“You can have a grudge or you can have freedom—but you can’t have both.” — Lora Cheadle   When betrayal detonates your life, “It’s not fair” becomes the drumbeat in your head. In this intimate coaching session with “Jane,” we walk the real path from righteous anger and blame to sovereignty: naming what’s actually happening (mental/physical exhaustion), discerning what you can control (boundaries, micro-choices), and choosing peace over the power of the grudge. If you’ve been holding the story together for your kids, your home, and everyone else—while seething at the unequal load—this conversation will meet you exactly where you are and offer a way through. Top 3 Takeaways Grudge vs. Freedom: You can have a grudge or you can have freedom—but not both. The shift begins by noticing when you’re in blame and choosing peace on purpose. Name the Real Problem: Trade the story (“This is all his fault”) for the truth in your body (“This is mentally and physically exhausting”). Naming what is puts your power where your feet are. Micro-Choices Restore Agency: One firm “no” a week and one nourishing “yes” a week for six weeks changes your nervous system, your schedule, and your sense of self. Episode Highlights Why anger is sometimes a functional fuel—and how to thank it without letting it drive. The fairness myth: differentiating external unfairness from creating internal justice. “Give him the victim seat.” If someone must occupy it, let it be him—so you can choose the seat of peace. Language swap that changes everything: from “I have to” → “I am choosing to.” A simple boundary: “Please stop texting me.” Why this one sentence matters for your nervous system and your future.   🌟 Join Sanctuary of the Soul — Just $47/monthYour safe haven for healing after betrayal. Each month, you’ll receive: ·        2-hour live group coaching call on the 13th ·        Channeled message from The Librarians ·        Somatic processing and spiritual rituals ·        Legal insight to protect your peace ·        Sisterhood support from women who truly get it You don’t have to walk this road alone. Step into a community that integrates mind, body, spirit, and safety — so you rise whole, sovereign, and free. Join now » www.SparkleAllSeason.com     LOVE THE SHOW? TAKE THE NEXT STEP Don’t just listen—start healing.   Download your FREE Betrayal Recovery Tool Kit and take back your power with clarity, confidence, and support that meets you where you are. ✅ Calm the chaos ✅ Rebuild self-trust ✅ Stop the spiral of second-guessing ✅ Reclaim your worth and your future 👉 Download Now ➜ www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com (MAKE THIS A BUTTON) You deserve more than survival. You deserve sovereignty, peace, and joy.   📚 Books By Lora 📚   International Book Award, Finalist Motivational Self-Help 2021• Tattered Cover Bestseller 2019 Are you tired of living a life dictated by others? If you've felt trapped by expectations and long o be free, FLAUNT! is the key to unlocking who you are, expressing yourself authentically, and choreographing your life your way. Reclaim yourself with this transformative guide that empowers you to strip away societal expectations and reveal your smart, sexy, and spiritual self. Through a unique blend of humor, wisdom, and actionable steps, you can uncover your deepest desires and build the confidence to live a life full of passion and purpose. Buy Now on Amazon, or wherever books are sold.   It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive, is the essential guide for burnout and betrayal relief. Packed with insight and practical tools, this book is a must-have for individuals, teams, and leaders alike.   Available on Amazon. Learn more at www.itsnotburnoutitsbetrayal.com     📌 Hashtags:#BetrayalRecovery #HealingAfterInfidelity #NonlinearHealing #SomaticHealing #MeditationForTrauma #IdentityAfterBetrayal #WomenHealingWomen #LifeChoreography #FromWoundedToWise #FLAUNTPodcast