Connecting U: Jealousy in Friendship
Everyone feels jealousy at some point, which is the feeling of envy due to comparison. Jealousy can be sneaky, so pay attention to when it is robbing you of joy. Some people express jealousy through rage, fear, humiliation, or other expressions. Sometimes we romanticize what others have, and we forget there are things that we don’t know about that person’s life. Jealousy indicates where your heart is. If you can shift your energy regarding jealousy, you can learn to cheer on others. Be happy for those who have good things that you don’t have, because you will want others to cheer you on when good things happen for you!
Things To Think About:
You are usually jealous of the things that you complain about.
Jealousy is okay to feel in passing, but where is your heart at?
Do you believe that God is giving you enough?
Are you willing to make the changes necessary to live the kind of life you dream of?
Show compassion when your friends are going through something difficult, but you are in a season full of gifts.
Steps to Process Jealousy:
What do you think their success is saying about you?
Because they have something I want, do I think I am lesser?
Meditate on your core beliefs with yourself or a counselor.
Feel the pain of whatever your core belief is centered around, whether that is the fear of being incapable, unheard, disappointing others, etc.
Validate the feeling, stay there for a few minutes, and then think about your truth.
How do you actually want to show up in the world? Can you cheer on the person who you were jealous of?
Proverbs 27:9 “A sweet friendship refreshes the soul.”
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