I was about 9 years old and in the early hours of the morning to escape my fathers violence I climbed out of my bedroom window and fled into the wintry night.
This is a story from my childhood, I am sharing this traumatic experience in the hope it helps anyone who can relate to be curious about your own trauma and continue to heal and grow from your own negative life experiences. 🙏🏼
We all have things in our childhood, I want to encourage you to go and sit with those memories that will help give you a key to your recovery and moving on.
Your life matters, and you can break generational patterns - and commit to do the work.
Get a hold of this e-book I AM NOT MY FATHER until 15th November - only at £7.00 (valued at £29.95) which includes the audiobook at paulscanlon.com/iamnotmyfather
In part two of this podcast about my Relationship Wisdom I share more about these 3 points.
#3 - All Relationships Come With Distinct Energies
#4 - You cannot control other people’s behaviour, but you can limit the impact with boundaries.
#5 - Never make your emotional home in another person.
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Here is part one of Paul Scanlon's Top 5 Relationship Wisdom.
#1 - Relationships Are Spatial
#2 - The Version Of Me In Your Head Is Not My Responsibility
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It’s not change that stops us it’s the transition from what or who we know to something or someone we don’t know.
Change is easier if we have good transition skills and that is what I want to give you through this teaching.
In this podcast episode I share about the 3 stages from caterpillar, cocoon to butterfly. Cocoons of transition aren’t cosy and if you’re in one please remember that we fall apart to become new. In the cocoon a caterpillar liquifies, it literally has a meltdown.
We have to go through the dark to fly in the sun.
As well as share a metaphor about transition when it comes to the baby, the mother and the midwife. There's a crucial moment in childbirth called the point of transition.
It's when the baby is in the birth canal between where it's been and where it's going.
The key player is the transition coach and she's called the midwife. I hope this teaching helps you or someone you know who id going through a session of transition.
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Has life been painting layers on you?
I want you to get back to the bare oak version of who you are.
Here is a preview from my online course - The Prosperity Of The Soul.
In this short episode I want to share with you about
If you’re interested in learning more about your SOUL get a hold of my online course for 60% off - limited time only at paulscanlon.com
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Narcissism is all about a false self it’s a mask that people wear which slips over time and when it does you should be paying attention.
It’s the fear of appearing ordinary which drives them to exaggeration and showing off to appear extraordinary.
Don’t ever try to confront or change a narcissist it’s like trying to nail jelly to the wall. Wish them well and move away from their toxicity.
Here are my 10 signs to look out for when it comes to narcissism to avoid in others and look out for if you have them in yourself.
1. They are self obsessed, self promoting and self absorbed whilst pretending to be interested in you.
2. They brainwash you to believe that you need them in your life because their life is far superior.
3. They manipulate you into their version of you.
4. They make you question your thoughts and decisions in favour of theirs.
5. They will never respect your boundaries because they only see their own importance.
6. They don’t mind ignoring shaming minimising or isolating you to serve themselves.
7. They will Gaslight and marginalise you then encourage and praise you simultaneously in the hope you don’t spot the manipulation.
8. They use people because their agenda and priorities are always more important.
9. They need people and relationships just like the rest of us but they’re unable to see others as equals.
10. They will only want you in their world if you offer them financial security, status, support their projects or just generally stroke their ego in some way.
I love hearing from you so let me know what you thought of this episode either on social media @PaulScanlonUK or email pa@paulscanlon.com
All genuinely prosperity is rooted in the soul, but we have often not taught that well in the church.
May is mental health awareness month is USA and I want to help your mental and emotional health through this message.
We’ve got too many good pastors and leaders majoring on spiritual health who are neglecting their own mental and emotional health.
Your spiritual health does not automatically take care of your mental, emotional or physical health, that’s just not how humans work.
Hope this helps someone today, leave a comment if it does. 🙏🏼
Through this teaching I want to give you my 6 hacks to Emotional Prosperity!
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This vid has been weird to film because due to the NDA I signed I’ve hardly spoken about it out loud.
It still feels like my body is catching up with my mind about it all, and hearing my own voice talking to you about it was another step in realising what just happened.
I want you more than anything to lean into saying “YES” to some scary opportunity in your life right now.
You just never know where your yes will take you to in life. I was asked the other day by the guy next to me on a plane “so what do you do”? I looked at him and said for the first time ever: “I’m an actor”.., Saying it felt both crazy and somehow grounding and normal.
I owned it out loud for the first time and my imposter syndrome fell silent and I felt like an actor, because I am.
What do you need to own today?
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Stolen Focus: Why You Can’t Pay Attention And How To Think Deeply Again.
Here is part two of my conversation with best selling author Johann Hari about his new book Stolen Focus which is out this month (January 2022). Johann is a brilliant thinker and this is the best book I’ve read on the issue of how our attention is being hijacked and our focus being stolen in our digitally addicted world.
In this conversation Johann shares some of the insights he has learnt from interviewing 250+ of the leading experts when it comes to Attention. He gives some great advice on what we can practically do in our own lives to help live a more focused life, as well as what we can begin to do not just individually but as a society.
This is a conversation that we can all get a lot from and I hope it adds value to your world, and I’d love for you to share it with someone in your world. Please leave a review and subscribe!
Let us know when you are listening and what you think of this episode: @PaulScanlonUK & @Johann.Hari
Get a hold of Johann Hari's new book: Stolen Focus at - https://stolenfocusbook.com/
Stolen Focus: Why You Can’t Pay Attention And How To Think Deeply Again.
Here is part one of my conversation with best selling author Johann Hari about his new book Stolen Focus which is out this month (January 2022). Johann is a brilliant thinker and this is the best book I’ve read on the issue of how our attention is being hijacked and our focus being stolen in our digitally addicted world.
In this conversation Johann shares some of the insights he has learnt from interviewing 250+ of the leading experts when it comes to Attention. He gives some great advice on what we can practically do in our own lives to help live a more focused life, as well as what we can begin to do not just individually but as a society.
This is a conversation that we can all get a lot from and I hope it adds value to your world, and I’d love for you to share it with someone in your world. Please leave a review and subscribe!
Let us know when you are listening and what you think of this episode: @PaulScanlonUK & @Johann.Hari
Get a hold of Johann Hari's new book: Stolen Focus at - https://stolenfocusbook.com/
If you are in any form of leadership, cultural engineering or team building this podcast conversation is for you!
Part two of the conversation I had with New York Times best seller - Greg McKeown
In this episode we speak about how to scale all that you want to do and do it effortlessly.
We also speak about how to adapt this way of working with your family, teams and culture.
I’d love to hear what you think of this episode, share with me when you are listening @PaulScanlonuk and tag @GregMcKeown in too!
This podcast conversation is for you if you want to learn the ways of living an effortless life in all that you do as well as achieving all that is within you!
Greg McKeown is the author of 2 New York Times best seller Essentialism and Effortless.
We have split this conversation over 2 episodes, this first part focuses on how to live a more effortless life and the foundations of it.
I’d love to hear what you think of this episode, share with me when you are listening @PaulScanlonuk and tag @GregMcKeown in too!
On this podcast conversation I am joined by @Case.Kenny who is the host of the podcast - New Mindset, Who Dis?
Case is from Chicago and has developed a really engaged following of people who connect with him on all things Self-Help, Wellness, Mindsets and practical insights on how to live a passionate and purposeful life.
What we talk about in this podcast conversation.
Relationships, self awareness, the power of unlearning, mindfulness and challenging entrenched patterns.
Common struggles people have in life when it comes to relationships.
How to not lose yourself in relationships
Relational attachment styles
Differences between facts and feelings
The importance of unlearning and self awareness
Managing isolation
Men and vulnerability
The power of optimism
Listen and share at paulscanlon.com/podcast-channel
On my recent trip to Switzerland I had a bad experience in a beautiful place.
My memory of that place was forever tarnished by my experience whilst being there.
This phenomenon is called our experiencing self and it always overrides our otherwise happy memories.
Watch this longer video for free on my global MENTORSHIP GROUP with exclusive content added daily as well as an archive of free audio, blogs and video teaching series to access and be a part of a group of like minded thinkers and growers.
Get access at paulscanlon.com/thementorshipgroup
People often come into our lives to help us rather than just inspire us.
One of those people for me was Bishop TD Jakes.
And over the 40+ years now I have been in communication in all different forms and I want to help you develop as a communicator.
I want to influence you to grow not just inspire you to copy.
They say when the students ready the teacher appears and so from today I’m offering you an amazing growth opportunity as a public speaker and communicator.
The world needs your voice but it won’t help you to find or develop it, but I will. 🙏🏼
The Communication Masterclass is for anyone who has something to say.
Get 60% off for a limited time only off this 7hr online course - paulscanlon.com
Your message is worth sharing and this course will enable you to be the best you can be.
In this podcast episode I want to help you identify the importance of recognising shifts in your life and how to navigate through them.
I also breakdown the evolution of media over the years and why its become important to me to make a move away from the noise that is social media and for me to be more intentional in who I pour my life into through this owned community rather then the rented space.
I’d love for you to make the shift with me, for free in this online free private members community called THE MENTORSHIP GROUP.
This for a like minded core of people who want to be intentional about their growth. If you are someone who appreciates my content we want you to move in with us and stay for the community!
Im wanting to move more into legacy, fathering and mentoring with people who care.
You are going to join me at the best version of me I am at!
If you’re interested you can join for free at - thementorhsipgroup.com
Reevaluating what is important to you and how to structure your life around your values, and learning the art of having a fitness mindset.
Get rid of your junk values and hone in on your authentic self The combination of health, fitness and wellness.
You are really going to love this conversation with my new friend Brian Keane, one of the most genuine guys who speaks authentically and helps make his world of fitness relatable and actionable starting first with having a healthy mindset.
Connect with Brian and let him and I know when you’re listening - @BrianKeaneFitness @PaulScanlonUK. - Brian Keane podcast, briankeanefitness.com
Find out more about my 11 hour online video course - AGEING WELL. Master the art of ageing in these areas: Physically, Mentally, Emotionally, Relationally, Generationally.
Now 70% off for a limited time, visit: paulscanlon.com/ageingwell
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This podcast will help you….
QUESTIONS I ASK BRIAN…
Perceiving the dangerous that’s hidden amongst the apparently harmless.
Understanding what sub conscious beliefs in your life are governing negative outcomes?
Where in your life are there unexamined and unchallenged generational belief systems ?
In this podcast I look at family history trojan horses that bring harmful cargoes into our lives. I give you some examples from my own life of how I began to break free from generational repeat patterns of dysfunction and trauma.
Get your copy of my ebook - I AM NOT MY FATHER at iamnotmyfather.com
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Do you struggle with any of these areas in being vulnerable?
Speaking up? Saying No? Going for a new job? Lost a job? Having faith? Waiting for a medical outcome?
Doing things alone? Reaching out to someone? Asking for help? Sharing your creativity?
What is vulnerability to you?
In this episode I share some tips on how to experiment with vulnerability as well as some of my vulnerability. I breakdown what are the qualities to look for in people that are good to share your vulnerability with.
Vulnerability is complex and something I’ve struggled with all my life. It was a completely foreign concept in my fathers toxic masculinity parenting of us. Vulnerability is courage in you but it feels like inadequacy in me. I admire it in you but despise it in me. So in today’s show I’m trying to be vulnerable about vulnerability.
I share with you some practical tips on how you can start small in being more vulnerable with those in your world.
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Come and be a part of my online global community - THE MENTORSHIP GROUP, membership closes on June 7th and I want to invite you to find out if its something you’d be interested in being a part of. I love connecting each month with this great tribe and look forward to having you be a part.
Learn more at paulscanlon.com/mentorshipgroup
A behind the scenes look into working on a major tv show @NBCThisIsUs, the nuances of creativity, and not falling to the pressures of your society.
Ken Olin is a Writer, Executive Producer, Director and actor who has directed many episodes of television for shows including the blockbuster TV show THIS IS US, as well as Brothers and Sisters, The West Wing, Alias and many more.
In this conversation although this was our first time speaking together Ken and I had such a great flow, he is a great guy and you are going to love this chat it was as if I was catching up with a long time friend.
Ken shares a lot about the nuances of his creative process and working as a major player in the show THIS IS US, which is one of my favourite shows so it was such a honour to speak with him about this.
He shares about how he started out, and the differences between acting and directing, working with creative people and creating a healthy work culture.
This conversation is for any who love creativity, has an interest in film and television, and great advice for working in your element and not falling to the pressures that your culture may expect from you.
Ken also is vulnerable about raising his kids as well as managing his ambitions. And some great conversation about the hidden gifts of the pandemic.
Questions I ask Ken…
4.32 - Where did the idea of the show THIS IS US come from?
6.20 - How do you think the views perceive the show?
9.30 - Where does the sense of connectivity come from with the show? It feels like a therapy session.
13.30 - Milos character and the nuances.
15.34 - Do actors decide certain parts of a role or is that scripted?
17.58 - How did you find such an amazing cast?
20.15 - Do you think being an actor makes you a better director, if so why?
23.54 - Do you miss acting?
26.36 - A common thread in your life that you can track, that took you into this world?
31.19 - The emerging generations observations of wanting to work in their calling, what’s your thoughts on this?
37.08 - This is us is speaking to human needs - loneliness, depression, racism…
38.33 - How do you switch off, hobbies, interests?
42.44 - Do you enjoy being a Dad?
46.30 - Quick fire questions…
Something people often get wrong about you?
Last tv show you binged watched?
Favourite movie?
Concert or show you’ll never forget?
Favourite meal?
What books are you reading?
What would you like on your grave stone?
An ordinary moment that lights you up?
Last time you wrote a hand written note or letter?
What are you most grateful for this past year?
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Let me know when you are listening/watching this conversation tag me in it @PaulScanlonUK and be sure to watch This Is Us as well as connect with Ken on twitter/instagram @KenOlin1.