Let's dive deep into the subtle yet powerful ways conditional love shows up in modern dating and how it may be sabotaging your relationships without you even knowing it. From “perfect girl” syndrome to confusing anxiety with chemistry, she breaks down how many of us learned early on that love must be earned, and how that belief plays out on Bumble, in our DMs, and even in long-term partnerships.
Christina also shares vulnerable moments from her own life and client stories, illuminating the path to unconditional love: love that sees, holds, and accepts the real you—not the performance.
This is your wake-up call to stop auditioning for love and start showing up as your whole, unfiltered self. Because if love feels like a prize you have to earn, it might be time to rewrite your script.
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00:00 – Intro
00:42 – Conditional vs. unconditional love
01:25 – The invisible scorecard in dating
02:21 – Swipe culture & performing for love
03:31 – Self-help burnout & chasing "better"
04:00 – Client afraid to express needs
05:26 – “Perfect girl” syndrome
05:42 – How childhood shaped your view of love
08:20 – Anxiety vs. chemistry
08:40 – What real unconditional love looks like
09:26 – Personal stories of emotional safety
11:08 – Love for who you are, not what you do
12:09 – No fear of rejection = safe love
13:18 – Masks vs. boundaries in relationships
14:59 – Passion or panic?
15:20 – Love is a birthright, not a prize
16:05 – Spiritual source of unconditional love
16:39 – Look for values, not performances
18:04 – Conflict repair over perfection
19:07 – Boundaries, needs, and being human
20:13 – Journal prompts for reflection
21:40 – Are you being chosen for you?
22:23 – Subscribe, review, book a Clarity Call
22:54 – Outro