In this follow-up to our first tradwives episode, we dive into the toxic world of the manosphere and the concept of “princess treatment.” From Andrew Tate wannabes to algorithm-fed misogyny, we unpack how these online communities are radicalizing young men, feeding the male loneliness epidemic, and warp ideas about relationships. What you’ll hear in this episode:

• What the manosphere is, who’s in it, and how it’s damaging men AND women
  
  
• The role of YouTube algorithms in fueling extremist content
  
  
• Why beauty standards for men are moving backward while women’s are evolving
  
  
• How patriarchy, entitlement, and unrealistic dating expectations feed each other
  
  
• The male loneliness epidemic and why “man up” culture is part of the problem

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• Mexico City Weekend: Cutoff date Aug. 20, 2025
  
  
• Christmas Markets Girls’ Trip: Prague, Berlin & beyond 

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Is your childfree choice written in the stars? In this episode, we sit down with astrologer Christina Garcia to explore what astrology reveals about the decision not to have children. Christina reads Erika + Kristen’s birth charts and walks us through the placements and patterns that might point to a childfree path. We dive into the houses and signs that speak to parenting, autonomy, and purpose — and unpack how astrology can validate, affirm, or even challenge how we see ourselves. Whether you're a chart-curious skeptic or a full-blown astro girlie, this is a juicy one.

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What if the very thought of pregnancy or giving birth filled you with terror — not just discomfort or anxiety, but real, paralyzing fear?In this episode, Erika and Kristen explore tokophobia, an often-overlooked condition defined by the Cleveland Clinic as an extreme fear of childbirth. Tokophobia can affect people so severely that they may go to great lengths to avoid pregnancy altogether. For those who do become pregnant, the fear can overshadow what many new parents expect to be a joyful time. We unpack the psychological and cultural roots of this condition, share firsthand accounts from those living with it, and discuss how tokophobia intersects the choice to remain childfree. Whether you've experienced this fear yourself, or are just hearing about it for the first time, this episode offers validation, insight, and a fresh perspective on reproductive autonomy.

In This Episode, We Cover:

• 🧠 The difference between primary and secondary tokophobia, and how each type manifests
  
  
• 📊 Statistics from the Norwich Medical School on the prevalence of childbirth-related anxiety and severe fear
  
  
• 🧪 Kristen’s deep dive into the Wijma Delivery Expectancy Questionnaire (W-DEQ) — including her own results
  
  
• 😨 Erika’s personal experience with extreme physical reactions to discussions of pregnancy
  
  
• 🧵 How tokophobia, PTSD, and general fear of childbirth exist on a spectrum — and why misdiagnosis matters
  
  
• 💊 The limited treatment options for tokophobia, including therapy and planned cesarean births
  
  
• 🗣️ Emotional Reddit confessions from those with tokophobia, and how the childfree identity often overlaps with the condition
  
  
• ⚖️ The impact of abortion restrictions on those with tokophobia — and how forced pregnancy can feel life-threatening to some
  
  
• 🧵 Why “being a woman” can feel like a burden when reproductive autonomy is at stake
  
  

💬 Join the Conversation: Have you experienced tokophobia or a fear of pregnancy? Tell us your story or weigh in on the conversation at @dinkypod on Instagram, or email us at dinky@dinkypod.com. 

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A lot to unpack in this episode! Today we are talking about Trump's "Big Beautiful Bill": what it includes and, most importantly, what's at stake for Americans when it comes to Medicaid, increasing federal debt, AI, and impacts specific to "childless adults."

Note: We’re recording this on June 20, 2025 and the Senate won’t even start debating the bill until at least June 22, 2025. So, some details about this conversation MAY have updates by the time this episode goes live, but the generalizations should remain in tact. 

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Our guest today needs no introduction, as you’ve likely seen her all over your FYP educating the masses on midlife and menopause. Tamsen Fadal is the bestselling author of How To Menopause: Take Charge of Your Health, Reclaim Your Life, and Feel Even Better Than Before, the host of the Tamsen Show Podcast, and the creator, producer, and executive producer of the PBS documentary The M Factor: Shredding The Silence On Menopause. Beyond that, she is also a 12-time Emmy award-winning journalist and documentarian. Her regular appearances in media outlets include Oprah Daily, The Today Show, The New York Times, and The Harvard Business Review. Long story short? She’s a big fucking deal and we’re so excited to have her with us today! 

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Today we’re revisiting a crowd fave: regretful faves! We spiced it up this time and went to a new source for regretful parents content: Facebook’s “I Regret Having Children” page. Can you imagine anything more depressing than posting about regretting parenthood on Facebook?? Me either! Tune in for a great recap of three stories found on Meta's worst platform. 

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Mexico City Weekend 2: Oct. 16 - 19 (GIRLS TRIP)Plus 8 Days In Germany + Prague for Christmas Markets: Dec. 6 - 13 (GIRLS TRIP)

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R. O. Kwon is the author of the two best selling books —The Incendiaries and Exhibit, the second of which received a New York Times Editors’ Choice award. Kwon’s writing has appeared in The New York Times, New Yorker, Time, Vanity Fair, The Guardian, and beyond — often writing about abortion rights, being childfree, as well as her identities as an Asian American and queer woman. Born in Seoul, Kwon has lived most of her life in the United States. You can find more info on ordering her books here.

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Mexico City Weekend 2: Oct. 16 - 19 (GIRLS TRIP)

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Let’s talk about the SAVE act — the new legislation moving through Congress that has TikTok worried that many women and trans people will no longer be eligible to vote. If you’re unfamiliar, the SAVE Act would require all Americans to prove their citizenship with documentation unavailable to millions and upend the way every American citizen registers to vote.

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If you’ve been thinking about joining Dinky on a trip but not yet quite sold, this is the episode for you! In March, Dinky took 20 members of the Dink Squad to the bucket list destination every person who wanted to become an archeologist dreamt of going: Egypt. In this episode, we’ll recount the experience and share some audio clips from the travelers — and hopefully inspire you, too, to add Egypt to your list of travel spots to visit! 

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Enjoy this full preview of the our bonus episodes! The Dinky Patreon is officially live — join now to support the show + gain access to weekly, ad-free episodes, chat with us & other childfree pals in the Dinky Discord, join our virtual book club, and more! 

Today we are joined by Caitlin Easter, who has been practicing family law in Oregon since 2016. Her and her fiancee are proudly childfree by choice, a decision reinforced by what she witnesses in her career as a divorce and child custody attorney. We’ll be talking to her about her day-to-day as well as her legal "thesis,” which argued why women shouldn't get married in the 21st century. 

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In the second part of this stupid series, Kristen and Erika explore one of our favorite topics, The Muppets, and whether or not each character would have had kids or been childfree by choice. 

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Today we are talking about a cult adjacent to Tradwives: the Momfluencer. According to Wikipedia: “A mom influencer or momfluencer is a mother who shares the early moments of motherhood on social media, often utilizing sites such as Instagram.” Or, as Vox reports, “The simplest definition (of a momfluencer) is someone who has monetized her maternal identity on social media.” We’ll be covering the world of momfluencing in more detail, including the notorious cases of the Stauffers & Ruby Franke.

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Today we are joined by Caitlin Easter, who has been practicing family law in Oregon since 2016. Her and her fiancee are proudly childfree by choice, a decision reinforced by what she witnesses in her career as a divorce and child custody attorney. We’ll be talking to her about her day-to-day as well as her legal "thesis,” which argued why women shouldn't get married in the 21st century. 


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Today we are speaking with Dr. Emily Sbiroli, a board-certified Emergency Medicine physician based in Southern California. She has expertise in climate medicine, healthcare sector decarbonization, and clinician education in these issues. She holds a Diploma in Climate Medicine from the University of Colorado and completed the National Physician Fellowship in Climate and Health Science Policy in 2022. She serves as course director for the University of Colorado’s Sustainable Health Systems curriculum, and consults on healthcare climate mitigation for US, Latin American, and Caribbean health systems. 

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Enjoy Erika sweating over whether she knows high school education material about her body.

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Our guest today needs no introduction, as she’s the guest of our most-beloved episode. That’s right, we’re talking to Marcia Drut-Davis to cap off our three-part series on childfree trailblazers. Now 82 years young, Marcia is a pioneer of the childfree lifestyle and author of two books: ‘Confessions Of A Childfree Woman’ and ‘What? You Don’t Want Children?’ In 1974, Marcia revealed her childfree status on national television on a groundbreaking segment of ‘60 Minutes.’ We’ll be asking her all about the fabulous adventures she’s had in the past few years, what advice she has on making intergenerational friendships and so much more.

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Today, we are reading some of the most disturbing parent-related posts on “the Reddit,” where I created a Dinkypod account signed up for every SubReddit related to having kids, from r/pregnant, r/parenting, and our personal favorite – r/regretfulparents. We will react in real time to some of these posts.

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Today, we’re kicking off the second episode in our series on childfree trailblazers with a conversation with Marie Bernardy. Marie and her husband, Bill, met in 1968 and have been married since 1974. She served as Development Director for Planned Parenthood (in both CA and OR); Vice-President for Development at two CA hospitals, and Executive Director of two library foundations in both California and Oregon. After reading a Time article about the National Organization for Non Parenthood, she and Bill became involved in the St. Louis chapter,helping to grow its membership and visibility. Eventually both Marie and Bill served on theNON/NAOP board, each as President. Marie’s presidency coincided with the dissolution of theorganization in 1982. Marie & Bill made many local and several national appearances (including a Phil Donahue segment on the “Today” show) on behalf of NAOP. We ask her about her experience receiving physical threats, nasty late night phone calls, and a several weeks-long “dialogue” in the newspaper with the Archbishop of St. Louis, who called for their excommunication were some darks spots in an otherwise exciting, fulfilling and educational journey with NAOP.

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In this stupid episode, Kristen (buzzed) and Erika (high) explore one of our favorite topics, The Muppets, and whether or not each character would have had kids or been childfree by choice. Dinky is now on Substack — free of charge! Subscribe now to access exclusive content, unhinged memes, guest articles, and stay up to date on the podcast. 

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We’re kicking off the first episode in a series on childfree trailblazers with a conversation with Joan Eisenstodt. An Ohio native, Joan moved to Washington, DC in 1978 and worked in the hospitality industry by trade. She was an early member of The National Organization for Non-Parents, which later became the National Alliance For Optional Parenthood, before shutting down during the Reagan administration. Joan has been featured in publications like The Washington Post, New Legacy Radio, and more. In this episode, we talk with her about her experiences seeking sterilization in the 1970s, how she’s feeling about the current political climate, and more.
 
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