In this episode we're talking about the BIGGEST of the BIG FEELS in Polyamory: Jealousy, Comparison and Fear of Abandonment cuz you are NOT alone if you experience one or all three of these!
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If you've been on IG or TikTok you probably know @polyamarla - and NOW they've got an incredible book out "Non-monogamy and Defying a Paradigm"!
We had such a fun time together!
Follow us (if you can...three people with ADHD) as Marla takes us through their polyamorous journey, the "h" word (and why they don't want to talk about it), couple privilege, mono-normativity and it's impact, authentic relating and everything in between!
They can be found on IG and TikTok @polyamarla and please visit their website at https://polyamarla.com/ to sign up for their Newsletter and get more info!
Curious about Coaching with Greg or Leanne? Visit us at https://empoweredpoly.ca AND check out our PolyLab Small Group Coaching at https://empoweredpoly.ca/the-polylab/
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Wow! What a journey Nicole has had! With eloquence and awareness she shares what it was like to grow up in purity culture and to come to terms with her own queer and polyamorous identities.
Nicole Thompson is a sex and relationship psychotherapist, host of Modern Anarchy Podcast, the author of the first published research study on Relationship Anarchy and one of the leading academic theorists on Non-Monogamy, Playfully Embodied Sexuality, and Psychedelic-Integration Therapy.
Join us, Leanne and Greg Million, Certified Relationship Coaches as we dive into Nicole's fascinating self discoveries about herself, psychedelics and her experiences navigating her own sexuality.TW: Mentions sexual assault and rape culture
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#modernanarchypodcast #relationshipanarchy #purityculture #polyamory #polyamorous #relationshipcoach #rapeculture #nonmonogamy #nonmonogamous #NicoleThompson #empoweredpoly
Let's talk about being a good hinge! Many of the issues in a polyamorous or non-monogamous relationship can be prevented with responsible & compassionate choices made by the hinge - the person with multiple partners.
Join us, Leanne & Greg Million, Certified Relationship Coaches specializing in polyamory and non-monogamy as we explore the role of a hinge and how it relates to best practices in communication, emotional labor, boundaries & autonomy, bottle-necking, scheduling, personal responsibility, supporting partners, power dynamics, triangulation, and fostering security instead of competition.
Interested in personal, couple's or group coaching or want to know more about us? Visit www.empoweredpoly.ca
#polyamory #relationshipcoaching #hinge #polyam #polyamorousrelationships #nonmonogamous #openrelationships #ethicalnonmonogamy #nonmonogamy
Join us, Leanne & Greg Million, Certified Relationship Coaches as we chat with Lola Phoenix, the delightful author of "The Anxious Person's Guide to Non-monogamy" and "The Non-monogamy Journal"!We spoke to Lola about the concept of "anchor" as a grounding tool for navigating non-monogamy, especially for anxious individuals. She shared her struggles as an introvert and in trying to find community in polyam, as well as emphasizing that understanding one's nervous system and reframing anxiety as a protective response rather than an enemy can be helpful. She suggests treating anxious thoughts as a part of oneself that needs comfort, rather than something to fight against We are all definitely on the same page about the importance of taking responsibility for one's role in creating and cultivating healthy relationships.You can reach Lola and find her books and upcoming course at www.nonmonogamyhelp.comInterested in Coaching with one of us? Visit us @ empoweredpoly.ca.#anxiety #interview #podcast #relationshipcoach #relationshipcoaching #polyamory #polyamorous #polyamorousrelationship #anxious #ethicalnonmonogamy #openrelationships #openrelationships #polyam
Join us, Leanne & Greg Million, Certified Relationship Coaches as we chat with the one and only Kathy Labriola - author of "Love and Abundance: A Counselor's Advice on Open Relationships" (NEW EDITION AVAIL), "The Jealousy Workbook", and "The Polyamory Break Up Book".
We spoke to her about her latest work "Polyamorous Elders: Aging in Open Relationships" and had a frank exploration about how aging impacts our polyamorous relationships, what poly elders bring to the table and considerations that poly elders (and their partners) may have that are unique.
You can reach Kathy at anarchofeminist@yahoo.com, call (510) 841-5307 or visit her website at www.kathylabriola.com.
We refer to the Empowered Poly episode 27 on Safer Sex as well as Episode 31 All About Ambiamory.
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Content Warning: mentions (with no detail) self-harm and abusive relationships.
Celebrate 4 years and 40 episodes with us, Greg and Leanne Million Certified Relationship Coaches, as we unpack an AI-generated list of reasons (which Leanne printed but didn't "create") why people choose to cheat in Polyamorous or Non-monogamous Relationships. For those who may be considering cheating, for those who have, and for those who seek to understand cheating and perhaps reflect on what contributes to cheating in a relationship.
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NOTE: When we refer to a singular partner/relationship, we are aware that many of us have multiple partners, and that these conversations/conficts may occur in multiple relationships. And at the END enjoy our post-show chat (yes, those are our terrible British accents)!
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Join us, Leanne & Greg Million Relationship Coaches, as we dive into why boundaries are important, why they are challenging, what types there are, what they are and what they aren't! Boundaries can be a steep learning curve for some of us, so hopefully this episode helps you advocate for and honour your own and someone else's boundaries.
Trigger warning: mentions sexual coercion. #empoweredpoly #relationshipissues #relationshipcoach #relationshipadvice #healthyrelationship #communication #communicationcoaching #communicationskills #boundaries #boundariesinrelationships #boundaries101 #boundariesarehealthy #boundariesinrelationships
Trigger warning: Contains brief references to self-harm, sexual assault, and consensual non-consent.
Join us, Leanne & Greg Million, Certified Relationship and Sexuality Coaches, as we discuss red and green flags for vetting partners in BDSM (Bondage, Discipline, Domination, Submission, Sadomasochism, and Masochism), explain a variety of other kinks as well as discuss the shame that many people feel when realizing they are kinky. This is an educational discussion. There are no depictions of any sexual acts. Our focus is on safety & consent.
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NOTE for clarification: Drag artists are often not only entertaining, but they are part of a political, subversive movement intended to deconstruct gender.
NOTE for clarification: We recognize that many submissives in subspace become non-verbal. We encourage Doms to rehearse and reward the use of safe words and implement physical signals (as discussed) that will make the Dom aware that the sub needs something to change. #bdsm #kink #consensualnonmonogamy #empoweredpoly #sexualityeducation #sexualitycoach #relationshipcoach #submission #dominance #intimacy #ethicalnonmonogamy #polyrelationship #polyamory #sexuality #relationshipgoals
Here's what happens when you get 3 sex-positive Relationship Coaches together!! You get to learn about ALL the ways to communicate, discuss, organize and enjoy a yummy THREESOME (or more-some)! Our special guest, and our online friend - holistic Relationship Coach and TedX speaker, Ali Hendry, shares her insights on why someone might want to have a threesome, how to bring it up, what fears, myths and misconceptions people have and best practices. Connect with Ali: https://alihendry.co.uk/ Social media: @alihendrycoaching LIKE OUR CONTENT? Hit LIKE and SUBSCRIBE! Looking for a coach? Visit our website: https://empoweredpoly.ca/ Mentioned in this podcast: Ali's TedX Talk "Survivor's Guide to Jealousy" - https://www.ted.com/talks/ali_hendry_survivor_s_guide_to_jealousy Leanne's Sex Languages Quiz - https://www.tryinteract.com/share/quiz/5ff650e4f33af7001633254f NO MORE WET SPOT BLANKET - BEST Blanket to keep your bed and furniture dry! Leanne vouches for this well-made, durable, soft, and effective protective blanket from first-hand experience! Made in Canada! ❤️Order here -> https://www.nomorewetspot.info/NMWSaffiliate/NMWS_Affiliate.php?id=172 #consensualnonmonogamy #polyrelationship #polyamory #healthyrelationship #nonmonogamy #complexrelationships #relationshipcoach #intimacy #intimacyadvice #intimacycoaching #ethicalnonmonogamy #podcast #relationshipdynamics #relationshipadvice #relationships #sexpositive #threesomes #groupsex
In this episode we discuss how we develop a self-aware foundation for building agreements based on core values and boundaries, vital categories to consider when creating Relationship Agreements, and why we chose to have what we call a "Limited Information Agreement". #consensualnonmonogamy #polyamorousrelationship #polyamory #polyamorous #polyam #healthyrelationships #healthyrelationship #relationshipcoach #relationshipadvice #relationshipcoaching #triads #throuples #openrelationship #openrelationships #empoweredpoly #nonmonogamy
A fabulous time was had with the incredible Evita "Lavitaloca Sawyers" - as we discussed her journey as a black, queer, femme person into the worlds of non-monogamy, polyamory and kink! She shared with us her insights, wisdom and we enjoyed every minute! Evita is a coach, speaker, educator and author of "A Polyamory Devotional: 365 Days of Reflections for the Consensually Non-Monogamous", as well as the well known "Today's Polyamory Reminder" on IG. Where you can connect with Evita: https://www.instagram.com/lavitaloca34/ https://www.facebook.com/lavitalocasawyers/ #polyamorousrelationship #polyamory #polyamorous #polyam #ethicalnonmonogamy #consensualnonmonogamy #empoweredpoly #relationshipadvice #relationshipcoach #relationshipcoaching #relationshipcoachingforwomen #relationshipcoachingformen #comparison #healthyrelationships #healthyrelationship
Disclaimer: This episode focuses on vaginal birth only and may contain triggering information for some listeners. The term "normal" birth is used ironically and in the video version on YouTube you can see that Anne uses quotation marks.
If you or your partner has recently given birth, here's a podcast for you! In this episode, we welcome our special guest counsellor Anne Chronnell who specializes in helping us navigate major life events such as childbirth and parenting. We chat about what the body goes through and needs to heal from, expectations we/our partners/or society places upon the birther, ways to build intimacy with your partner, and how to support someone who's given birth. Note: we recognize not all birthing parents identify as female and may use terminology other than "mother" to describe themselves. Find out more about Anne and her work at https://redtentcounselling.ca or reach her directly at her email: info@redtentcounselling.ca Anne is hosting an in-person workshop for new birthers with babies 0-6 months old in January 2024 in Kelowna, BC, Canada. #polyam #polyamorous #polyamorousrelationship #sex #healthyrelationship #becomingaparent #parenthood #birthing #givingbirth #newparents #newparent #ethicalnonmonogamy #openrelationship #openrelationships #womenshealth #labour #intimacy #intimacygoals #intimacycoaching #sexcoach #relationshipcoach #relationshipcoaching #relationshipcoachingformen #relationshipcoachingforwomen
Comparison is the thief of joy! You may have heard that, recognize its importance and STILL suffer with comparison.
We chat in this episode about our experiences with comparison, how it's shown up in our relationships and what we can do to help manage or reframe comparison to make it more helpful!
While we focused in this episode on the differences in relationships to highlight their uniqueness, it is also worth noting that you may find yourself comparing similarities - which can lead to feeling "replaceable". Again, refocusing on what makes you special and unique as a human will help with those feelings. Also asking for reassurances from your partner(s).
Books recommended: "Polywise" by Jessica Fern and David Cooley, and "The Body is Not an Apology" by Sonya Renee Taylor as well as the Workbook "Your Body is Not an Apology" by the same author.
Error: Around 2:20 Leanne said "I'm comparing myself to my partner" but what she meant was "comparing myself to my meta" - although it also points out that you may feel competitive with your partner as well!
#polyamorousrelationship #polyamory #polyamorous #polyam #ethicalnonmonogamy #consensualnonmonogamy #empoweredpoly #relationshipadvice #relationshipcoach #relationshipcoaching #relationshipcoachingforwomen #relationshipcoachingformen #comparison #healthyrelationships #healthyrelationship
We were super jazzed to have psychotherapist and author of "Polysecure", Jessica Fern, return with her co-author David Cooley to chat about their new book, "Polywise" which is an amazing resource on healthy relating. We discuss restorative relationship conversations, parts work, codependency, ambiamory and how Eastern philosophy helped shaped their journey, as well as we dive into their own relationship history. Eye-opening and genuine conversation with two awesome humans! We had a blast!
NOTE: Outtakes at the end!
"Polywise: A Deeper Dive into Navigating Open Relationships" by Jessica Fern and David Cooley @Thornapple Press
jessicafern.com www.restorativerelationship.com
#polywise #polyamorousrelationship #relationships #polyamory #polyamorous #ethicalnonmonogamy #healthyrelationships #nonmonogamy #openrelationship #internalfamilysystems #codependency #polysecure #polyrelationship #polyamory #polyam
You may not have heard about Ambiamory - the ability to be in either monogamous or polyamorous relationships. For those who identify as Ambiamorous, like Leanne, there are challenges and gifts. We invite you to explore what Leanne's journey of Ambiamory is like.
If you're confused about why your mono-mind is so active when you really WANT to be polyamorous, or you wonder why as a monogamous person you can't shake the need to have other connections, this may be the episode for you!
Leanne & Greg Million are International Certified Relationship, Sexuality and Empowerment Coaches specializing in polyamory, consensual non-monogamy, kink and alternative lifestyles. Join our FB group: Empowered Poly Relationship Support and Advice.
Reach out to us directly at support@leannemillion.com and support@gregmillion.com. #polyamory #polyamorousrelationship #openrelationships #ambiamory #openrelationship #nonmonogamy #ethicalnonmonogamy #relationships #relationships #healthyrelationships #identity #relationshiporientation #personaldevelopmentjourney #relationshipdynamics #polyamorous #monopolyrelationships #monogamy #polymono
#polyamory #polyamorousrelationship #openrelationships #openrelationship #nonmonogamy #ethicalnonmonogamy #relationship #relationships #healthyrelationships #entitlement #possessiveboyfriends #possessiveness #unhealthyrelationships #personaldevelopment *Content Warning: sexual assault mentioned.
Steeped in the mindset of possessiveness and ownership, entitlement can show up in ANY relationship, and polyamory is no exception. We chat about what entitlement is and how it's different than deserving, about the ways in which people feel entitled to you and why it's important to shift away from it when it does show up for you. Join us (Leanne & Greg Million) as we share our insights from our own experiences as well as what we've observed as Relationship Coaches. And sometimes we have an "aha" moment during one of these shows!
Here's the article that Leanne couldn't remember the name of: https://solopolyamory.quora.com/I-Apologize-To-The-Entire-Poly-Community-For-This-One-https-joreth-dreamwidth-org-408917-html?ch=10&oid=7600056&share=47611ca0&srid=Ov6Zz&target_type=post
#polyamory #polyamorousrelationship #openrelationships #openrelationship #nonmonogamy #ethicalnonmonogamy #relationship #relationships #healthyrelationships #entitlement #possessiveboyfriends #possessiveness #unhealthyrelationships #personaldevelopment
#polyamory #relationshipcoach #ethicalnonmonogamy #relationshipadvice #breakingup #breakups #endingarelationship #shiftingarelationship #polyamorous #openrelationship #openrelationships #relationshipcoaching #howtobreakup #managingabreakup
In this episode, we take a look at how to mindfully frame a breakup in a healthy way, managing our feelings, holding space for the other person and dealing with potentially challenging or difficult breakups.
During this podcast, we actually had a slight misunderstanding. Leanne had offered the idea of bringing to your partner how you would like to be broken up with, and Greg misheard this as "ask your partner how they'd like to be broken up with". Subsequently, Leanne didn't correct him, but went with the flow (as she is wont to do) and assumed she'd said it incorrectly. We missed that left turn and ended up in Albuquerque (if you know, you know). Ultimately, it all turned out fine in the end with some important discussion.
Trigger warning: we mention situations where someone may be at risk and need to leave immediately, and we also mention getting help if you are in danger from yourself or others. These are not discussed in detail.
Reference to the book "Illunimata: a Return to Prayer" by Marianne Williamson.
#openrelationship #polyamory #relationshipcoach #ethicalnonmonogamy #openrelationship #polyamorous #polyamorousrelationship #polyamory #relationshipcoach #relationshipcoaching
As Relationship Coaches specializing in consensual non-monogamy and polyamory, we see a lot of stress occurring around meeting your partner's partner (your "meta").
So in this episode we ask...What are some things to consider when you are deciding whether or not you want to meet your meta(s)? Why might your partner be feeling obligated to meet their meta(s)? Why do some people choose not to meet their meta(s)?
We chat about all of these and then give you some great TIPS for those of you who decide to go ahead and meet your meta(s).
#sexualhealth #safersex #polyamory #sexuallytransmitteddiseases #std #sexuallytransmittedinfections #ethicalnonmonogamy #openrelationship #polyamorous #polyamorousrelationship #polycoach #relationships #relationshipcoach #relationshipcoaching
In this VERY IMPORTANT episode, we discuss what sexual health is, address the stigma of STIs and how we can help normalize having "the talk", disclosure, consent, and Leanne's journey with her own STI. Disclaimer: The contents of this episode should not be used in place of medical advice. We encourage you to consult with your local STI health clinic or doctor when making decisions around your health. NOTE: Cytomeglovirus, although discusssed, is not considered an STI. (Apologies for the sound quality for Leanne - her lapel mic wasn't working!)