Dear Mary,

My spouse never cleans up after himself in the kitchen and it drives me nuts!! What is a girl to do?

I ask him nicely if he can wash his plate or glass so they don’t pile up, but then he gets mad at me for bitching at him.

No matter my tone, my body language or timing of the day, he immediately gets defensive with me about it.

Do you have any suggestions on how to better frame the question or request of him?

Any advice is appreciated.

Sincerely,

The Bitchy Wife