If you are listening to this podcast, I know you want a great relationship. You are someone who tries hard and wants things to be better.
Give a listen to these 3 common roadblocks that can keep you from having the relationship you want.
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Do you avoid opening presents in front of other people?
Or maybe you've taken "It's better to give than to receive" a little too far and tell people you don't want anything for Christmas?
Being able to receive is ESSENTIAL in a relationship. If we don't know how to receive, if we don't know what it's like to receive in a healthy way, we can block ourselves from love.
We can end up pushing away real love because it feels so uncomfortable and so out of the norm.
Let's use this season of receiving gifts to look at your patterns around receiving in relationships.
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It's the season of giving - so we're going to use that to look at how we give in relationships.
This episode is going to help you understand what's keeping you from getting closure, common blocks to closure and how to start taking closure into your own hands and giving it to yourself.
You'd love to say you're over them, but you aren't.
Knowing WHY you can't get closure is going to help you get closer to not thinking about them anymore.
As part of focusing on getting closure this month, we are looking at closure within a relationship.
It might be a fight you had.
Something your partner said or did.
Or an issue that just keeps coming up.
This episode is going to help you identify when you need closure on an issue within continuing relationship and what is preventing you from getting that closure on an issue.
Closure is our theme for this month!
I open up in this episode and talk about past relationships, signs I see in myself that show I don't have closure and how I create closure for myself.
What do you do when you want sex but your partner doesn't?
We look at mismatched sex drives from the perspective of the partner who wants more sex but isn't sure how to make that happen, how getting turned down can impact our confidence and how we show up when we feel hurt.
Then we talk about getting on the same team - because doesn't everyone want a great sex life? I bet both you and your partner do.
What do you do when your partner wants more sex but you don't?
Today we dive into what happens when you aren't meeting your partner's needs.
This takes us deep into boundaries, understanding what we are and aren't responsible for in relationships and looking at the roles we fall into accidentally.
Have questions? I'd love to hear from you. Reach out Robyn@RobynMichon.com.
The essence of Boundaries is understanding what we are responsible for and what we AREN'T responsible for.
If you find yourself trying to figure out other people and why they do what they do - you might be struggling with Over-Responsiblity.
I dread Christmas.
The unmet expectations. The stress and money of gifts and holiday parties. Dealing with family conflicts. It's the worst.
But the Holidays don't have to feel like that.
It's possible to have holidays that you really enjoy and look forward to. What makes that possible is Boundaries.
If you want to come to the Boundaries workshop in person in Regina on Nov 11, 2023, email Robyn@RobynMichon.com and I'll send you the info.
When we think that the we are the reason we have bad relationships, it keeps us stuck.
We try to solve our self worth.
We tell ourselves we just need to try harder.
We think if only we were more healed we could attract the right people.
And those things don't work. They aren't why someone doesn't have the relationships they want.
What we really need to have better relationships are relationship skills.
Toxic positivity is one of those things in relationships where it can feel like we are doing the right thing. We are trying to stay positive, focus on the good, and on the power of gratitude and appreciation. We think that this is how we’ll create the relationships we want, by staying positive and focusing on the good, but when we take this TOO far - that’s when it becomes toxic. That’s when it turns from healthy positivity into toxic positivity.
Toxic positivity happens when there is SUCH a focus on being positive that it doesn’t allow for and even dismisses anything negative.
Do you have a hard time saying no? Do you tend to go along with things to avoid conflict?
Or maybe you are dating someone who never says no, never has an opinion, and is super easy going ALL the time.
In this episode we walk through what it's like dating someone who doesn't say no and how that prevents deeper connection.
This is one of my favorite past episodes on How To Feel More Attractive.
If you are knew to the podcast - enjoy this for the first time!
If you listened to this when it first came out - what's changed since then? Do you take away different things that you did earlier this year?
This week we continue talking about boundaries with 5 more signs you need to work on creating stronger boundaries in your life.
1. Indecision. You spend lots of your life not sure what to do, what to eat for supper and asking everyone else what they think.
2. Chronic complaining. When we are complaining we aren't setting boundaries.
3. Anger/Resentment. Anger is your friend. It tells you that you aren't okay with something that is happening.
4. You feel responsible for other people's feelings.
5. You don’t speak up for yourself.
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We know boundaries are important. But how do we know when we need boundaries?
Here are some signs we explore this week:
1. You say yes when you want to say no.
2. You end up doing all the work - weather it’s at work, at home or the emotional labor in the relationship.
3. You are the person who is always being left or feel like you are always being left.
4. Running late all the time.
5. You see yourself being passive aggressive (or other people point it out to you.)
We talk about behaviors that prevent healthy relationships from happening. This is all about how other people are behaving and red flags in relationships.
This week we look at what happens when you focus on them and what they are doing instead of focusing on you and what you want.
A request is about asking someone else to change their behaviour.
A boundary is about us deciding what we allow and don't allow in our lives. A boundary is about how we speak, think and act toward ourselves.
Want to learn more?
Attend the Boundary workshop! Cost: $25
Sept 9 in Regina in person from 10am-noon
Aug 30 online over Zoom at 6pm PT