Tamar Burris is an author, divorce coach, and co-parenting concierge. Her tagline is, "co-parent without blame, shame, or games."
In this episode we talk about how she decided to write a children's book called, A New Special Friend to help kids comprehend when parents start dating new people. We also discuss how she co-parents her son and what strategies she uses to stay sane, and not live in guilt or shame. This includes very practical tips as well!
Topics we discuss:
-how to do transition days well
-how to stop blaming yourself and actually live into the freedom of divorce
-her book and the inspiration behind it
-how to understand the kid's perspective better
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This episode is the FIRST OF ITS KIND! I interviewed a divorced couple, now remarried to others, along with their daughter. Julianna Smeltzer is the daughter, and I met her in college. I was always fascinated by the way she talked about her family. She would say, "My Moms and Dads are coming to watch me perform!" I thought to myself... what? Their blended family seemed too healthy to be real! I couldn't believe it. Listen in and hear how this couple, Geoff Comstock and Dana Comstock-Benzick, decided to choose what was best for their kids and their relationship post-divorce.
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Hi everyone! Welcome to Season 2 of this podcast. I can't believe we are here. Thank you for your continued support♥️
In this episode I interview Wendy Sloane. She is a mom of two and hosts her own divorce podcast. Her divorce process was long and full of being dragged back to court for financial issues. In this episode she reads a two different letters that her daughter and her daughter's friend wrote about how they feel about divorce.
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In this episode I interview 19-year-old child of divorce, Jake Herzberg. You may have heard of his mother, Jessica Klingbaum (co-founder of the exEXPERTS). Jake is honest, real, and blunt-- the perfect mix. I love his maturity and perspective at such a young age! You don't wanna miss this.
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In this episode I got to interview my first Dad on the show, Rob Roseman! Rob is the creator of WTF Divorce - a hilarious page made to engage those quickly with the topic of divorce as they scroll. Rob divorced in 2020... CRAZY RIGHT?!?! He talks about what it was like getting divorced during that time, his relationship with his co-parent, and how he's learned to step up as a dad. Rob also talks about his heart behind creating WTF Divorce, as he wanted other men to have a place to find help on how to parent and date and be a human after divorce.
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WOW! What an honor it was to interview child of divorce, divorce coach, podcast host, and co-parent: Kate Anthony. Kate hosts the podcast, The Divorce Survival Guide and gives her audience a plethora of resources on how to heal during/after divorce. In our conversation we talk about her experience as a child of divorce and one that grew up in the world of acting. We also speak on how that shaped her decisions later in life. When Kate realized she was not setting a good example of a healthy relationship for her son, whose name I mute, and she knew she had to get out. When Kate decided to divorce her spouse, that's also when she decided to part ways with every abusive relationship in her life (best friend, and career)! This is a conversation you definitely want to have a pen and paper for. Get ready for the incredible, Kate Anthony.
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In this episode Alyssen tells us what finding out about her mom's second divorce was like. This was a bigger deal since Alyssen grew up with her mom and stepdad. Her parents got divorced when she was too young to remember. We discuss what it's like when you lose a stepdad to divorce and how to navigate that relationship post divorce. We also talk about how poorly the divorce was communicated to Alyssen and how she wanted more answers and more communication! There is much more but you will have to listen to find out all of the details of what Alyssen wishes her parents knew.
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In this episode we hear from my anonymous friend, "Jim". Jim thought about his episode a lot and gives us five major things that divorce entails. These five things are things that parents need to consider their kid's interest in. Those five being:
After all of these five, we talk about how he came to recognize his parents as humans. The more he looked back at his family tree, the more he saw generational patterns of divorce and addiction. These made him have more compassion for his parents, understanding that they are only giving what they know.
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I was very honored to interview the exEXPERTS: Jessica Klingbaum and T.H. Irwin this week. Their stories are wild! They have been best friends since college and their exes were best friends; however, their individual divorces could not be more different. With Jessica having kids at ages two and four and T.H. with a four, six, and eight-year-old at the time of the divorce, they know a thing or two. Listen in as we discuss what parenting through divorce was like for them, and how their kids received the new change.
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In this episode, Camille walks us through how she found out about her parent's divorce at age 16 and how it created a barrier between her and her dad. Now she and her dad Marco Polo each other almost every day. How did it happen? Listen in as she explains the transformation of accepting her father as human, and letting him in her life again. Very proud of Camille, and I cannot believe the steps she has taken as such a young child of divorce.
This episode covers teen children of divorce, sharing adult content with kids too early, forgiveness, bonus families, and more.
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Mother, Coparent, Cancer Survivor, and Entrepreneur. These are the descriptors that just scratch the surface when talking about my guest Sara Olsher. She is the creator of Mighty & Bright Co. This company provides magnetic calendars with magnetic options to fill your week with. This idea came to Sara when she put her daughter in counseling after she and her husband divorced. The counselor explained to Sara how crucial visual schedules are for children's development and for reducing anxiety levels. Sara also explains her passion for writing about hard things and translating them into kid language. Through her divorce, and battling breast cancer she became one who was very acquainted with hard things. This woman is full of passion, hope, and courage. Her calendars are a lifesaver! I can't wait for you to hear her story, and what Mighty & Bright Co. is all about.
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Divorce and Children, created by Christina McGhee is one of the most comprehensive resources for parents. I was honored to interview the founder, Christina, in this episode. She is a child of divorce herself and also a bonus mom! She and I speak about the importance of language when speaking about divorce. For example, "step-mom" can easily be replaced with "bonus mom". She also shares what pillars are needed for children after divorce, why discipline is still important, and also acknowledges just how hard all of this can be. The empathy and understanding that Christina carries for parents is what makes her such a great teacher. She also got to share about her book and the incredible new film series, Split. I hope you enjoy this conversation that I had with Christina McGhee as much as I did.
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In this episode, Harrison "Red" Rankin brings us into the last year of his life. Back in February of 2022, Red found out his parents were separating. Red is 25 years old, yet he is a child of divorce. We are lucky to hear Red's story after such a new change for him and his family. He speaks about how his role as a son has changed with his mother. He talks about how many young men realize the ways they are like their fathers. We chat about what it's like being an adult child of divorce and how looking back at his childhood, he saw some signs pointing toward divorce. Red truly is a self-aware man, and I was so fortunate to hear his story. I hope you enjoy it!
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In this episode, Fiona Kong shares what it's been like co-parenting after parting ways with her former partner. They have a now 6-year-old son, Emile who was two when they split. Fiona was sad to be missing out on her child's life half the time. It was hard to find out what he and his dad did together since he was only two years young. So, she bought a journal from the dollar store and asked if her co-parent could fill it in with things they did together. Fast forward a bit and now she has created a whole journal for split families to use together. It contains a calendar, journal prompts, memory keepers, and more!
Beyond sharing her journal, she shares what the split has been like for her and her son. We discuss how divorce affected Emile and how he tried to keep track of when he was with each parent. We also spoke about her own journey and how she had to seek healing from her own family of origin and the beauty of forgiveness.
Home Sweet Homes Website: https://home-sweet-homes-journal.myshopify.com/
Fiona's Instagram: @homesweethomesjournal
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In this episode, I interview 34-year-old, Katherine Randolph. She speaks about what it was like growing up as the oldest sibling. Divorce has impacted her in ways that she still exemplifies today, like being on time. Katherine's parents were very protective of THEIR time with her and her sister. She could not be late. Katherine had to have a super-efficient map planned out in her head of how to leave mom's house well to not offend her while also making it to dad's house on time. This stress put a lot of stress on her. She also experienced "Parentification". She was her mother's emotional stabilizer. We even hear Katherine read a journal entry from the 4th grade of her stating that what makes her happy, is when mommy's happy.
As much as I just described the negative effects, she also explains what her parents did well. Such as, not speaking poorly about the other parent, providing her with a fun childhood, and meeting her financial and physical needs.
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In this episode, Dr. James and his wife Ginger share about their resource: "The Family Core". Both of them had been divorced and had children before meeting one another. Blending a family is always hard but for them, faith was a huge component of how they found healing and hope. We talk about their experience of being a blended family, what they see their kids go through, and how they came up with the idea of "The Family Core". The Family Core is an app to help parents co-parent through healthy communication and organization. It has four pillars it can assist families with: secure chat, secure document storage, shared family calendars, and geo-locations for both Androids and iPhones.
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In this episode, 23-year-old JJ Zykan explains what her childhood was like as a child of divorce. We talk about mom and dad swapping houses, bad therapy, watching her mom enter into a toxic relationship for her second marriage, and how we need different parents at different times of our lives. Overall, JJ is grateful for the divorce. It allowed her family to be fully free and not walk on eggshells around each other. There was less fighting and anxiety within the home. While JJ is not an advocate for divorce, she recognizes it was the healthiest move for her family. This podcast is jammed packed with nuggets of wisdom. So, grab a notebook and pen, and lean in as you hear JJ's story.
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Isabel had to grow up fast. She is the oldest of six kids, two of which have disabilities. Her relationship with her mom has always been difficult to navigate. However, her dad has been a safe haven for her, giving her space when needed. Buckle up as we tackle narcissistic moms, abusive step-parents, switching houses midweek, and the power of giving kids their space.
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We're back with the sibling duo, Grant and Haley! If you haven't listened to part one, do so now!! In this episode, we talk about what their parents did well with split custody. We also discuss what research says is best, practicals for going from house to house, and resources for you. I loved this conversation and I am so honored to have interviewed these two. Enjoy this gift!
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