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Failing Motherhood

Danielle Bettmann | Parenting Coach for Strong-Willed Kids

199 episodes

3 months ago

Happy 5th Anniversary of Failing Motherhood! Welcome to the LAST episode, #200. If there's one thing I will be known for, let it be this mindset shift. And in this episode, I don't just explain it, but I share a clip from a coaching call where we apply it in real time to a common frustration. IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED: How to recognize when you're having "first thoughts"Creative ways to problem solve struggles with cleaning up their own thingsHow to take your power back + no longer feel like t...

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Happy 5th Anniversary of Failing Motherhood! Welcome to the LAST episode, #200. If there's one thing I will be known for, let it be this mindset shift. And in this episode, I don't just explain it, but I share a clip from a coaching call where we apply it in real time to a common frustration. IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED: How to recognize when you're having "first thoughts"Creative ways to problem solve struggles with cleaning up their own thingsHow to take your power back + no longer feel like t...

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Self-Improvement,

Health & Fitness,

Episodes (20/199)

Failing Motherhood

200. My #1 Mantra + Mindset Shift

Happy 5th Anniversary of Failing Motherhood! Welcome to the LAST episode, #200. If there's one thing I will be known for, let it be this mindset shift. And in this episode, I don't just explain it, but I share a clip from a coaching call where we apply it in real time to a common frustration. IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED: How to recognize when you're having "first thoughts"Creative ways to problem solve struggles with cleaning up their own thingsHow to take your power back + no longer feel like t...

5 months ago

21 minutes

Failing Motherhood

199. Fighting to Stop Fighting + Not Giving Up with Abbey + Jake

Not giving up. Not giving in. Not settling. Being all in. Today's episode recounts the story of Abbey, Jake, and their 7-year-old son finding purpose rather than despair, leaning in, offering mutual respect, and feeling like a united front. From feeling desperate and helpless, having "no good days" to parenting authentically, strategically, enjoying time together again. From their son never doing something he doesn't want to do, to not saying no anymore. From considering divorce, to the...

6 months ago

55 minutes

Failing Motherhood

198. Being True to Yourself inside Tricky Relationships with KC Davis

We have a returning guest today! KC Davis is a Licensed Professional Counselor, author, speaker, the creator of the mental health platform, Struggle Care, AND the author of the brand new book, out today... Who Deserves your Love (How to Create Boundaries to Start, Strengthen, or End any Relationship). In our conversation, we discuss the problems within the traditional self-help industry and the parallels of mom guilt and our effect on the people and the relationships we love. The...

6 months ago

1 hour 2 minutes

Failing Motherhood

197. 3 of 3: Therapy, Marriage Counseling, 1:1 Coaching + Virtual Parenting Programs/Memberships

Welcome back! This is the 3rd of 3 episodes breaking down the vast array of parenting resources we have at our fingertips. Today we’re talking: personal therapy, marriage counseling, one-off or 1:1 parenting coaching, and virtual parenting programs / memberships. For each, I break down the family that resource is BEST for, the benefits it provides, the unique Pros and Cons of utilizing that support vs. another, and ultimately, for some, the way they fall short. IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED...

6 months ago

38 minutes

Failing Motherhood

196. 2 of 3: OT, PCIT, Play Therapy + Seeing a Psychologist

Welcome back! This is the 2nd of 3 episodes breaking down the vast array of parenting resources we have at our fingertips. Today we’re talking: Occupational Therapy, Parent Child Interaction Therapy, Child Therapy (play therapy) and seeing a Psychologist. For each, I break down the family that resource is BEST for, the benefits it provides, the unique Pros and Cons of utilizing that support vs. another, and ultimately for some, the way they fall short. IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED: When pl...

6 months ago

41 minutes

Failing Motherhood

195. 1 of 3: Parenting Content, Books, Courses + Classes

Welcome to my VERSUS series! This is the 1st of 3 episodes breaking down the vast array of parenting resources we have at our fingertips. Today we’re talking: parenting content, parenting courses & books, and in-person parenting classes. For each, I break down the family that resource is BEST for, the benefits it provides, the unique Pros and Cons of utilizing that support vs. another, and ultimately for some, the way they fall short. IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED: Why it’s extra hard t...

6 months ago

39 minutes

Failing Motherhood

194. Setting Boundaries without Pressure + Panic

What does it even look like to set + hold good boundaries? Boundaries can feel like an illusive mystery. Our preconceived notions of what we should be doing can create really rigid metrics for succeeding or failing, when in all actuality, there’s often no right or wrong! Today’s discussion includes validating the intention to “find the line”, why boundaries isn’t a binary but rather a spectrum, and the mindset reframes needed to be more effective and successful while still allowing for except...

7 months ago

18 minutes

Failing Motherhood

193. Accidentally Inviting the Outcomes You're Trying to Avoid

Well that backfired! When we parent out of fear, our short-sighted reactions can add fuel to the fire. This can create unintended consequences, like MORE helplessness, MORE sibling resentment, and MORE attention-seeking. In this episode, I cover where this starts, two extremely common examples, and what to do instead. IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED: The Boomerang Effect: What you push away, comes back full forceA parallel to the movie- Monsters, Inc.The "Veruca Salt" mentality we're all afraid of...

7 months ago

20 minutes

Failing Motherhood

192. Working WITH Demand Avoidance (PDA) to Make the Impossible, POSSIBLE with Lisa

Cooking during daytime hours, running in & out of a store, joining a homeschool group... these may seem like everyday occurrences to some families, but at Lisa's house, they felt impossible. She was tasked with getting her neurodivergent son up to state curriculum standards last year while homeschooling, but his pathological demand avoidance made cooperation so hard to attain. NOW - she shares what IS possible now, how her confidence has grown, and what seemed to help when nothing else di...

7 months ago

58 minutes

Failing Motherhood

191. Silly over Serious

Does it ever feel like your strong-willed child SNAPS and turns into someone else entirely? Like an alter ego took over? You’re now walking on eggshells trying to diffuse a bomb before it explodes. There are two wires, which one do you cut? Choose SILLY over SERIOUS. IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED: A situation in college you’d have handled in a similar wayThe ramifications of doubling down on seriousnessWays to inform your mindset that boost your patience and compassionDON'T MISS: Several ex...

7 months ago

33 minutes

Failing Motherhood

190. Silencing Shame & Enjoying your Kids with Sharon Johnson

Shame is a universal human experience no one is immune to, especially in motherhood where it feels like there’s a right and a wrong way to do everything, yet no matter what you do, you can’t win! How do you break free from the shame cycle? My guest today, Sharon Johnson, is a mother to six who creates social media content focusing on motherhood, mental health, getting older and finding oneself, and healing after years of trauma and crisis. Sharon kicked motherhood off by being absolutel...

8 months ago

1 hour 1 minute

Failing Motherhood

189. Intentionally Indulge

What do bad mornings, clingy birthday parties, fighting playdates and candy on the way home from school all have in common? Instead of doubling down to invite the meltdown or giving in to avoid it… there’s a better way! These are all situations where you, as the parent, can intentionally indulge. Tune in to learn how. IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED: Ways to shift from being reactive to proactive, getting one step ahead of your childWhy “intentionally indulging” works so wellHow to comp...

8 months ago

21 minutes

Failing Motherhood

188. "I can figure this out" with Marli Klaus

My guest today, Marli Klaus, is a mom of three, a pediatric sleep consultant, and a trainer and mentor for other sleep consultants as the owner of The Cradle Coach and The Cradle Coach Academy. I’ve known Marli for several years and had the chance to work with her family last winter! In our conversation, Marli shares very openly and honestly about her fears for her son, the way she dreaded pickup, the heartbreaking effect on her other kids, the determination she felt to figure it out he...

8 months ago

1 hour 14 minutes

Failing Motherhood

187. 7 Ways to Beat the Bedtime Blues

Most strong-willed kids struggle with sleep, so if bedtime feels like neverending pulling teeth at your house, join the club! While I'm always going to advocate for nuance and individualization, confidence comes from having a diverse set of tools in your backpocket, so this episode is here to help you have a few more "tricks" up your sleeve. Here's to a shorter bedtime routine for the kids and more time for revenge bedtime procrastination for the adults! :) IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED: Why you...

8 months ago

27 minutes

Failing Motherhood

186. 90% less Tantrums in 3 Months with Heather + David

Heather and David, parents from the Midwest, take us along in their journey of parenting their strong-willed five-year-old daughter. Just a few months ago, they were drowning; overwhelmed by her tantrums, feeling like parenting was heartbreaking, stressful, and defeating more days than not. NOW, they are parenting with hope, optimism and confidence, let alone 90% less tantrums overall! Tune in to hear the things that were hard to admit, why they believe they benefitted so much from this...

9 months ago

1 hour 16 minutes

Failing Motherhood

185. Going Beyond Good Intentions

Can you imagine setting a New Years resolution, watching healthy living content and going to a class where they teach you why you should exercise and expecting to lose weight without ever working out? NO! We know getting stronger requires taking action. In the same way, working on your parenting requires implementation, not just intentions. IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED: Ways immersive learning experiences transform parenting skillsWhy it's impossible to grow stronger while "malnourished" and what...

9 months ago

21 minutes

Failing Motherhood

184. Stop your Child from Lying to You

Today's episode is a rare treat. I had a fantastic coaching conversation with a parent of a 4 year-old around an ongoing problem at their house around not listening and not telling the truth when asked about it, and I have her permission to share it with you here! Listen as she shares more of the background into this particular moment as well as her concerns around the behavior, then tune in to hear what I recommended to her (and anyone else who can relate!) IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

9 months ago

14 minutes

Failing Motherhood

183. Change the World from your Couch with Cynthia Levin

From “I can’t change the world. I’m just a mom” to “I can change the world because I’m a mom!' Cynthia Levin is the author of “From Changing Diapers to Changing the World: Why Moms Make Great Advocates and How to Get Started.” A non-partisan activist working across a variety of issues, she coaches volunteers of all ages to build productive relationships with members of Congress. In our conversation she laid a realistic roadmap for the average mom to get involved where it matters most to her; ...

9 months ago

56 minutes

Failing Motherhood

182. 5 Top Tips for Making Weekends Easier on Everyone

If all your weekend plans seem held hostage by your strong-willed child’s mood, you’re not alone. In this episode, I name the extra challenges you face on the weekend and specific strategies to tackle them for good, unlocking actual freedom and possibilities to be spontaneous or just enjoy each other and relax! IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED: Why what we think we want isn’t what we actually wantTwo goals to go into every weekend withHow to stop power struggles before they startDON'T MISS: Po...

10 months ago

26 minutes

Failing Motherhood

181. Breaking Free of Society's Expectations with Erin Spahr, LCPC, LCMHC, PMH-C

How can we create a more equitable world that supports motherhood? My guest today, Erin Spahr, is a licensed therapist, mother, feminist, podcast host, and maternal mental health advocate. She uses a feminist lens in her work with mothers in her private practice and strives to help mothers free themselves from oppressive societal expectations and find more self-confidence and self-compassion. Our conversation today spans cultural conditioning, matriscentric feminism, internalized patri...

10 months ago

1 hour 1 minute