IFS therapist Joe joins me for a wide-ranging, real conversation about healing the wounds of worthiness. We talk about the cost of hustle culture, the feminine perspective in a masculine world, and how the journey toward wholeness asks us to soften, connect, and reclaim our innate value — not for what we do, but for simply being.
We talk about:
- Why feeling "not enough" is more common than you think
- How internalized pressure to perform shows up in business, dating, and spirituality
- The power of community and how it offers healing where individualism can’t
- Choosing self-love—even when it doesn’t feel true yet
- And how to stop performing and start belonging.
This is a rich, tender, and honest conversation about what it means to be human in a world that rewards masks. If you’re craving deeper connection and are ready to trade performance for presence, this one is for you.
Chapters:
(01:10) – How Childhood Trauma Shapes Our Value System
(04:02) – Performance vs. Innate Worth
(08:55) – Being vs. Doing: Identity in Achievement
(13:22) – The Fantasy of Community and Real-World Tradeoffs
(18:05) – Individualism, Survival, and the Loss of Connection
(22:41) – The Tension Between Comfort and Freedom
(28:36) – Healing the Broken Parts: Self-Love and Resource Access
(34:40) – Dating While Awake: The Cost of Awareness
(40:45) – Radical Responsibility in Healing
(46:30) – Body Image, Implants, and Internalized Programming
(54:55) – What Religion Got Wrong (and Right)
(59:50) – Advice for the Start of a Healing Journey
(1:03:40) – Why Positive Thinking Isn’t Enough
Who's Joe?
Joe is a Licensed Professional Counselor Associate and Certified Level 3 IFS Practitioner. He is passionate about education, serving others and is on a mission to help people understand how their minds actually work so they can help themselves reach their potential. As an entrepreneur since 2007, he owns a wellness center, a coaching business and has a masters degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling. He has made a name for himself in his community primarily creating cooperative opportunities and assisting wellness practitioners to run their business, as well as helping individuals heal from their past wounds and learn to show up in their lives with confidence, courage and compassion.
Joe's Links
Website: https://joebielling.com/
Joe Beilling and Kate West Book Release: "From Broken to Badass"
https://joebielling.com/frombrokentobadass/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jbielling
Rachel's Links
Website: https://rachelheals.com/