In this deeply resonant conversation, Dr. Lori M. Nixon- Bethea, PhD, LPC, LMHC, NCC, ACSand I explore what it means to live through—and ultimately transcend—the slow burn of chronic disappointment. We begin by sharing the gulf between the lives we built and the dreams we once held, acknowledging the grief that comes from unmet expectations. Dr. Lori recounts her own journey from frustration and self‑reproach to a place of steadfast peace, grounded in the profound realization that life is co‑authored by God, not solely directed by our own hands.As she reflects on seasons when God felt silent, Dr. Lori offers compassionate wisdom: struggle can be a divine instructor, teaching us patience and attuning us to God’s perfect timing rather than our hurried agendas. Together, we shed light on a common but overlooked phenomenon—high‑functioning grief. So many of us soldier on, outwardly composed yet inwardly fractured, deploying church‑speak and religious ritual as shields against our own pain.We unpack the phrase “I don’t claim that,” often brandished as spiritual armor to deny reality—whether in physical health, mental well‑being, or relational struggle—and examine the hidden cost of such avoidance. Truthfulness, we agree, is the catalyst that begins genuine transformation. By naming our wounds instead of whitewashing them, we break the cycle of compounding trauma that festers when left unaddressed.Recognizing a gap in support systems, we advocate for expanded mental‑health resources and financial‑literacy programs within the church—initiatives that would not only fortify congregants but also protect pastors from burnout. Our dialogue then turns to gendered experiences of therapy: the unique obstacles men face when their struggles are minimized or dismissed, and the critical need for individual counseling before embarking on couples work. We consider how men and women can better bridge their differing emotional landscapes through open communication and mutual understanding.Ultimately, this episode is an invitation—to be honest about where we are, to lean into the hard truths, and to trust that, in our vulnerability, we begin the work of healing and renewal.About Dr. Lori M. Nixon‑BetheaDr. Lori M. Nixon‑Bethea, PhD, LPC, LMHC, NCC, ACSFounder and Owner, Intentional Hearts Counseling Services, LLC (Monmouth County, NJ)With over seventeen years of professional experience, Dr. Nixon‑Bethea provides individual and group counseling to adults, couples, families, and at‑risk youth in both New Jersey and Florida. Her expertise spans work with the chronically mentally ill, foster‑care youth, and individuals in crisis.Education:- BA in Psychology, Monmouth University- MA in Psychological Counseling & Post‑Master’s Certificate in Professional Counseling, Monmouth University- PhD in Counseling (Marital & Family Counseling specialization), Barry UniversityClinical Credentials:Licensed Professional Counselor (NJ)Licensed Mental Health Counselor (NY)Nationally Board‑Certified Counselor & Approved Clinical Supervisor, Center for Credentialing and EducationAcademic Role: Assistant Professor of Psychology and Counseling (tenure track), Georgian Court UniversityResearch Interests: Marital and relationship success, mental‑health advocacy for dancers, and issues impacting Black, Indigenous, and People of Color.Publications & Media:Author of Riley’s Worry Away (2019), a children’s book addressing childhood anxietyQuoted in Cosmopolitan, Verywell Health, and ShapeFun Facts: Former Miss New Jersey USA delegate, graduate of the Olphelia DeVore School of Charm, and lifelong dancer. Dr. Nixon‑Bethea resides in Monmouth County with her husband and their dog.Keep up with Dr. Lori:https://drlorinixon.com/

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