Is your relationship starting to feel more like cohabitating than connecting? In this episode of Dating Deja Vu, therapist and relationship expert Christina Hathaway dives deep into the quiet crisis so many couples face: the shift from romantic partners to roommates. She breaks down why this happens, how to spot the signs of hidden loneliness in your relationship, and most importantly—what to do about it.
Whether you're dating, married, or somewhere in between, this episode will challenge you to reflect, reconnect, and revive intimacy without relying on forced date nights or grand gestures.
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Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro
00:49 – Are you feeling more like roommates than lovers?
01:22 – The signs of "roommate energy" in relationships
02:33 – How disconnection slowly creeps in
03:49 – Mundane routines vs. meaningful connection
04:49 – Loneliness inside a “functional” relationship
06:27 – Christina’s honest personal reflections
07:09 – “You can still be in love and feel alone”
08:05 – No repair, no curiosity, no foreplay = disconnection
08:57 – Over-functioning and bargaining: what we do when intimacy fades
09:40 – Why polarity and tension matter in romantic connection
10:39 – Reigniting without forcing it: “Name it, don’t blame it”
11:19 – Micro-moments and rituals over grand gestures
12:42 – Reclaiming your own energy and vitality
14:08 – Ask better questions to get deeper with your partner
14:56 – If you're the only one trying: disrupting the cycle
15:41 – Coaching, counseling, and choosing intimacy
16:41 – The truth about roommate energy—it’s not the end, but it’s a sign
17:13 – You deserve to be chosen, not just tolerated
17:24 – How to work with Christina + final message