In this episode of Single & Dating, Emily & Mayra discuss healthy expectations in dating. Expect good conversations on dates, expect to be treated well, regardless of whether or not the date goes well, and don’t settle for less. Look for effort, intentionality, and showing you that the date is a priority. Expect there to be a directness in dating; When someone likes you, they should be willing to tell you upfront, willing to risk the vulnerability of telling you, and ultimately free you from the confusion that you would otherwise feel. Expect dating the right person to be fun, refreshing, and to bring you a level of peace.

Give people the freedom to show you who they are, and believe what they tell you, even if it’s not what you wanted to hear. Think about what you want in the long-haul, and whether this person fits into and supports your dream for the future. Otherwise, you could end up shifting your life for this person, rather than waiting to find someone who wants the same things. Expect that who they are right now is going to be who they are for the rest of your life, unless they are already showing you the specific ways that they are growing and changing. Act based on what they are saying right now, not based on what you expect will change in the future. Do not expect anyone to change for you. Know what you want, stand by it, and expect that it’s out there waiting for you.

Tune in to Season 4: SINGLE & DATING for relatable conversations with Mayra, a licensed therapist, and Emily, who holds a bachelor’s in Psychology from Harvard. Hosts are @ Em.Robinsonnn and @ Mayra_Richards_ and @ RemainConnected on IG. TikTok @ ConnectingUPodcast. YOUTUBE: Connecting U Podcast