Most people think being a better lover means learning new positions, lasting longer, or performing better. But the truth? Epic lovemaking starts long before you’re naked. In this solo episode, Shari takes you back to a moment that changed everything — a conversation in a sun-soaked jungle cabin in Nicaragua that sparked the very idea for this podcast. When a fellow traveler asked her, “What would you tell me if I wanted to be a better lover?” … she realized it’s not about technique. I...

Most of us grew up learning that sex was either dangerous, shameful, or mechanical. But what if sex could be healing? Empowering? A path to deep embodiment? In this powerful episode, Shari is joined by Dr. Saida Désilets, a pioneer in feminine embodiment and sexual sovereignty, and Aaron Michael, co-founder of Suction Sex and Embodied Love University, to explore the truth about the kind of sexuality education we actually need. Together, they unravel the myths around “normal” sex, break down t...

What does it take to stop abandoning yourself and start living from desire? In this juicy episode of Get Sexy with Shari, I sit down with the radiant Nadine Hamilton — a VITA-certified sex, love & relationship coach and somatic sexologist whose erotic aliveness practically drips through the microphone. Together, we dive deep into: Why intimacy begins with YOU (and how self-pleasure sets the tone for everything else)The hidden ways people-pleasing sneaks into sex and loveA simple 3-minut...

What does it really mean to be embodied? In this episode of Get Sexy with Shari, I sit down with the radiant and wise Amanda Biccum—my own teacher and co-founder of Temple of Radiance—to unpack the five bodies every woman holds: the mental, physical, emotional, energetic, and spiritual. If you’ve ever felt disconnected, “in your head,” or like something is missing from your self-care routine… this conversation will light a fire under your ass and inside your heart. Together, we explore how em...

In this episode of Get Sexy with Shari, I’m joined by Erotic Blueprints™ coach and sex, love & relationship mentor Sarah Ward to bust one of the biggest myths about desire: 👉 If you’re not in the mood, it doesn’t mean you’re broken. It might just mean you’re speaking a different erotic language. We unpack the 5 Erotic Blueprints™ — a revolutionary framework created by Jaiya - that helps you understand your turn-ons, overcome shame, and stop expecting yourself (or your partner) to fit int...

In this raw and radically honest episode, I sit down with conscious dating and empowerment coach Alexa Lynn to explore how to date with intention, embodiment, and confidence—even in a world that constantly rushes us into the next thing. Together, we unravel what it means to pause after a breakup, stop being the CEO of the story factory, and let your authentic woman drive the car instead of the people-pleasing “nice girl.” We also explore the powerful R-B-D-S-M framework for clear, sexy, and s...

In this intimate episode of Get Sexy with Shari, I sit down with one of my Tantric Teachers and Communication Queen Arja Hendrikx to talk about one of the most important (and most avoided) skills in intimacy: speaking up in the bedroom. We dive into why so many women stay silent during sex, how to express what you want without killing the mood, and why real pleasure starts with honest, embodied communication. You’ll walk away with practical tools, mindset shifts, and maybe even the permission...

Welcome back to Get Sexy with Shari — the podcast that turns you on to the life, love, and sex you actually crave. In today’s juicy episode, I sit down with erotic ecstasy and sex & relationship expert Leen S to talk about long-term love, polarity, emotional safety, and what it really means to stay sexy and connected — even when your partner isn’t “doing the work.” Whether you’re in a relationship that feels off… or you’ve been told you’re “too much”… or you’re just tired of doing all the...

In this powerful first episode, I pull back the curtain on my own sensual awakening—how I went from shame, disconnection, and performative sex… to full-body pleasure, body confidence, and unapologetic turn-on. I share the real, raw moments that changed everything: The day I realized I’d lived 27 years in my body without knowing what that actually meantWhy I used to fake orgasms (and how I stopped performing)How slowing down through self-pleasure became a doorway to reclaiming my feminine powe...

Most women feel pressure when asked what they like in bed—because they don’t actually know. In this episode, I share eye-opening insights from 20 women about why communication in the bedroom feels so difficult. We’ll unpack where we really learn about sex (hint: it’s not what you think it is), how to start discovering your turn-ons. And in true Get Sexy with Shari-style, we'll end with a gentle pleasure practice to find pleasure in non-genital areas of your body. You can only ask for pleasure...