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Growing Nimble Families
Melitsa Avila
30 episodes
9 months ago
Raising school age kids.

We are celebrating the energy of Middle Childhood ( or Midhood) development and discussing parenting challenges of school age children ( Ages 5-14)
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Raising school age kids.

We are celebrating the energy of Middle Childhood ( or Midhood) development and discussing parenting challenges of school age children ( Ages 5-14)
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Kids & Family
Episodes (20/30)
Growing Nimble Families
7 ways to support your child at school move towards independence
 


Tools and ideas about moving from guided homework to independent homework with school-age kids. Homework demands change. As kids get older, there are new skills to master with homework. Examples like time management on a project, using software and overcoming problems during the process of work.
If our kids dine out on their natural talent only, eventually they will hit some hard walls as work becomes more difficult and be stuck. They need to get used to effort, hard work and learning how to get up when they hit hard obstacles.
Right around the time that many of our kids are making mistakes, learning and growing coincide with when they don’t want parental help. They are uncomfortable with the skill of asking for help. The pressure is there.
Coasting and homework
Lots of kids are coasting without experiencing the stretch of learning through challenge and moving from adequate to good and good to excellent.
Like all family related activities, this is deeply personal to each of our families. Each child is different. But we want the same thing- to know our kids have the skills so we can relax, nag less and they can fly.
The skills mentioned in today’s episode help support us now where we are. Whatever our kid’s ability we want them to succeed, be confident, have tools to support them when they encounter problems. We go deep today. It’s not a blueprint. I’m looking forward to your thoughts as you tackle empowering our kids’ homework muscle from guided homework to independent homework.
 
Growing Nimble Families podcast encourages the celebration of school age kids traveling through middle childhood
Show Notes
Seven ways to support your child at school move towards independence

* When silence isn’t golden, productive or helpful. Finding the right place for homework isn’t fixed and may not be what you are expecting.
* Sharing the thought process that takes you seconds because you have wisdom and experience. Why it will be a big win to share what to do during this problem-solving exercise.
* Getting down into the different types of homework. It’s all about the model. Give it time. Just because you have four pieces of homework doesn’t mean you start from 1 and then 2. The way to make homework easier.

resource: project working 

4. Helping School-Age Kids Correct Their Work  Grab our printable
5. How we respond when they don’t complete 
6.  6 Questions To Ask Your School-Age Child After Homework  Grab our printable
7. After the feedback
resource: Self-reflection resource:   
 

* WHAT TO DO NEXT:

So you’ve listened to this episode – if you liked it and want to hear other ones – and I really think you will….you should do this right now:
    
   How to listen and subscribe to this show
I’d love to hear from you about the show.
Any comments about the podcast use the Voicemail and connect on Facebook
Use the hashtag #gnfsak on  Twitter  and  Instagram
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7 years ago
43 minutes 36 seconds

Growing Nimble Families
Dr Michele Borba on Empathy and how to succeed in an all about me world
 


Our guest today Dr Michele Borba talks about how to help our kids tap into empathy. We talk about social and emotional learning and its value both now in school and as adults, the empathy advantage, how to talk about empathy with school age kids and what’s the most important thing to know about empathy.
 
Growing Nimble Families podcast encourages the celebration of school age kids traveling through middle childhood
Show Notes
 
Follow:  Dr Borba   Website: micheleborba.com
Resource: Book discussion guide: Unselfie- Dr Michele Borba

* WHAT TO DO NEXT:

So you’ve listened to this episode – if you liked it and want to hear other ones – and I really think you will….you should do this right now:
    
   How to listen and subscribe to this show
I’d love to hear from you about the show.
Any comments about the podcast use the Voicemail and connect on Facebook
Use the hashtag #gnfsak on  Twitter  and  Instagram
If you’ve enjoyed the show please take the time to share it with friends and leave a review for it on iTunes or Stitcher.
 


 
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7 years ago
29 minutes 14 seconds

Growing Nimble Families
3 Ways To Make Sure Your Back To School Season Is Not Crazy
 


How about a different run-up to the start of back to school time?
With a little planning and a little sharing, there’s a better way to have a successful back to school season. As the school age kids are getting older, there’s a possibility that they can share in the back to school systems and get started on learning to make some school decisions.
As gatekeepers, often we know where to buy all the things, what to do first and how to organize the lists around the start of school and how to manage the school year. It makes us really busy( stressed!), and many times the kids are not grateful or understanding of our careful choices or suggestions.
Back to school systems for school age kids
This episode we focus on sharing our family values, teaching some of our school systems to our kids, so they have some autonomy and letting them wrestle with some low stakes decision making.
It might be easier and quicker if we do everything ourselves but in the long run, it’s not okay to keep a tight reign on everything always.
Come with me on a journey as I share three ways we can give back to the family, so there’s less crazy and more understanding during the back to school season. As we show them how to manage significant transition times- like a boss! ( because they are not going to experience things like this…….soon?) The big bonus is that it spills into the school year and sets us all up for much more collaboration, understanding and less burden of being the keeper of the mental load.
Growing Nimble Families podcast encourages the celebration of school age kids traveling through middle childhood
Show Notes
When we control, every little detail kids will find ways to take back some control somehow. During the school-age years while we need to teach and direct we must find ways to share why we do what we do, give ample opportunity and space to talk through and allow the chips to fall on the simple things when the stakes are low and real learning can happen.
After years of being solely in control for many times, the school-age years seems trying and tiring as the kids push against the rules and want to know why? It is really hard as parents to let go of doing it- whatever ‘it’ may be- just one way when you know it to be true or better. Risk taking seems all the harder when they are at school, but they need to know we’re there for them to guide, mentor, share and tell, when necessary.
Kids learn by doing. We can be there while they are doing something, like back to school so that next time they can try and do for themselves. They have the new knowledge they need the practice and to sharpen those skills.
Not all kids are the same, and you know your family. I hope that while you listen, you’ll keep your family in mind and perhaps find somewhere to start.
Resources mentioned in the episode:
Video: The Holderness Family
 
Healthy school lunch

Other places for inspiration
Awesome emotionally healthy kids

Your guide to mastering whole family systems during the school age years


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7 years ago
33 minutes 5 seconds

Growing Nimble Families
Rethinking learning, motivation and grades for kids that are 11+
 


Middle and secondary school kids have a lot of new things to handle. We’ve talked about managing projects and how to study in previous episodes. Today we’re talking with Jessica Lahey, author of the New York Times bestselling book, The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed.
We’re talking about some of the big questions to do with motivation, learning and grades that appear in middle school including portals and letting them ask for help. Middle and Secondary school is a big step for us as parents as we learn to let go carefully, thoughtfully and in due time.
This is a good episode for new incoming parents and parents wanting to change their current situation.
Growing Nimble Families podcast encourages the celebration of school age kids traveling through middle childhood
Show Notes
Jessica talks about Middle school and Secondary school students:

* What led you to write a book like this?
* If you have a child that’s not motivated in school should you pay them for better results?

Resource: The opposite of spoiled by Ron Lieber

* How do you show recognition as a parent if your child does really well? ( Honors, A grades, full marks)


* What is Process over product?
* Good questions to ask about good work?
* What a good student/parent-teacher conference looks like.
* What’s the deal should I pay for grades or should I not?
* What parents really need to know that our kids don’t tell us


* What is Autonomy supportive parenting?
* What are two things that we can confidently stop doing ( and it will be much better!)

Jessica on Twitter     Jessica on Instagram
WHAT TO DO NEXT:
So you’ve listened to this episode – if you liked it and want to hear other ones – and I really think you will….you should do this right now:
    
   How to listen and subscribe to this show
I’d love to hear from you about the show.
Any comments about the podcast use the Voicemail
Use the hashtag #gnfsak
If you’ve enjoyed the show please take the time to share it with friends and leave a review for it on iTunes or Stitcher.
 



 
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7 years ago
38 minutes 15 seconds

Growing Nimble Families
How do you help support and gently direct your child in choosing a career path


Jobs are disappearing and lots of new types of jobs appear all the time. The path towards school age kids future career and job ideas doesn’t have to be random. With the student ratio of students to career counselor in many schools being 491:1 it is really important that parents are involved in supporting the whole process.
Our guest today is Jamie Beck, M.S, speaker and former CSU Career Counselor. She’s the founder of Career vision by jamie.com  where she is reshaping the way job seekers fundamentally conceptualize, search, and apply for work. She’s bringing information for parents of all the ages of school age children that help us be involved but the kids doing the learning.
Lots of the ideas Jaime shares apply throughout the school age. You don’t have to be a middle or high school parent for this episode.
Growing Nimble Families podcast encourages the celebration of school age kids traveling through middle childhood
Show Notes
Jamie talks about
Tips and ideas for elementary, middle and high school parents on supporting their children as we’re the best careers support for them.
What’s your career bank like?
What to do if your child gets stuck on ONE idea that’s not practical?
What’s one thing parents can do to understand future job/career prospects?
An alternative way of looking at future career ideas that don’t keep us fixed or stuck with one idea.
Helping kids see the reality of careers
Practical things to do if the kids have NO idea about career ideas. How to get them going.
The significance of the number; 32, 850  and our children
When your child wants to do an irregular income career you’re not happy about….how to navigate this path as a parent and child.
Resources: Pi day activities

* Find more than 50 ideas for ways to make Pi Day entertaining, educational, tasty, and fun. 
* 14 Mathtastic Pi Day Activities for the Classroom
* π Day March 14, 2018

Brain Sort Question from the podcast:  What is it that you ( the parent) love that you would do for free 40 hours a week? ( Ends: March 24 9pm Eastern)
WHAT TO DO NEXT:
So you’ve listened to this episode – if you liked it and want to hear other ones – and I really think you will….you should do this right now:
    
   How to listen and subscribe to this show
I’d love to hear from you about the show.
Any comments about the podcast use the Voicemail
Use the hashtag #gnfsak
If you’ve enjoyed the show please take the time to share it with friends and leave a review for it on iTunes or Stitcher.
 


 
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7 years ago
45 minutes 55 seconds

Growing Nimble Families
Getting on with the changing school age kid without losing your mind

Anyone else experiencing a new normal with the kids? Things are different. There’s more of things happening that didn’t use to happen like arguments or talking back. You know it’s part of growing up but this doesn’t seem like the kids you know.
Where has my child gone?
This episode is all about how to be comfortable in this transition. Honor who they were, are and going to be and without losing your mind. Encouragement to establish new baselines and figure a way for more autonomy to happen.
 
Growing Nimble Families podcast encourages the celebration of school age kids traveling through middle childhood
Show Notes
00:00 Introduction +Transitioning rites of passage for parents
Where has my child gone?
6:25 Prompts to remind us of the passing of time
9:36 Affirming our children
12:10 Unconditional love and how they see love vs what we show them
12:55 Keep talking activities suitable for school age kids
14:50 We need rites of passage reminders because there are things we want to pass on to them
18:56 When we’re present we can share how to recover and be resilient
Resources: After the encouragement comes action. Rituals to help us as parents move from little kid to bigger kid to teen. Here’s what you can do colour edition || Black and White edition
WHAT TO DO NEXT:
So you’ve listened to this episode – if you liked it and want to hear other ones – and I really think you will….you should do this right now:
    
   How to listen and subscribe to this show
I’d love to hear from you about the show.
Any comments about the podcast use the Voicemail
Use the hashtag #creatingfamilyhaven
If you’ve enjoyed the show please take the time to share it with friends and leave a review for it on iTunes or Stitcher.

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7 years ago
25 minutes 12 seconds

Growing Nimble Families
Awesome Emotionally Healthy Kids

As school age kids mature they bump up against a few truths.
They are not perfect or the best. There are others who are better.
They have to work harder at some things than others and it doesn’t seem fair that others find it easier.
Feelings are hurt. They question themselves. They wonder, ‘I used to be good- great- amazing. What happened?’
“I can’t do this? I’m embarrassed to ask?’
‘What do you mean I missed the deadline? It’s not that late. No one told me it was important! It’s not my fault! ‘
‘ That was humiliating! They were way better than me. I thought I was good? I’m not going again.’
‘ I’m not doing it. I don’t want to. I don’t care.’
But if families want to raise emotionally healthy kids there needs to be a careful navigation of the messages, support, guidelines kids receive so they feel confident and ready to move through the teen years and into young adulthood.
This episode we talk about the messages kids get in the first 10 years of their life that give them freedom, warmth, nurture, unconditional love and if this is all they receive they might just become entitled teens and adults with unrealistic expectations with negative self-talk or lack motivation.
However, there are an awesome set of second messages that kids really need to know that give them wings to fly, confidence to get up again, the courage to thrive and seek out solutions. I’m excited about sharing this episode as it’s a mindset shift and super easy to do.
This growing up thing is tricky to navigate for parents and kids. Let’s do this together!
Growing Nimble Families podcast encourages the celebration of school age kids traveling through middle childhood
Show Notes
00:00 Introduction to raising emotionally healthy kids
03:55 Beginning to see things differently
05:29 See things from their perspective
06:34 Transition from this seems easy to some. Some of this is really hard and I can’t do it! What do I do?
07:11 Dr Tim Elmore childhood and adolescent messages
12:42  Making those decisions isn’t as easy they think
15:37 Talking about thinking ahead and putting off instant gratification
16:53  The special lessons that they learn through these second messages including how to help.
23:10 Practical ways to put the second messages into action
Resources for Awesome Emotionally Healthy Kids:
Contributions
Where do I start teaching our laundry system to the kids?
4 words that will change your contributions and chores forever
Contributions are better than Chores
Redistribution of contributions
Three things we don’t rotate in our parenting but maybe we should
Why the chores in your family are not working and some solutions
Grit
TED talks for parents – Grit
When they make mistakes and fail-practical ways to help parents and children learn how to navigate this undertalked about topic during childhood
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7 years ago
34 minutes 34 seconds

Growing Nimble Families
Rituals for Parents

 
This episode we are looking for the good in the stage we are in.
We love to look back and remember fondly especially when times are tough in our current stage. If you’ve ever been stuck looking back and worrying about the future this is the episode for you to see how to move positively forward with your school age kid.
Rituals help us move along and enjoy the stage we are at. Being positive with the things we are doing and going to be doing helps us see our kids struggles and keeps us on track. We get them ready and we get ourselves ready for it.  Rituals help us with the transitions as parents move from little kid to bigger kid to teen.
Growing Nimble Families podcast encourages the celebration of school age kids traveling through middle childhood
Show Notes
00:00 Introduction
03:58  Positive ways of separating from our child and attaching in more mature ways
19:50 New framework for seeing their kid, child, tween, teen and young adult
Resources: 7 habits of Highly Effective Teens positive way to talk about the future, planning, goal setting.
Straight talk for kids  Peer to peer conversations for the kids on motivation, involvement, frustrations, how to get better results with your parents, homework and relationships like positive ways to deal with brother/sisters. It’s another voice that says the same types of things you’ve likely been saying.
Pass It On: Building a Legacy of Faith for Your Children through Practical and Memorable Experiences Each grade level is covered with a special experience and passing of time activity. It’s a chance to celebrate positively the passing of time that honours the journey of childhood for the kids and us.
Painless study techniques short chapters and good for elementary and lower middle/secondary children especially if you can read it together. 
The organized student Reading this book before your child transitions to that new school is a good reminder of different ways to organize sheets, work, homework, binders, backpacks and lockers for school.
Not all the ideas work for your child but when they have struggles you’ve got some new ideas to try. This is great especially when your child has different organizational strategies than you!
WHAT TO DO NEXT:
So you’ve listened to this episode – if you liked it and want to hear other ones – and I really think you will….you should do this right now:
    
   How to listen and subscribe to this show
I’d love to hear from you about the show.
Any comments about the podcast use the Voicemail
Use the hashtag #creatingfamilyhaven
If you’ve enjoyed the show please take the time to share it with friends and leave a review for it on iTunes or Stitcher.
 
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8 years ago
31 minutes 44 seconds

Growing Nimble Families
How to completely change how school kids study for quizzes and tests

Did you know there are six scientifically better ways to study and prepare for tests and quizzes that will help kids learn?
As kids are starting back to school many are experiencing those words, ” Study for the test on Friday!” and coming home and reading through their work the night before ( morning of!) believing that this is a good way of studying. It’s generally the only study method they know at the beginning.
Parent’s edition of study skills at home
This is a Parent’s edition of how to study to support the studying and revising that happens at home.
We all get used to ways of studying and working that suit us. Our children may learn differently to us. Whether they are entering 3rd grade and beginning to have spelling tests and short quizzes and are looking to start out the study habit right or you are looking for some different solutions to a frustrated situation this episode has something for you.
We go through how to have good learning habits that avoid cramming ( as the only strategy- listen to find out why that’s not such a good idea!)
In this episode, Cindy Wooldridge from the Learning Scientists.org talks about the 6 learning strategies that work for school age kids to use to study better. This is a special parents edition. You may be thinking, Schools teach study skills so I don’t need to worry.  Maybe you don’t but children need the time to get comfortable with new skills.
They need time to practice.
They need time to master.
Mastery takes time and the school age years give ample time to gradually learn these skills before they plunge into multiple tests and prep.
 
Growing Nimble Families podcast encourages the celebration of school age kids traveling through middle childhood
Show Notes

* Encouragement for parents who are worried about how to help students learn/ study and start good habits
* What’s the best way to help our kids when they come home with those notes in the planner that says, “Study for the test on Tuesday”?

Resources: Spaced practice

* What would you teach first for learning strategies

Retrieval practice- “Having the problems and coming up with the answer for them or seeing the terms and coming up with the definitions themselves and then going back and checking their work.”
Resources: Retrieval practices that work
Spaced practice- “spacing out the study over time”

* Why did you choose these 6 strategies?
* What are the other 4 other study techniques and examples I could try?


* Elaborate- “constantly asking why and how do you find out about this.”
* Interleaving- “switching things up instead of always studying in the same order change/ or different subjects.”
* Concrete examples- “coming up with real world examples for the material”
* Dual Coding- “idea we tend to learn things better when we have a picture associated with it.”


* In one ear and out the other why cramming isn’t’ the answer over time if you want to retain and reuse the information

Do any of these work better with elementary students?
The case for letting kids find their best way to study and how we can guide them without taking over
Supporting school age kids to navigate the school systems to know grades, contact teachers, find information on the teacher’s webpage and learn how to make study timetables etc.
The hidden shame of studying and study skills
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8 years ago
42 minutes 53 seconds

Growing Nimble Families
Mindfulness practices for families to have peaceful homes

 
School age kids have a lot of big feelings. Dr Carla Naumburg from  Carla Naumburg shares mindfulness practices families can do that help develop skills of listening, paying attention and empathy. Mindfulness sets the stage for dealing with stress and managing big feelings.
 
Growing Nimble Families podcast encourages the celebration of school age kids traveling through middle childhood

* Why is mindfulness such a big deal to learn for our kids?
*  Ever wondered what mindfulness is not
* Teaching about big feelings is hard. We’re all in it together and learning how to do this


* What’s a mindful practice that you’ve seen work really powerfully in your family or in a family you’ve worked with?
*  5 finger breathing


* Any feeling is okay but not every behaviour
* The single biggest trick in meltdowns that will change everything is changing how we stay calm.
* Using I-messages…

resource: Emotional literacy or intelligence

* How do you incorporate mindfulness practice into a household where there are lots of moving parts?
* Have you seen any examples of mindfulness practices in schools that parents might want to share in their local schools?

 
Books: Dr Carla Naumburg, author of Ready, Set, Breathe: Practising Mindfulness with Your Children for Fewer Meltdowns and a More Peaceful Family (New Harbinger, 2015)
Parenting in the Present Moment: How to Stay Focused on What Really Matters
 
 
WHAT TO DO NEXT:
So you’ve listened to this episode – if you liked it and want to hear other ones – and I really think you will….you should do this right now:
    
   How to listen and subscribe to this show
I’d love to hear from you about the show.
Any comments about the podcast use the Voicemail
Use the hashtag #creatingfamilyhaven
If you’ve enjoyed the show please take the time to share it with friends and leave a review for it on iTunes or Stitcher.
 
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8 years ago
39 minutes 42 seconds

Growing Nimble Families
Positive Phrases all kids should hear

May is the season of testing. With testing comes stress and anxiety. And that’s just the parents! Just kidding. Well not really. There’s a different tone in the house as each child in the family prepares for tests. Whether they are elementary or Primary kids who just go in and test or middle and secondary students who need to study for their test they could all do with a lot of encouraging words.
If you’re not into the positive phrase habit, now is a great time to get started on this year round habit. It supports family life and contributes to a better family atmosphere.
Listen as we learn some great positive phrases or encouraging phrases all children should hear.
Growing Nimble Families podcast encourages the celebration of school age kids travelling through middle childhood
Introduction
4:20  What we say matters
7:25  Personalities change everything
12:01 How we set the tone for year-round encouraging words
12:15  First way for families to find a way to use encouraging words
13:09 Second way for families to find a way to use encouraging words13:09
14:5 Third way for families to find a way to use encouraging words
Resource:   Podcast episode
15:10 Fourth way for families to find a way to use encouraging words
Resource: Side by side conversations
Resource: Watch a video slideshow of all of these phrases
18:06   Getting the right blend of positive encouragement and pointing out things
19:26  The 19 encouraging phrases   
42:56  How to do this throughout the year  
Resource: Podcast episode
WHAT TO DO NEXT:
So you’ve listened to this episode – if you liked it and want to hear other ones – and I really think you will….you should do this right now:
    
   How to listen and subscribe to this show
I’d love to hear from you about the show.
Any comments about the podcast use the Voicemail
Use the hashtag #creatingfamilyhaven
If you’ve enjoyed the show please take the time to share it with friends and leave a review for it on iTunes or Stitcher.
 
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8 years ago
48 minutes 23 seconds

Growing Nimble Families
Kids and project work not a breeze? Try these

 
Project work can really test the limits of modern families. We all tackle projects differently and each child is no different.
Do you have a cram it all in at the last minute, stay up late child?
Do you have a start strong and get sidetracked with the colours and font child?
Chances are however your child tackles project work it’s different to you and when you need to work together to go buy the things or what to say to Grandpa on the phone it’s not unusual for things to get heated.
Listen in for how to work with your school age child on a project without taking over and teaching them the skills of mastering project work for themselves.
Growing Nimble Families podcast encourages the celebration of school age kids travelling through middle childhood
WHAT TO DO NEXT:
So you’ve listened to this episode – if you liked it and want to hear other ones – and I really think you will….you should do this right now:
    
   How to listen and subscribe to this show
I’d love to hear from you about the show.
Any comments about the podcast use the Voicemail
Use the hashtag #creatingfamilyhaven
If you’ve enjoyed the show please take the time to share it with friends and leave a review for it on iTunes or Stitcher.
 
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8 years ago
33 minutes 12 seconds

Growing Nimble Families
Big changes

 
There are some big changes for RaisingPlayfulTots and Play-Activities. Tune in and hear what’s up!
 
Would welcome your feedback
 
WHAT TO DO NEXT:
So you’ve listened to this episode – if you liked it and want to hear other ones – and I really think you will….you should do this right now:
    
   How to listen and subscribe to this show
I’d love to hear from you about the show.
Any comments about the podcast use the Voicemail
Use the hashtag #creatingfamilyhaven
If you’ve enjoyed the show please take the time to share it with friends and leave a review for it on iTunes or Stitcher.

 

 
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8 years ago
8 minutes 17 seconds

Growing Nimble Families
How to protect without being overprotective
 

That gap between loving them in a protective cocoon and letting them experience the struggles and hardships of life is so hard for parents.  Even a butterfly has to leave that protective cocoon and fly.
Parents are often told

* they are overprotective.
* It’s not good.
* Do different.

There’s a lot of fear around what might happen to our children that leads to being overprotective; some of it is genuine fear and some caught fear. This school aged time is a good time to address taking risk issues in an age-appropriate way. There’s a lot of time for easy, gently progress with a few bumps along the way.
This show we give you the resources to do differently. We talk about HOW not be an overprotective parent so that we continue to nurture our children. AND  WHAT to do to let them grow. They need to learn how to take risks, manage risks and we need to learn to let them.  It’s not our job to eliminate failure and disappointment. This is a school age edition.
Listen in for 7 things we can do to stop overprotecting and letting them grow with your school aged children.
Leave a comment below or on a voicemail about your whole family system.
Raising Playful Tots – the podcast for parents who want to make the most of their playtime and enjoy simple parenting
Click the play button above and let’s get some ideas
Show notes
00:00   Introduction to Why I teach children to manage risks instead of shielding them from every hazard
02:04  What we can do about reducing overprotecting and letting them grow
02:12  First practical thing we can do to let our children grow without overly protecting them.
Resources: Society of Nimble Parents
03:24 The second practical thing we can do to let our children grow without overly protecting them.
Resources: Parent’s guide to transitioning from doing the packed lunch
08:41 Teach them what to do in tough situations is the third practical thing we can do to let our children grow without overly protecting them.
Resources: 10 Questions to ask your child instead of “What was your grade?”
Resources: Character Conversation Cards
Resources: Handy Conversation Starters that get real conversation
Pinterest board full of Conversation starters on a range of topics and types


16:08  Restricting independence unnecessarily is the fourth practical thing we can do to let our children grow without overly protecting them.

Resource: Start with teaching kindness online with Galit Breen   
Resource: What is Low-risk independence?
21:24  the fifth practical thing we can do to let our chi...
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8 years ago

Growing Nimble Families
Nurturing Whole Family Systems

 
Routines and Rhythms become more important as our lifestyles change. In the early years there were a lot individual milestones like walking, reading first words, blowing bubbles, staying and playing with something for longer and longer times.
As we move on into the school years we need many more whole family systems. Systems where we all have to work together to make it work. Things like family meeting, contributions, family meals/ lunch, family game night/day/afternoon and reading aloud together .
This episode we dive into how we encourage family to work together so these family systems are nurtured and flourish.
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00:00   Introduction to whole family systems
03:05   FIRST thing we can do to encourage family unity and teaching our children how to be a responsible part of a whole
10:18     SECOND thing we can do to encourage family unity and teaching our children how to be a responsible part of a whole
20:19     What to expect in the school aged years in your family
Resource: Where do I start teaching our laundry system to the kids?
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8 years ago
29 minutes 54 seconds

Growing Nimble Families
Building Family Culture during the school age years
 

We know about Early Childhood, Tweens and Teens but what is that time between Early Childhood and Tweens all about?
We discuss that school aged time I call Midhood that starts at aged 5 and goes through to about 12.
Today I want to talk about the importance of the school age years and how this overlooked time really is a missed opportunity for family growth, family culture and family connectedness. I want to show you how to change this so you continue to build on all that Early Childhood wiseness you’ve already got going on.
This episode is all about the life and times of a school aged parent. We going to map out the school age time and establish some milestones. These markers help us pause and evaluate and check we’re going the direction we really want for our family. At the end of the episode I’ll share a planning freebie that’ll help you start the school age journey with purpose, calm and unhurried.
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00:00   Introduction
00:45   Definitions and terms
Resource: Midhood
01:53    What happens to the adults when the children go to school?
2:58     How would you sum up Early Childhood?
3:30      More about Midhood
5:38   What are some of these simple skills and teaching times
resources:

raisingplayfultots.com/74
raisingplayfultots.com/166
raisingplayfultots.com/195
https://play-activities.com/mini-rite-of-passage-for-school-aged-children/

8:34  The big deal about these activities
10:30 Second part of midhood
11:50  Honoring our Introverts and Extroverts
resource: Susan Cain: Quiet
13:04   What does midhood Mean for parents
13:59    Why we need to embrace mistakes
resource:
https://raisingplayfultots.com/189 
https://raisingplayfultots.com/190
17:47   Systems for the midhood
 

 
 
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8 years ago
23 minutes 17 seconds

Growing Nimble Families
Start with teaching kindness online with Galit Breen
 


 
If you’ve not seen,Raising a digital kid without having been one by Galit Breen of theselittlewaves.net you are missing out. It’s a really good TED talk. Galit is our guest today and is author of the book Kindness Wins.
In an age of grit, perseverance and growth mindset some of the other skills like kindness have taken a bit of a battering. Isn’t kindness too soft a skill? Won’t they get eaten alive unless we teach them how to win at all costs?
We want our children to be kind and we enjoy experiencing kindness ourselves but we’re not always sure about how to translate that well online. When they get email or use text how do we encourage them to be kind, just the same as if they could see this person.  When they get their first social media accounts how will they comment and what types of things will they say?
We have a great discussion on raising digital kids not from a fear or knee jerk position. I know it’s hard. But leading with kindness first. Kindness always when we’re online with lots of practical suggestions.
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Show notes

01:54 How do you start the conversation about being online with your children?
03:39 How to encourage a pro kindness intentional attitude with our children about being online without just saying don’t do this and don’t do that without sharing what to do + examples
05:15 Boys and being kind. Tips on how to be kind
09:12 Time and years vs quick hacks and quick tips
10:52 How to come back from shame and hurt online ( personal perspective) + ideas for children
Resource: Savvy Parent’s club
Resource: Society of Nimble Parents
15:19 Online chat systems and comment systems- what advise for our children
20:18 What do to do when it feels weird teaching online things by sitting side by side with our children.
21:13  Three good modeling ideas we can use when we’re online to show them
24:38 The power of finding your group
28:41 How can we show kindness to our kids without feeling we’re not making them resilient or we’re doing them a disservice to raise kind kids in a tough world.
Resource: 27 PERFECTLY SIMPLE WAYS TO SHOW KINDNESS TO OUR KIDS
Quote: Parent for the moment and not what the moment means
35:25  4 Kindness books and friends recommendations
Resource: Kindness Wins
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9 years ago
47 minutes 27 seconds

Growing Nimble Families
Tackling Ten Tricky Social Life Skills

Today we’re continuing the theme of Life Skills but not the practical hands on life skills of mowing the lawn or following a system like learning how to use a washing machine.
We’re going to look at 10 social life skills. Social life skills are trickier to pin down. Just like life skills over time practice makes it easier but these skills are impacted by each of our families and the personalities that make up our families.
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Growing Nimble Families podcast encourages the celebration of school age kids travelling through middle childhood
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00:00   Introduction
2:24     FIRST social life skill
8:08    SECOND social life skill
Resources: 
Resources: Empathy Game: Moments a Day
 
12:25   THIRD  social life skill
Resources: Cultural Iceberg
 
19:57   FOURTH social life skill
Resource: Steps to Uniting your house when you Disagree and teaching the family how to Disagree Appropriately
 
24:37   FIFTH  social life skill
Resource: The 4 part system
 
26:33   SIXTH  social life skill
Resource: Scripts to say to improve self talk
 
31:45    SEVENTH social life skill
Resource: Benefits of Previewing
 
35:41    EIGHTH social life skill
43:58    NINTH  social life skill
50:12  TENTH  social life skill
Resource: Conscious Discipline
Resource:  1+3+10
Resource:  
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9 years ago
59 minutes 16 seconds

Growing Nimble Families
How to thrive more with your partner and there’s kids about
 


Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo, who are best selling authors and hosts of the world’s #1 Marriage Podcast, One extraordinary marriage.  share their tips on maintaining relationships, marriage and the art of balancing kids, the spouse and not forgetting yourself.
We get into adult conversation about relationships so maybe this is an episode for headphones and away from little ears.
It’s exciting to have a husband and wife perspective on family and kids together in one interview.  We go beyond, spend time together and share ideas and encouragement. I hope you enjoy all the ideas and resources shared.
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* Contributions don’t work well if everyone isn’t on board in the family.
* Appreciation boards won’t work if a partner thinks they are a waste of time.
* Independent play can’t thrive if one partner schedules out the whole week.

03:18   How has your relationship with your spouse and your children changed from then to now
05:32  What have been some of the struggles that you’ve had to overcome in your own marriage?
07:22  How did you turn the corner?
08:34  Healing and reuniting through The 60 day Sex Challenge episode 1
14:45   Encouraging ideas for parents with really young children
19:00  The good reasons for scheduling vs spontaneous. The case for being intentional about your relationship
21:27   The intimacy lifestyle
23:06   When you are the primary caregiver and you’ve put your relationship on the back burner what can you do to take action or start again?
25:45   What will we talk about if not the kids?
Resource: Our 6 questions
Resource: Weekly marriage and family questions
30:21    When the kids leave: How and why we must start preparing from now ( + ideas)
36: 45    Entrepreneur :How do you remain intimate when you work together and live together
Guest bump : Jennifer -UNSCHOOLING
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9 years ago
46 minutes 34 seconds

Growing Nimble Families
Developing your family meal ritual
 
 

 
Part two of creating a family meal ritual that lasts for families.
Listen to part one
Now we’re at the table and beginning to eat. Listen in to hear ideas on how to create your family meal ritual full of memories and connection that grows with you from high chair to teens.
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Show notes
00:01 Introduction
1:24 First things first starting conversations so they don’t go flat.
Resource: Simple Play and Parenting Planner
2:57  Benefits of having an advocate
4:04 How to make sure you don’t have crickets at the table when you ask questions?
4:36 Grow with your family and what to add to your collections
6:44 Suggestions of other ways to have conversations at the meal table
10:52 What if you don’t know the answers?
14:54  Do you have to talk a meal times?
16:36 What are those common things that happen everyday we often miss talking about?
17:52 Examples of dinner games and activities or all ages
19:32 After the meal- what happens here?
21:45 How do you find your family speed for meal times? How slow and  how fast?
23:55 Bringing service to the meal table as part of your family ritual
24:49  Closing up and leaving ideas
26:48 Tips for finishing well
28:02 Is it better to add all these ideas in at once?
 
 
 
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9 years ago
33 minutes 40 seconds

Growing Nimble Families
Raising school age kids.

We are celebrating the energy of Middle Childhood ( or Midhood) development and discussing parenting challenges of school age children ( Ages 5-14)