Send us a text Sarah (name changed) has been a relationship with a fearful avoidant for almost a year. All was going well until it got rocky. She now wants to try again but with some boundaries in place. Sarah and I sat down recently to discuss how it could look going forward for her and her partner. Sarah agreed to have this session recorded and aired for the benefit of everyone listening. Remember, as humans, our views and needs differ. Take what you believe would be helpful for...

Send us a text You hit send. You see the “Delivered” tick turn to “Read.” And then... nothing. The silence is louder than any notification. Your mind starts racing: Are they hurt? Are they ignoring me? Did my message come on too strong? Was it the wrong emoji? Before you spiral into that abyss of overthinking, we want you to hit pause. The reason for that silent phone likely has very little to do with you, and everything to do with their internal wiring- their attachment style. In this episod...

Send us a text When you're in a relationship shaped by attachment insecurities, the questions are complex, urgent, and deeply personal. In this episode of Decoding Attachment, host Annalisa Bahadur tackles your real-world dilemmas with clarity and compassion, offering actionable strategies for some of the toughest dynamics. We're moving beyond theory and into the trenches to answer your pressing questions, including… “An FA leaning anxious – do we treat them as anxious?” We break down...

Send us a text Is it okay for your partner to take space and drop off the face of the earth without responding to your texts or calls? Not if you’re in a serious committed relationship. This podcast explains why and what you should do. If you’re avoidant attached and want to know how to ask for space without your partner getting upset- listen to this podcast. Please share this podcast if you found it helpful. Support the show

Send us a text This episode shares the time line in which the avoidant show interested in the rebound, starts to withdraws and goes back to their ex. The episode talks about why Avoidant Attached jumps into soon after a break up, what their intentions are when returning to and what you can do to prevent yourself from becoming rebound. Support the show

Send us a text This is what we are talking about today- Why avoidants rush into reboundsThe negative consequences of rebound relationshipsWhether avoidants come back to their exWhat their (often anxious) partners should doHealthier alternatives for avoidantsHow secure individuals handle breakups and reboundsDon’t forget to leave a review so others can know how this episode may help them too. Thanks in advance. Support the show

Send us a text Setting buddies after giving someone a second chance can feel tricky. We want to let them back into our lives but how do we do it with light lagging them take us for granted again. This podcasts answers that question. Support the show

Send us a text We all want to feel like the priority in the relationship but this is often not felt when in a relationship with an avoidant attached person. But is this only with a avoidant attached partner or can an insecure (anxious or avoidant) attached feel that way with a secure attached as well. This podcast helps to break down a few possible reasons you may not feel that way. Support the show

Send us a text It can be confusing spotting your attachment style or knowing exactly which is your partners attachment style. This podcast simplifies the attachment style so you can understand them and appreciate how and why they show up in your every day life. You’ll also have a better understanding of how and if your partner can trigger a different attachment within you. Share you thoughts on the podcast, please. As well as share to friends and family members if you think this can m...

Send us a text Do you find you’re in a co-dependent relationship that is affecting your relationship? Maybe you need them too much, or perhaps you don’t want to need them as much but don’t know what to do. This podcast shares how our attachment styles show up in co-dependent relationships and what you can do to manage it. Support the show

Send us a text Should you leave early Relationship and heal or stay single until you find someone who is securely attached? Is it that simple? Better yet, would it be best to heal your attachment style while still in a relationship or while waiting for someone who is securely attached, I believe that might be a better bet and in this podcast, I share how to attachment styles or formulated so that you have a better understanding of the work that you’re gonna wanna do in order to heal that atta...

Send us a text One of the most taught after answers in our time now is how to manage a relationship with an Avoidant Attached person and, what is really going on in their minds. This episode helps and Avoidant Attached person understand themselves better as well as starter healing journey. It also helps those who are interested in understanding and appreciating their Avoidant Attached friends and Partner Better. Dropping the comment section how this particular episode changed your perspecti...

Send us a text This is a recording of the regular Wednesday live Instagram. On today’s episode we answered these questions 👇…and more… What are the signs that an avoidant ex is forever gone and the relationship has ended Man has been living a double life. He’s been in two relationships while messaging other women. What should I do? Do avoidant people honestly love and care about you, or is it just a game? If I have awareness that I am an anxious attached person and my part...

Send us a text I forgive you’ doesn’t mean ‘I trust you yet.’ Why true forgiveness demands time, boundaries, and self-grace. A raw look at healing after betrayal. Forgiveness isn’t about speed-it’s about strength. Why granting a second chance requires giving yourself grace first. Explore the art of forgiving on your terms, setting boundaries, and reclaiming power after betrayal. Because true healing can’t be rushed. Support the show

Send us a text It’s easy for someone to look at your relationship and think that it should not be lasting as long as it does. You may even know that the relationship your end should end and you don’t know why you haven’t left us yet. Or perhaps you did find a courage and strength to walk away from it but you still wonder if they’ll come back and if things could work out differently or as you hope. Why does this happen? In this episode, we are looking at why we logically know the relationshi...

Send us a text Every Wednesday, I have a Live on Instagram where I answer questions sent in by followers on that platform. Here is a recorded copy of it. The questions answered are below. You can also catch the recording on my YouTube channel. How to bring back an ex in the relationship when she is not ready to come in the relationship with me. It’s confusing of what to do when someone comes back after 1-2 weeks. How do I respond? He says he doesn’t know if he can live witho...

Send us a text Here’s a story you’ve lived before, even if you don’t realize it yet. You meet someone. The connection is immediate, intoxicating—like a chemical reaction you can’t control. The texts flow effortlessly. The future feels possible. Then, without warning, the shift: one of you pulls back. The other panics. And just like that, you’re locked in the oldest romantic pattern in human psychology—the anxious-avoidant dance. This isn’t just about bad timing or mismatched feelings. This is...

Send us a text About 10 questions were answered on my usual Wednesday morning Instagram live, which has been uploaded here for your benefit. Some of the questions answered are👇👇👇 I was discarded/ghosted by my DA bf. It was so good until that. But a day came where he asked for space, which I said okay to. That space turned to ghosting.. We were long distance and I already had a ticket to go see him in about a week, which can’t be canceled. Im not sure how to move forward. I don’t want to...

Send us a text today we switched it up a little and decided to share my Instagram Wednesday live answers with you here on this podcast. Feel free to send me your questions which will be answered on that live and you could also catch the answers here or leave me a comment and let me know your take on this podcast Support the show

Send us a text Is My Ex Posting More on Social Media to Get My Attention? It’s hard to ignore when your ex suddenly becomes extra active online—posting more selfies, sharing moody quotes, or even liking old photos. You start wondering: Is this for me? Are they trying to send a message? Maybe they’re seeking validation, or perhaps they’re subtly trying to grab your attention because they feel neglected. Social media can become a silent battleground for unspoken needs, and their increased activ...