What does home really mean when you’ve crossed borders, rebuilt your life after loss, and found family in strangers? In this conversation, global nomad and entrepreneur Ken Krell takes us on a journey through airports, Pride flags, and unexpected moments of belonging spanning a life of 68 years.
“Home is wherever you let people in,” Ken shares, reflecting on decades of travel, queer love across continents, and the lessons learned when safety, freedom, and loneliness collide on the road.
From divorce, heart attack, and losing millions in the 2008 financial crash to reinventing life in Bangkok and Sydney, Ken opens up about resilience, queer identity, and the courage it takes to “read the room” in countries where being out can be dangerous—or transformative. Along the way, he shares why he created projects like PrideNomad, The Daily Hug, and SeenWithLove to help LGBTQ+ travelers, veterans, and elders find connection and community anywhere in the world.
https://pridenomad.beehiiv.com/
This episode examines presence as a political, emotional, and spiritual discipline in an age of distraction. Ross shares how confronting what is, rather than what should be, has shaped his journey toward forty and reshaped his definition of abundance. Listeners are invited to consider presence as a form of protest and a pathway to becoming.
In this episode of Embracing All of Me, Ross sits down with Rick Goodwin, MSW, RSW, social worker, author, and the founder and Clinical Services Director of Men & Healing, to unpack the silent epidemic of shame carried by male survivors of sexual abuse. Together, they explore how masculinity, societal pressure, and outdated narratives which keep men, including bisexual, queer, and fluid men, from naming their trauma and seeking help.
Rick shares insights from decades of clinical work and trauma recovery, including the role of the “male code,” how shame fuels rage, and why true healing starts in groups. Rick also shares advice for those who may not be ready to be visible as a survivor. Whether you’re a survivor, an ally, or someone rethinking what it means to be a man or work through internalized shape, this conversation opens the door to compassion and change.
🔹 Topics include:
– The real meaning of “one in six”
– Why many men don’t recognize abuse when it happens
– The shame–rage spiral
– Reframing masculinity beyond blame
– How to start healing when therapy feels out of reach
This episode is not only transformational, but a reference guide and illumination to the uniqueness of male trauma and survivors.
Men & Healing - Psychotherapy for Men
1 in 6: Support for Men Healing from Sexual Abuse
rick@menandhealing.ca
What do grief, bisexual representation in film and TV, and a foot fetish have in common? In this episode, writer, actor, filmmaker, and corporate trainer Chris McNeany shows us the power of embracing every side of ourselves — the pain, the joy, the awkward laughter, and the desires often kept in the shadows.
From caregiving through cancer to creating bi+ films like More Than He Knows (with nearly 5 million views!), Chris takes us behind the scenes of storytelling that breaks stereotypes and gives bi+ narratives the visibility they deserve. Along the way, we talk about how humor, curiosity, and even kink can become part of healing — and how embracing all of ourselves doesn’t stop at the heavy pieces. It includes the pleasure and the play.
If you’ve ever wondered how art, identity, and self-acceptance collide this conversation will make you laugh, think, and maybe even breathe a little easier.
What does it mean to carve out joy, liberation, and healing in a world that tries to write your story for you? In this week's conversation, Dr. Danielle Samuel, proud Black Caribbean bisexual woman, licensed therapist, entrepreneur and President of the Los Angeles Bi+ Task Force — takes us from her teenage years in Grenada, and St. Lucia to her work as a professor, therapist, and advocate creating ripples of change across communities.
We talk about everything from navigating parental relationships while bi, biphobia in Black spaces to the pressure of leadership, from teenage rebellion to the deep work of self-preservation and joy. Danielle reminds us that representation matters, boundaries are sacred, and liberation begins with taking up space as our full selves.
Danielle has an important message for parents of queer kids that everyone needs to hear!
Learn more about Danielle and Joy and Liberation Therapy (California & Georgia) here:
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In this episode of Embracing All of Me, we go beyond the content to meet the real Michael Lemus — a proud Bi+ Latino creator, first-gen college graduate, first-gen professional, and founder of Reclaiming Your Happiness with Lemus, LLC.
Michael opens up about navigating parentification, setting boundaries that others may not understand, choosing joy when it comes at a cost, and his ideal bisexual representation in media.
From the pressure of being the first in his family to graduate college to the courageous act of creating distance for his own mental health, Michael’s story reveals what it means to honor yourself when the world — and sometimes those closest to us— simply doesn’t get it.
https://www.reclaimingyourhappinesswithlemus.com/
Pillemer: Family estrangement a problem ‘hiding in plain sight’ on Cornell Chronicle (Article)
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In this bonus episode of Embracing All of Me, we go behind the scenes of a groundbreaking effort to bring digital visibility to millions of bisexual and bi+ individuals worldwide.
Ross shares the journey of crafting a 29-page proposal to Unicode Technical Committee for a bisexual umbrella emoji, a culturally recognized and academically supported icon designed to close the digital representation gap. From uncovering why past proposals were rejected to navigating Unicode’s rigorous approval process, this episode dives deep into digital equity advocacy and the power of emoji as more than just cute icons.
We’ll also explore:The surprising statistics behind bisexual visibility (54% of LGBTQ+ adults in the U.S.)How and why emojis matter in shaping online identity and inclusion on 27 billion devices worldwideThe historical erasure of Black and bisexual contributions in cultureWhat this emoji could mean for future generations seeking language and recognition
Tune in to hear the vision, challenges, and hope behind this bold move to ensure every identity has its rightful place in our digital lives!
Read the full proposal and access the media kit in the episode description.
In this episode, you’ll be gently invited into a space of stillness, self-compassion, and radical acceptance. This is not love you must chase or earn. It's not conditional or performative. This is boundless love—love that holds you exactly as you are.
Let this meditation remind you:You are not late. You are not broken.You are not too much.You are here. And that is enough. This is a space to return to when you forget your own worth. Come as you are. Leave held.
Discover the remarkable journey of Steven Spencer, a bisexual bodybuilder, HIV advocate, and trailblazer for queer visibility. In this series finale, Steve opens up about growing up on an Australian cattle farm, coming out in a conservative environment, and championing self-acceptance in the face of biphobia and HIV stigma. From co-founding health initiatives to transforming his mental and physical wellness through lifting, Steve’s candid insights reveal how embracing your full identity can shatter prejudice and build authentic community. If you’ve ever felt alone on your path to self-discovery, tune in for an empowering deep dive into harnessing resilience, reclaiming your narrative, and building muscle of mind, spirit, and body!
https://qtopiasydney.com.au/our-team/steve-spencer/
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Ever wish you had a personal coach cheering you on when dating gets complicated? Meet Coach Danny Morales—a dynamic relationship mentor for gay and bisexual men. In this candid interview, Coach Danny unpacks everything from setting boundaries and navigating fear to surviving breakups and coming out on your own terms. Learn why “dating yourself first” isn’t just a cute slogan, but the key to building genuinely healthy relationships—both with partners and with yourself. If you’ve ever felt stuck or misunderstood in your love life, Coach Danny’s fresh insights on communication, self-validation, and community can help you embrace your identity and own your worth. Tune in for a conversation that just might shift your entire approach to dating and relationships. Learn more about Coach Danny at https://www.thecoachdanny.com/
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In a media landscape obsessed with spectacle, DL (down-low) men are often punchlines, predators, or shadows. But what if we stopped moralizing and started listening?
In this episode, Ross peels back the layers of DL discourse to explore the survival strategies behind the silence. Through the story of Adam, a bisexual man from Ghana denied asylum in the UK, and his own reflections growing up bisexual in Los Angeles, Ross examines how fear, safety, and structural oppression shape disclosure.
With sharp clarity and deep compassion, It exposes how bi+ men of color often become collateral damage in conversations not actually about them.
We map out common concerns, especially from women, around intimacy and betrayal, and invite everyone into a more honest, informed dialogue.
Whether you're DL, closeted, bi, pan, queer, questioning, or a witness to the growth and transformation of others navigating society, this episode honors your survival and your right to choose.
Adam's Story referenced in the episode
What happens when “I love you” is answered with a plate of perfectly sliced pears? In this tender, laugh‑out‑loud episode, Ross sits down with Chinese‑Canadian spoken‑word powerhouse Anto Chan to trace the messy alchemy that turns generational pain into punchlines.
Together they unpack:
This conversation is equal parts heart‑hug and gut‑check, a soft yet radical invitation to speak your truth, risk being seen, and dare to find comedy in the cracks of sorrow.
If you’ve ever wondered how to reunite with your inner child, honor your ancestors, or laugh while the room shakes, press play!
Innergenerational Website
In this gentle guided meditation, listeners are invited to reconnect with yourself as a living archive, a breathing, evolving, record of memory, emotion, and becoming.
Through a somatic journey of the body and a inner visualization, you’ll explore the stories stored in your chest, shoulders, stomach, throat, and beyond. You’ll step inside a quiet room within, a sacred inner archive, where a moment awaits: the opportunity to witness and embrace a forgotten version of yourself with curiosity and care.
This meditation is for anyone navigating identity, healing, or transformation. No need to fix or perform, only to return to a truth already living inside you.
Affirmation:
“I am a living archive. Layered. Sacred. Whole.
I honor every version of me and choose to continue living my story.”
What if your name was the gateway to the highest version of yourself? In this episode, host Ross Victory sits down with Zamokuhle Zulu, a South African scholar-activist, lecturer, artist, and writer whose work spans African feminism, decolonial psychology, and building Pan-African LGBTQ+ networks.
Zamo shares how reclaiming his bisexual identity meant reconciling personal truth with collective cultural responsibilities, in a society where family and community remain central to survival. He speaks candidly about growing up in a township, moving to Cape Town, confronting generational trauma, and why “coming out” isn’t always the safest form of queer expression in the diaspora.
Together, they unpack how African feminism became a liberating framework for Zamo to find his voice, and why some Black Americans believe queerness is a colonial import, despite rich pre-colonial histories of fluid identity across the continent.
This episode is for anyone who has ever felt torn between tradition and truth, duty and desire. Zamo offers a path toward embracing oneself that resists erasure and reclaims belonging across borders by realizing you don't have to be anything. You get to sit down, be you, and do what you do!
Email Zamo: zamokuhle.zulu@outlook.com
What does it truly mean to belong, especially when your experiences and identity feel like an anomaly, fragmented and caught between worlds? In this solo episode, host Ross Victory unpacks the complexities of belonging beyond corporate slogans. Through reflections on history, culture, and ancestry, Ross challenges the notion that belonging is a fixed destination. Instead, he offers belonging and the sense of "home" as an active practice, a rhythm of returning to oneself over and over again. If you’ve ever felt not queer enough, not bisexual enough, not something enough, this episode offers insight, grounding, and prioritizes self-reunion over performance.
For deeper discovery, download the Worksheet: Self-Inquiry on Belonging, Place, and Rootedness
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In this moving episode, Pastor Xavier shares his journey from growing up in 1960s South Central Los Angeles to relocating to Altadena/Pasadena area, where he faced the devastating 2025 Eaton Fires that destroyed over 9,000 structures and claimed at least 18 lives. He discusses how spoken word poetry became a lifeline for processing trauma in the face of mass destruction and loss.
Raised in conservative evangelical Christian churches, Pastor Xavier reflects on surviving abuse and the decades long struggle to understand his bisexual identity. He examines how rigid traditions within some Christian institutions can deter critical thinking and hinder personal growth.
Drawing from over 30 years of ministry, he offers insights into identifying affirming Christian churches that uphold both biblical integrity and LGBTQ+ inclusion. With his mother as his biggest advocate and a renewed connection to scripture, Pastor Xavier reimagines his faith as a source of healing, justice, and service to youth at large.
This conversation invites listeners to reflect: Who shaped our beliefs? Can faith and identity coexist? How does questioning authority lead to self-discovery?
And above all, Pastor Xavier reminds us: who we are is God’s greatest gift.
Resources from Pastor Xavier:
Affirming Faith Communities & Organizations
◦The New Evangelicals – Jesus-centered, inclusive, and justice-focused
◦The Reformation Project – Bible-based LGBTQ+ inclusion https://reformationproject.org/
◦Q Christian Fellowship – Community for LGBTQ+ believers seeking truth and belonging - https://www.qchristian.org/
◦Post-Evangelical Collective - https://www.postevangelicalcollective.org/
Biblical References from Pastor Xavier:
◦Matthew 22 – Misuse of scripture and Jesus’ correction of religious leaders
◦1 Corinthians 13:4–8 – The nature of God’s love
◦Jeremiah 1 :4-8– Affirmation of calling and worth
◦Luke 10:25-37, Parable of the Good Samaritan – Radical inclusion
◦Galatians 1:1-2:10 - Gospel of Uncircumcision = Inclusion for those excluded by the Law
◦Matthew 5-7 - Sermon on the Mount – Reinterpreting law through love
How do you reconcile family expectations, cultural traditions, and queer identity—especially when you’re growing up in rural China?
Join host Ross Victory as he sits down with Dr. Chongzheng Wei, a Chinese clinical psychologist and bisexual activist whose extraordinary path spans rural southern China, Thailand, France, and the United States. Hear how Chongzheng navigated stigma, internalized shame, and family obligations to find empowerment through personal and professional advocacy. Discover how geography and cultural factors influence the mental health needs of bisexual individuals and why tailored support networks, online and in-person, are crucial for overcoming isolation. If you’ve ever struggled to honor your heritage without erasing who you are, or wondered how to find a community that embraces every facet of your identity, this deeply personal conversation offers keen insights and practical steps for claiming your full self. Holding onto our roots doesn’t mean letting go of our truths.
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In this guided meditation from Embracing All of Me, host Ross Victory invites you to release shame, silence, and the inherited weight of stigma. Through breath, visualization, and affirmations, you’ll reconnect with your inner light and remember that you are not broken, in-between, or too much—you are whole. This episode is designed for anyone navigating layered identities, especially those in the bisexual, pansexual, fluid, and queer communities who’ve been required to shrink, split, compartmentalize, cover or conceal to survive. Return to your body. Root yourself in your truth. Carry forward only what is yours.
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In this episode, we explore the “paradox of visibility” within the LGBTQ+ community—especially for those of us who are bisexual/bi+/pan and feel misrepresented in the world at large.
Visibility is be a powerful statement of existence and self-worth. Yet it also comes with risks: being seen can make you a target and a political scapegoat, while being erased and overlooked can lead to feels of despair and unworthiness.
Drawing on personal reflections, Ross introduces a companion to visibility: embodiment. Rather than asking to be acknowledged, embodiment asks us to discover ourselves from the inside out to take inventory of what we need.
He discusses how institutions and mainstream narratives weren’t built with our particular life experiences in mind, why external validation alone falls short, and how cultivating a sense of wholeness and "glow" can transform both our lives and the people around us.
Tune in to learn practical questions for distinguishing whether you’re acting to “be seen” or to “feel more like yourself."
For deeper discovery, download our worksheet "Visibility & Embodiment" here.
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