You know that kind of relationship that feels like a rollercoaster? The butterflies, the intensity, the late-night spirals — we call it “chemistry,” but what if it’s actually chaos? In this episode, Ilja Abbattista unpacks why we keep falling for the wrong people — especially if you’re living with ADHD, trauma, or both. From trauma bonds and emotional addiction to the ADHD dopamine trap, this episode explores why calm can feel boring, why emotionally unavailable people feel addictive, and how...
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You know that kind of relationship that feels like a rollercoaster? The butterflies, the intensity, the late-night spirals — we call it “chemistry,” but what if it’s actually chaos? In this episode, Ilja Abbattista unpacks why we keep falling for the wrong people — especially if you’re living with ADHD, trauma, or both. From trauma bonds and emotional addiction to the ADHD dopamine trap, this episode explores why calm can feel boring, why emotionally unavailable people feel addictive, and how...
Sex is supposed to feel good — safe, connected, playful… right? But what happens when ADHD and trauma are in the room too? In this episode, I get raw and real about how distraction, impulsivity, hyperfocus, and body memories shape our experience of intimacy — and how healing isn’t always linear, even when we’ve come a long way. 💥 I share personal truths, including a recent trigger that caught me off guard 🌀 We explore why you might crave sex and shut down at the same time 😂 And we...
Dating on High Alert
You know that kind of relationship that feels like a rollercoaster? The butterflies, the intensity, the late-night spirals — we call it “chemistry,” but what if it’s actually chaos? In this episode, Ilja Abbattista unpacks why we keep falling for the wrong people — especially if you’re living with ADHD, trauma, or both. From trauma bonds and emotional addiction to the ADHD dopamine trap, this episode explores why calm can feel boring, why emotionally unavailable people feel addictive, and how...