oct., 2024; links to YouTube) 

Links Mentioned - The Take It Down Act:

  • “President Trump signs Take It Down Act, addressing nonconsensual deepfakes. What is it?” (from May 2025; Associated Press)

Links Mentioned - Michael Tait/Newsboys:

  • “K-LOVE pulls Newsboys, DC Talk amid sexual misconduct allegations against Michael Tait” (from June 2025; The Christian Post)

Mike Chapman’s links:

  • Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREE

  • Info on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid)

  • Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsApp

  • Mike’s Website

  • Schedule a free 30-minute Coaching Intro call with Mike

  • Mike’s Story

If you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at: 

PolarLifeConsulting.com/live


**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening. 

Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.

DONATE – Tax-Deductible gifts to Husband Material Ministries: https://HusbandMaterial.com/give

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4 months ago
14 minutes 58 seconds

Healing for Male Survivors with Mike Chapman
74 - 🎥 Interview with Scott McKellar

Scott McKellar is a 54 year old man from Australia. He is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and bullying.  He currently works as an Uber Eats driver and does volunteer work with men dealing with mental health issues.

If you want to see the VIDEO 🎥 version of this podcast, you can watch from either Spotify or Youtube.

Suicide is talked about in this episode. If you are experiencing feelings of suicide or you know someone who is, don't hesitate to get in touch with the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline in the US available 24/7 to provide free, confidential emotional support to people in suicidal or emotional distress. Their number in the US is 988 or 1-800-273-8255 or at https://988lifeline.org/ – in other countries, reach out to your local suicide prevention hotline which you can find at https://findahelpline.com/.

Sean’s Contact Information and recommended links

  • Telling My Story: The Healing Journey (2022) (20 stories of recovery from a group of men who have shared their stories and begun their healing journey, including Scott - under the name “Lance McKellar”)

  • Back on Track 2011 (Youtube; interviews of several Australian Male CSA Survivors, Scott is in the background of many group scenes but not interviewed)

  • GROW (a community-based organisation that has helped thousands of Australians with their recovery from mental ill-health through a unique program of mutual support and personal development.)

  • ParkRun (free, weekly, international running events)

  • The Men’s Table: Men Serving Men (Australia - a safe place to share and be heard in a confidential and non-judgemental environment, creating a greater sense of belonging, camaraderie and connection.)

  • The Mental Health Foundation Australia (MHFA) (the oldest community-based non-government mental health organisation in Australia, serving the community since 1930)


Other Links Mentioned:

  • Millstone: 

    • “But if you cause one of these little ones who trusts in me to fall into sin, it would be better for you to have a large millstone tied around your neck and be drowned in the depths of the sea.” Matthew 18:6 (NLT)

    • “But if you cause one of these little ones who trusts in me to fall into sin, it would be better for you to be thrown into the sea with a large millstone hung around your neck.” Mark 9:42 (NLT)

    • “It would be better to be thrown into the sea with a millstone hung around your neck than to cause one of these little ones to fall into sin.” Luke 17:2 (NLT)

  • Victims No Longer: The Classic Guide for Men Recovering from Sexual Child Abuse by Mike Lew (links to Amazon)

  • Strive To Be Kind Day

Mike Chapman’s links:

  • Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREE

  • Info on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid)

  • Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsApp

  • Mike’s Website

  • Schedule a free 30-minute Coaching Intro call with Mike

  • Mike’s Story

If you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at: 

PolarLifeConsulting.com/live

Please Note: The views and opinions expressed by guests of this podcast are their own, and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them, their beliefs, or any entity they represent, by neither Mike Chapman nor Polar Life Consulting.

**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening. 

Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.

DONATE – Tax-Deductible gifts to Husband Material Ministries: https://HusbandMaterial.com/give

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5 months ago
34 minutes 56 seconds

Healing for Male Survivors with Mike Chapman
73 - VIDEO Live Interview with Sean Wheeler

Sean Wheeler is a survivor of pre-teen sex trafficking for almost five years. During that time he was used in child sexual abuse material. While his family moved away from that area, other abusers would find him until age 19 when he determined to no longer be used.  In 2018 Sean founded Starfish Ministries in Colorado to provide a voice for boys in the public arena. He works directly with several other organizations and has been involved in lobbying Congress for pending legislation approval. He provides HT 101 and above trauma-informed training. Sean is also ordained and works in the prison ministry, even with convicted sex offenders. He has been interviewed on 100 Huntley Street in Toronto and the 700 Club. His story has been told in Psychology Today and other publications. Today over 6 million people world wide have heard his story.

If you want to see the VIDEO version of this podcast, you can watch from either Spotify or Youtube.

Sean’s Contact Information

  • Starfish Ministries Colorado

  • Facebook

  • Youtube (includes full video of several of his past interviews, including The 700 Club)

    • 100 Huntley Street interview - Part 1|Part 2

    • The 700 Club interview

  • Email: sfhelp@zoho.com

Links Mentioned:

  • 100 Huntley Street (Wikipedia)

  • The 700 Club (Wikipedia)

  • Reassessing Male Sex Trafficking Statistics: A survivor tells why men don’t report what happened - Psychology Today (interview with Sean Wheeler)

  • PACT: Protect All Children from Trafficking

    • Sara’s Law

  • Transcript: US Senate Judiciary Committee Hearing on "Big Tech and the Online Child Sexual Exploitation Crisis" (Jan 31, 2024; TechPolicy.press)

  • DreamCenter

Other Helpful Links:

  • Previous HFMS podcast episodes (links to Spotify):  

    • Episode 57 - Forgiveness - Part 1 - James Gianakon’s podcast

    • Episode 58 - Forgiveness - Part 2 - Panel Discussion - LIVE

  • “Child Sexual Abuse Material” vs “Child Pornography” - (US Dept of Justice)

  • “The one unforgivable sin” (Wikipedia)

  • Demonic Opression vs. Demonic Possession (GotAnswers.org)

Mike Chapman’s links:

  • Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREE

  • Info on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid)

  • Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsApp

  • Mike’s Website

  • Schedule a free 30-minute Coaching Intro call with Mike

  • Mike’s Story

If you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at: 

PolarLifeConsulting.com/live

Please Note: The views and opinions expressed by guests of this podcast are their own, and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them, their beliefs, or any entity they represent, by neither Mike Chapman nor Polar Life Consulting.

**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening. 

Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.

DONATE – Tax-Deductible gifts to Husband Material Ministries: https://HusbandMaterial.com/give

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5 months ago
56 minutes 11 seconds

Healing for Male Survivors with Mike Chapman
72 - Live VIDEO Panel: Overmedication of CSA Survivors/Victims by Clinicians

Today's topic is the overuse and misuse of prescription medications on CSA survivors and victims. Today’s panel includes 2 former podcast guests: Michael Skinner & Robert Maniscalco

If you want to see the VIDEO version of this podcast, you can watch from either Spotify or Youtube.

Suicide is talked about in this episode. If you are experiencing feelings of suicide or you know someone who is, don't hesitate to get in touch with the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline in the US available 24/7 to provide free, confidential emotional support to people in suicidal or emotional distress. Their number in the US is 988 or 1-800-273-8255 or at https://988lifeline.org/ – in other countries, reach out to your local suicide prevention hotline which you can find at https://findahelpline.com/.

More about the panelists:

Previous podcast interviews with Luke, Richard & Cranford (links to Spotify; contact info is within the show notes of each episode): 

  • Episode 54 - Live Interview with Michael Skinner

  • Episode 67 - Live Interview with Robert Maniscalco

Previous podcast episodes mentioned:  

  • Episode 41 - ACEs - Adverse Childhood Experiences

    • Free PDF on ACEs includes the test and what the results mean

    • NPR Article on ACEs

    • Wikipedia article on ACEs

    • ACEs Too High article on ACEs

Other Links Mentioned:

  • “Misdiagnosed and Over-Medicated” by Emily Larson - CPTSD Foundation

  • Oprah's "200 Men Come Forward" television event is available to watch for FREE (as of 12/31/24) on Oprah.com: (FYI, auto-captioning is provided but they edit out ALL sexual terms with " **** ", even minor ones, making it hard to follow)

    • Watch PART 1 here

    • Watch PART 2 here (preview only - full episode is not available)

    • TEXT SUMMARY of PART 2

  • Darkness to Light (End Child Sexual Abuse)

  • John Briere (Google Search)

  • SUDS: Subjective Units of Distress Scale (Wikipedia; “on a scale of 0-10, how strong are you feeling ______”)

  • Michael Skinner’s Surviving Spirit

  • Mad in America

  • Celebrate Recovery (faith-based 12-step group; links to website; local affiliates listed)

  • Seneca the Younger (Wikipedia)

    • De Tranquillitate Animi (Wikipedia;  “The tranquility of the mind”)

  • Dialectical behavior therapy (Wikipedia)

  • The Betrayal Bond: Breaking Free of Exploitive Relationships by Patrick J Carnes, PhD (Amazon)

Other Helpful Links:

  • The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk M.D. (links to Amazon)

Mike Chapman’s links:

  • Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREE

  • Info on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid)

  • Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsApp

  • Mike’s Website

  • Schedule a free 30-minute Coaching Intro call with Mike

  • Mike’s Story

If you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at: 

PolarLifeConsulting.com/live

Please Note: The views and opinions expressed by guests of this podcast are their own, and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them, their beliefs, or any entity they represent, by neither Mike Chapman nor Polar Life Consulting.

**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening. 

Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.

DONATE – Tax-Deductible gifts to Husband Material Ministries: https://HusbandMaterial.com/give

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6 months ago
47 minutes 41 seconds

Healing for Male Survivors with Mike Chapman
71 - VIDEO Live Interview with Jim Farrington

Jim Farrington is survivor and is also a men’s minister with First Stone Ministries, which will be 50 years old in January 2026, First Stone specializes in the area of sexual and relational redemption, proclaiming that freedom is not found in a method or a program but in the person of Jesus Christ. Jim does Pastoral Care with men who deal with sexual and relational brokenness and is also the coordinator of the in-person  Be Steadfast Parents Support Group for families impacted by lgbt and also leads their newest Be Steadfast Online Parent Support Group that is serving families all over the US and in Canada.

If you want to see the VIDEO version of this podcast, you can watch from either Spotify or Youtube.

Suicide is talked about in this episode. If you are experiencing feelings of suicide or you know someone who is, don't hesitate to get in touch with the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline in the US available 24/7 to provide free, confidential emotional support to people in suicidal or emotional distress. Their number in the US is 988 or 1-800-273-8255 or at https://988lifeline.org/ – in other countries, reach out to your local suicide prevention hotline which you can find at https://findahelpline.com/.

Jim’s Contact Information

  • First Stone Ministries

  • Email: jim@firststone.org

Links Mentioned:

  • Corrie ten Boom (Wikipedia)

  • Living Waters 

  • Husband Material Podcast episodes about sexual abuse (links to YouTube):

    • Sexual Arousal vs. Sexual Desire (interview with Dr. Doug Carpenter)

    • A Grace-Based Approach To Sexual Recovery (with Jonathan Daugherty)

  • Word (of Knowledge) (Wikipedia)

  • Husband Material Retreat in Colorado - next date: Sept 5-9, 2025 (Western Georgia retreat is tentatively scheduled for Spring 2026)

  • Previous HFMS podcast episodes (links to Spotify):  

    • Episode 31 - Live interview with Dan Carlson

    • Episode 16 - 200 Men Came Forward (Oprah 200)

    • Episode 54 - Live Interview with Michael Skinner (Oprah 200 alumni)

    • Episode 67 - Live Interview with Robert Maniscalco (Oprah 200 alumni)

  • Living Free

  • Sy Rogers (Wikipedia)

  • Portland Fellowship

    • PF’s “Reach Truth” program

  • Harvest USA

  • Teen Challenge

  • Fight the New Drug

Other Helpful Links:

  • Article on Family Circus and the “Dotted Line” (NPR)

Mike Chapman’s links:

  • Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREE

  • Info on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid)

  • Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsApp

  • Mike’s Website

  • Schedule a free 30-minute Coaching Intro call with Mike

  • Mike’s Story

If you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at: 

PolarLifeConsulting.com/live

Please Note: The views and opinions expressed by guests of this podcast are their own, and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them, their beliefs, or any entity they represent, by neither Mike Chapman nor Polar Life Consulting.

**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening. 

Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.

DONATE – Tax-Deductible gifts to Husband Material Ministries: https://HusbandMaterial.com/give

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6 months ago
54 minutes 24 seconds

Healing for Male Survivors with Mike Chapman
70 - Live Interview with Peter W.

“Peter W.,” who recently turned 60, has been married for over 36 years and has three children. He has struggled with depression, anxiety, and suicidal thoughts for many years and sought help at a residential program two years ago. During his time in the program, he opened up for the first time about a sexual assault he experienced at age 26. While he has been working through this trauma in therapy, he was recently assaulted again. Since then, other incidents triggered repressed memories of childhood sexual abuse. Despite these challenges, Peter is in recovery and hopes that sharing his story will help others.

Suicide is talked about in this episode. If you are experiencing feelings of suicide or you know someone who is, don't hesitate to get in touch with the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline in the US available 24/7 to provide free, confidential emotional support to people in suicidal or emotional distress. Their number in the US is 988 or 1-800-273-8255 or at https://988lifeline.org/ – in other countries, reach out to your local suicide prevention hotline which you can find at https://findahelpline.com/.

Links Mentioned:

  • A Christmas Story (1983) (JustWatch) 

  • Alcoholics Anonymous (links to website; local affiliates listed)

  • Celebrate Recovery (faith-based 12-step group; links to website; local affiliates listed)

Other Helpful Links:


  • Previous HFMS podcast episodes (links to Spotify):  

    • Episode 68 - Update on Leaving Neverland II, the Menéndez case & my own Healing Journey

Mike Chapman’s links:

  • Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREE

  • Info on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid)

  • Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsApp

  • Mike’s Website

  • Schedule a free 30-minute Coaching Intro call with Mike

  • Mike’s Story

If you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at: 

PolarLifeConsulting.com/live

Please Note: The views and opinions expressed by guests of this podcast are their own, and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them, their beliefs, or any entity they represent, by neither Mike Chapman nor Polar Life Consulting.

**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening. 

Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.

DONATE – Tax-Deductible gifts to Husband Material Ministries: https://HusbandMaterial.com/give

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6 months ago
49 minutes 56 seconds

Healing for Male Survivors with Mike Chapman
69 - Live Interview with Alex Abraham - Survivor & Author of Trauma and Ecstasy: How Psychedelics Made My Life Worth Living

Alex Abraham has spent years researching, exploring, and experiencing firsthand the therapeutic treatment options for healing from childhood sexual abuse. Psychedelics and integration therapy forever changed his life. When not educating other survivors about the benefits of psychedelics, Alex enjoys traveling the world and experiencing new foods. A connoisseur of food truck fare, he lives in Austin, Texas.

Suicide is talked about in this episode. If you are experiencing feelings of suicide or you know someone who is, don't hesitate to get in touch with the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline in the US available 24/7 to provide free, confidential emotional support to people in suicidal or emotional distress. Their number in the US is 988 or 1-800-273-8255 or at https://988lifeline.org/ – in other countries, reach out to your local suicide prevention hotline which you can find at https://findahelpline.com/.

Contact info for Alex:

  • Website: Trauma & Ecstasy

  • Trauma and Ecstasy: How Psychedelics Made My Life Worth Living (Amazon)

  • LinkedIn

  • Instagram

Other Links Mentioned:

  • Olive, The Other Reinsdeer (1999) (Youtube)

  • Pelvic Floor (Wikipedia)

  • Time Ferriss (Wikipedia)

  • Tucker Max (Wikipedia)

  • MDMA-assisted psychotherapy (Wikipedia)

  • The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk M.D. (links to Amazon)

  • EMDR (Wikipedia)

Other Helpful Links:

  • “Five Things to Know About MDMA-Assisted Psychotherapy for PTSD” (Mt. Sinai Physician’s Channel)

  • Previous HFMS podcast episodes (links to Spotify):  

    • Episode 68 - Update on Leaving Neverland II, the Menéndez case & my own Healing Journey

Mike Chapman’s links:

  • Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREE

  • Info on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid)

  • Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsApp

  • Mike’s Website

  • Schedule a free 30-minute Coaching Intro call with Mike

  • Mike’s Story

If you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at: 

PolarLifeConsulting.com/live

Please Note: The views and opinions expressed by guests of this podcast are their own, and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them, their beliefs, or any entity they represent, by neither Mike Chapman nor Polar Life Consulting.

**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening. 

Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.

DONATE – Tax-Deductible gifts to Husband Material Ministries: https://HusbandMaterial.com/give

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7 months ago
46 minutes 7 seconds

Healing for Male Survivors with Mike Chapman
68 - Update on Leaving Neverland II, the Menéndez case & my own Healing Journey


  1. I wanted to update listeners on the follow-up to the HBO/Max documentary “Leaving Neverland”

  2. In addition, I wanted to update my listeners on the Erik & Kyle Menéndez case that I mentioned in Episodes 47 & 63

  3. I also wanted to share about my own personal Healing Journey especially after attending a Regional Men’s Retreat where I got triggered.

Links Mentioned - Leaving Neverland II:

  • Leaving Neverland (full 4-hour movie; JustWatch page, includes International Viewing Options)

  • Leaving Neverland (in 2 parts; JustWatch page)

  • Oprah Winfrey Presents: After Neverland (Oprah.com | YouTube)

  • Leaving Neverland II (YouTube)

  • Leaving Neverland II (JustWatch page, includes International Viewing Options)

  • Previous HFMSwMC podcast episode mentioned (links to Spotify):  

    • Episode 20 - Live - Podcast Review: “Think Twice: Michael Jackson”

  • Think Twice: Michael Jackson podcast (Amazon | Spotify)

  • How to Recognize Coercive Control (Healthline)

Links Mentioned - Menéndez:

  • Previous HFMSwMC podcast episode mentioned (links to Spotify):  

    • Episode 47 - Three Word Challenge Update & The Lyle and Erik Menéndez Case Update

    • Episode 63 - Update on the Menéndez case & my recent Charlotte interview

  • New Article with a good explanation of the current state of the Menéndez case. (BBC)

  • CourtTV Video Archive: CA v. MENENDEZ (1993) (121 parts)

  • Peacock Documentary Series (2023): Menendez + Menudo: Boys Betrayed 

  • Netflix Docudrama Series (2024): Monsters: The Lyle and Erik Menendez Story 

  • Netflix Documentary (2024): The Menendez Brothers

  • LA Times Article (05/2023): Ex-Menudo star accuses boy band founder of sexual assault. Now the LAPD is investigating

  • Real Crime Profile Podcast (discussing the case and how it relates to all CSA cases; Spotify): Part 1 | Part 2 | Part 3 l Part 4 | Part 5 | Part 6

  • Deadline.com articles:

    • Menendez Brothers Resentencing Supported By L.A. DA; George Gascón Sets Press Conference For This Afternoon On Ryan Murphy Spotlighted Case

    • Menendez Brothers Eligible For Possible Immediate Parole As L.A. DA Recommends Resentencing; Judge Will Consider Case Next Month

  • Los Angeles District Attorney Gascón’s Press Conference on the Menendez Sentencing Reconsideration (from Oct., 2024; links to YouTube) 

Links Mentioned - Menéndez:

  • Kintsugi Bowls - (links to Wikipedia)

Mike Chapman’s links:

  • Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREE

  • Info on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid)

  • Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsApp

  • Mike’s Website

  • Schedule a free 30-minute Coaching Intro call with Mike

  • Mike’s Story

If you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at: 

PolarLifeConsulting.com/live

Please Note: The views and opinions expressed by guests of this podcast are their own, and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them, their beliefs, or any entity they represent, by neither Mike Chapman nor Polar Life Consulting.

**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening. 

Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.

DONATE – Tax-Deductible gifts to Husband Material Ministries: https://HusbandMaterial.com/give

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7 months ago
29 minutes 55 seconds

Healing for Male Survivors with Mike Chapman
67 - Live Interview with Robert Maniscalco

Robert Maniscalco is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and has been a professional creative his entire adult life. Born in 1959 in Detroit, he has lived in New York, New Orleans and currently in Charleston. His commission portraits and fine art are part of over a thousand collections throughout North America. In Detroit he hosted Artbeat on PBS and founded the Maniscalco Gallery. As a fine artist, he likes to work in multiple series. Perhaps his most enduring series is that of a commission portrait artist, immortalizing Supreme Court Justices as well as children and families. Robert blogs on a wide range of subjects and written three other books, The Fishly and Point of Art. His fourth book, an Amazon #1 bestseller, is a full color drawing/painting method, called The Power of Positive Painting. He is an actor/director, writer/playwright, musician/composer and teacher, a former Adjunct Professor of fine art and theatre at Charleston Southern University and drawing illustration at the College for Creative Studies in Detroit. Robert has expanded his creative milieu to include courtroom sketching, covering the Dylann Roof and Michael Slager trials in Charleston. His multi-disciplinary play, Vincent John Doe, received its world premiere, to rave reviews, during the 2018 and 2019 Piccolo Spoleto Festivals. He is now a regular exhibitor in the Piccolo Spoleto Outdoor Art Exhibition. Robert was also one of the 200 audience members on Oprah Winfrey’s groundbreaking episode on male childhood sexual abuse.

Suicide is talked about in this episode. If you are experiencing feelings of suicide or you know someone who is, don't hesitate to get in touch with the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline in the US available 24/7 to provide free, confidential emotional support to people in suicidal or emotional distress. Their number in the US is 988 or 1-800-273-8255 or at https://988lifeline.org/ – in other countries, reach out to your local suicide prevention hotline which you can find at https://findahelpline.com/.

Contact info for Robert:

  • The Maniscalco Gallery Website

  • Facebook

  • Facebook - Artist Page

  • Youtube

  • Books (Amazon)

  • The Obstacle Course of my Life - Maniscalco Gallery

  • Comedy Bits (Youtube):

    • More Comedy Bits

    • Take My Wife

    • Ridiculousness

  • Vincent John Doe (new Play with CSA Themes)

Other Links Mentioned:

  • Jack Van Impe (Wikipedia)

  • Speaking in Tongues (Wikipedia)

  • Baptism with the Holy Spirit (Wikipedia)

  • Secular Humanism (Wikipedia)

  • “You only fail when you stop trying” - Thomas Edison (GoodReads)

  • Previous HFMS podcast episode mentioned (links to Spotify):  

    • Episode 16 - 200 Men Came Forward

    • Episode 54 - Live Interview with Michael Skinner 

  • Oprah's "200 Men Come Forward" TV event:

    • Watch PART 1 here

    • Watch PART 2 here (preview only)

    • TEXT SUMMARY of PART 2

  • EMDR (Wikipedia)

  • Exposure Therapy (Wikipedia)

  • PTSD - Symptoms & Causes (links to Mayo Clnic)

  • Don Harvey (IMDB)

  • Darkness to Light (End Child Sexual Abuse)

  • Tyler Perry (Wikipedia)

  • Primal Therapy (Wikipedia)

  • Gordon Teichner, Ph.D., ABPP

  • The Last Judgment (Wikipedia)

  • Dylann Roof (wikipedia)

Other Helpful Links:

  • Groups offering Men’s Healing Weekend Retreats

    • Marked Men for Christ (faith-based)

    • Edge Venture (faith-based)

    • The Crucible Project (faith-based) 

    • Brothers Road (multi-faith)

Please Note: The views and opinions expressed by guests of this podcast are their own, and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them, their beliefs, or any entity they represent, by neither Mike Chapman nor Polar Life Consulting.

**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening. 

Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.


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7 months ago
58 minutes 36 seconds

Healing for Male Survivors with Mike Chapman
66 - Live Interview with Louis Romano

Louis Romano is a parent of a CSA Survivor and a best-selling author of 21 novels, including Intercession and Besa. A crossover artist who has written true crime fiction, crime historic fiction, and one young adult book

Suicide is talked about in this episode. If you are experiencing feelings of suicide or you know someone who is, don't hesitate to get in touch with the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline in the US available 24/7 to provide free, confidential emotional support to people in suicidal or emotional distress. Their number in the US is 988 or 1-800-273-8255 or at https://988lifeline.org/ – in other countries, reach out to your local suicide prevention hotline which you can find at https://findahelpline.com/.

Contact info for Kyle:

  • The Official Louis Romano Website

  • Links to order all of Louis Romano’s books from his website

  • Links to order all of Louis Romano’s books via Amazon

Other Links Mentioned:

  • “Half Moon Restaurant” - Facebook thread

  • Millstone: 

    • “But if you cause one of these little ones who trusts in me to fall into sin, it would be better for you to have a large millstone tied around your neck and be drowned in the depths of the sea.” Matthew 18:6 (NLT)

    • “But if you cause one of these little ones who trusts in me to fall into sin, it would be better for you to be thrown into the sea with a large millstone hung around your neck.” Mark 9:42 (NLT)

    • “It would be better to be thrown into the sea with a millstone hung around your neck than to cause one of these little ones to fall into sin.” Luke 17:2 (NLT)

  •  Previous HFMSwMC podcast episode mentioned (links to Spotify):  

    • Episode 60 - Live Interview with Richard Windmann

  • Road to Recovery - Hope and Healing for Surviviors of Sexual Abuse

  • Mitchell Garabedian - attorney, featured in the movie, Spotlight (2015)

  • Calumny - noun - Injuring another person's good name by lying. (Catholic Dictionary)

  • Lucky Luciano (Wikipedia)

  • Cardinal Timothy M. Dolan (Wikipedia)

Other Helpful Links:

  • MaleSurvivor.org - has an on-ine discussion board for survivors & more

  • MenHealing.org - non-religious healing weekends across the US for Male CSA Survivors & more

Mike Chapman’s links:

  • Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREE

  • Info on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid)

  • Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsApp

  • Mike’s Website

  • Schedule a free 30-minute Coaching Intro call with Mike

  • Mike’s Story

If you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at: 

PolarLifeConsulting.com/live

Please Note: The views and opinions expressed by guests of this podcast are their own, and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them, their beliefs, or any entity they represent, by neither Mike Chapman nor Polar Life Consulting.

**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening. 

Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.

DONATE – Tax-Deductible gifts to Husband Material Ministries: https://HusbandMaterial.com/give

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7 months ago
30 minutes 30 seconds

Healing for Male Survivors with Mike Chapman
65 - Live VIDEO Panel: How to make it safe for male survivors to disclose

We have previously talked about disclosure and why it is difficult for male survivors to disclose to anyone about the trauma they experienced. With that in mind, we discuss how to make male survivors feel safe and comfortable enough to share their stories.

More about the panelists:

Previous podcast interviews with Luke, Richard & Cranford (links to Spotify; contact info is within the show notes of each episode): 

  • Episode 19 - Live interview with Luke Wiersma

  • Episode 61 - Live Interview with Cranford Blackmon

  • Episode 60 - Live Interview with Richard Windmann

Previous podcast episodes mentioned:  

  • (Male Survivor Awareness Day) MSAD 2023 - “Disclosure”

    • Husband Material Video Podcast (links to YouTube)

    • Husband Material Audio Podcast (links to Spotify)

    • Episode 9 - PLC/Healing for Male Survivor Podcast - Part 1 (links to Spotify)

    • Episode 10 - PLC/Healing for Male Survivor Podcast - Part 2 (links to Spotify)

    • Episode 11 - PLC/Healing for Male Survivor Podcast - Part 3 (links to Spotify)

Other Links Mentioned:

  • MaleSurvivor.org - has an online discussion board for survivors & more

  • Celebrate Recovery (faith-based 12-step group; links to website; local affiliates listed)

  • Movie: That’s My Boy (2012) (links to JustWatch)

  • Ricky Gervais (Wikipedia)

Other Helpful Links:

  • Video: Sexual Assault of Men Played for Laughs - Part 1 Male Perpetrators (YouTube)

  • Video: Sexual Assault of Men Played for Laughs - Part 2 Female Perpetrators (YouTube)

Mike Chapman’s links:

  • Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREE

  • Info on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid)

  • Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsApp

  • Mike’s Website

  • Schedule a free 30-minute Coaching Intro call with Mike

  • Mike’s Story

If you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at: 

PolarLifeConsulting.com/live

Please Note: The views and opinions expressed by guests of this podcast are their own, and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them, their beliefs, or any entity they represent, by neither Mike Chapman nor Polar Life Consulting.

**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening. 

Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.

DONATE – Tax-Deductible gifts to Husband Material Ministries: https://HusbandMaterial.com/give

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7 months ago
39 minutes 25 seconds

Healing for Male Survivors with Mike Chapman
64 - Live Interview with Kyle Drossel

Kyle Drossel is a 31-year-old man who has been through a lot. He recently found his way back to God, and that has helped him feel more at peace. He likes to spend his free time hiking and running, which helps him clear his head. But Kyle still struggles with relationships because of something that happened to him when he was 13. The assistant fire chief of Sheboygan Falls, Wisconsin, someone he trusted, sexually assaulted him. This experience led Kyle down a bad path of using drugs and alcohol, but he's happy to say that he's sober now. He wants to help others who have gone through similar things, so he started a group called "Breaking the Silence." Kyle's goal is to help men feel comfortable talking about their problems and getting help. He hopes that by sharing his story, he can inspire others to do the same and create a community where men can support each other. Kyle also wants to spread awareness about the dangers of turning to drugs and alcohol as a way to cope with trauma, and he hopes that his story can help prevent others from going down the same path he did.

Contact info for Kyle:

  • Facebook

  • Facebook Group: “Breaking the Silence”

Other Links Mentioned:

  • Article on Family Circus and the “Dotted Line” (NPR)

  • Safe Harbor of Sheboygan County

  •  Previous HFMSwMC podcast episode mentioned (links to Spotify):  

    • Episode 47 - Three Word Challenge Update & The Lyle and Erik Menéndez Case Update

    • Episode 63 - Update on the Menéndez case & my recent Charlotte interview

Other Helpful Links:

  • MaleSurvivor.org - has an on-ine discussion board for survivors & more

  • MenHealing.org - non-religious healing weekends across the US for Male CSA Survivors & more

Mike Chapman’s links:

  • Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREE

  • Info on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid)

  • Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsApp

  • Mike’s Website

  • Schedule a free 30-minute Coaching Intro call with Mike

  • Mike’s Story

If you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at: 

PolarLifeConsulting.com/live

Please Note: The views and opinions expressed by guests of this podcast are their own, and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them, their beliefs, or any entity they represent, by neither Mike Chapman nor Polar Life Consulting.

**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening. 

Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.

DONATE – Tax-Deductible gifts to Husband Material Ministries: https://HusbandMaterial.com/give

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8 months ago
51 minutes 3 seconds

Healing for Male Survivors with Mike Chapman
63 - Update on the Menéndez case & my recent Charlotte interview
  1. I wanted to update my listeners on the Erik & Kyle Menéndez case that I mentioned in Episode 47
  2. I also wanted to share my thoughts and reflections on a recent interview I did with a local TV news station about my personal journey (including the highs and lows of the interview process).


Links Mentioned - Menéndez:

  • Previous HFMSwMC podcast episode mentioned (links to Spotify):  

    • Episode 47 - Three Word Challenge Update & The Lyle and Erik Menéndez Case Update

  • Article with a good explanation of the current state of the Menéndez case.

  • CourtTV Video Archive: CA v. MENENDEZ (1993) (121 parts)

  • Peacock Documentary Series (2023): Menendez + Menudo: Boys Betrayed 

  • Netflix Docudrama Series (2024): Monsters: The Lyle and Erik Menendez Story 

  • Netflix Documentary (2024): The Menendez Brothers

  • LA Times Article (05/2023): Ex-Menudo star accuses boy band founder of sexual assault. Now the LAPD is investigating

  • Real Crime Profile Podcast (discussing the case and how it relates to all CSA cases; Spotify): Part 1 | Part 2 | Part 3 l Part 4 | Part 5 | Part 6

  • Deadline.com articles:

    • Menendez Brothers Resentencing Supported By L.A. DA; George Gascón Sets Press Conference For This Afternoon On Ryan Murphy Spotlighted Case

    • Menendez Brothers Eligible For Possible Immediate Parole As L.A. DA Recommends Resentencing; Judge Will Consider Case Next Month

  • Los Angeles District Attorney Gascón’s Press Conference on the Menendez Sentencing Reconsideration (from Oct., 2024; links to YouTube) 

Links Mentioned - Charlotte Interview:

  • Article/Interview with WSOC (Charlotte, NC - ABC Affiliate) “Man trafficked by his own father raising awareness for overlooked cases”

Mike Chapman’s links:

  • Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREE

  • Info on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid)

  • Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsApp

  • Mike’s Website

  • Schedule a free 30-minute Coaching Intro call with Mike

  • Mike’s Story

If you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at: 

PolarLifeConsulting.com/live

**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening. 

Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.

DONATE – Tax-Deductible gifts to Husband Material Ministries: https://HusbandMaterial.com/give

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8 months ago
30 minutes 32 seconds

Healing for Male Survivors with Mike Chapman
62 - Live Interview with Johnny Braun

Johnny Braun is a 21 year old who grew up as a Mennonite in Canada and is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse . He is still working on recovery and full understanding of his past but he is also helping other people who have experienced trauma work through their own struggles.

Contact info for Cranford:

  • Instagram

Other Links Mentioned:

  • Men’s Encounter - Ontario (weekend Christian men’s healing retreats)

  • No Longer Ashamed - Podcast (Spotify)

    • Episode 140 - Interview with Johnny Braun (Spotify)

  • MaleSurvivor.org - has an on-ine discussion board for survivors & more

  • Previous HFMSwMC podcast episode mentioned (links to Spotify):  

    • Episode 55 - Live Interview with Dr. Mark Barber

  • MenHealing.org - non-religious healing weekends across the US for Male CSA Survivors & more

Other Helpful Links:

  • Edge Venture (faith-based weekend retreats)

  • Marked Men for Christ (faith-based weekend retreats)

  • Edge Venture (faith-based weekend retreats)

  • Brothers Road (multi-faith weekend retreats)

  • ManKind Project (New Warrior Training Adventure) (non-religious weekend retreats)

  • Noble Man (non-religious 3.5-day retreats) 

  • The Crucible Project (faith-based weekend retreats) 

Mike Chapman’s links:

  • Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREE

  • Info on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid)

  • Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsApp

  • Mike’s Website

  • Schedule a free 30-minute Coaching Intro call with Mike

  • Mike’s Story

If you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at: 

PolarLifeConsulting.com/live

Please Note: The views and opinions expressed by guests of this podcast are their own, and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them, their beliefs, or any entity they represent, by neither Mike Chapman nor Polar Life Consulting.

**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening. 

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8 months ago
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Healing for Male Survivors with Mike Chapman
Welcome to the Healing for Male Survivors Podcast, where male survivors of childhood trauma, especially sexual trauma, can find hope and healing. My main goal is to give a platform to YOU, my listener and fellow survivor. I want to make this a safe space for you to tell YOUR story - and telling your story can often jumpstart your healing. This *is* a faith-based podcast, but do not expect a lot of preaching, but I want to welcome anyone here regardless of faith. **Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victims perspective.