In this final episode of their recovery series, Chad and Angela discuss ways to stay connected on the return home from vacation. A relationship can feel tension when you return and have to reset into a routine. Listen and they discuss how to set expectations and re-enter as smoothly as possible. Then have a conversation about how your own relationship returns from vacation.

What are you going spend? What are you going to eat? Are you going to make time to connect physically? These are all areas of content where the unexpected can and often does show up, leaving a couple feeling disconnected and frustrated during what should be a fun time. Join Chad and Angela as they discuss ways to trouble shoot things that don’t go as planned and how to be flexible and stay connected in the midst of disappointment and failed plans.

Once you arrive at your destination the hope is that it will all go well. But so often couples find themselves in distress and conflict and don’t always know how to repair. In this episode you’ll hear real examples from a few of Chad’s and Angela’s vacations and also hear how they had to ask each other ’what went wrong’ so that they could get back to enjoying the moment. Listen as they make the process practical and tangible, then try a conversation with your partner that can help you stay united once you arrive.

The day has arrived for The Departure to your vacation. What is your expectation? Do you and your partner have roles, lists or even a good connection on this day? Chad and Angela discuss all the things that are packed into the day you leave for vacation and all the ways stress and conflict creep in to what you hope will be a fun time. Listen as they discuss ways to stay connected, then have the conversation they suggest that is designed to help you depart more smoothly.

Vacations can be fun! But they can also be stressful. Chad and Angela kick off this new series with a conversation about planning a vacation. What are some of your practices around vacation and how can you make sure both partners are getting to do some of the things they like? Listen as The Real Imhoffs discuss it and then connect with your partner about taking a vacation!

In this final episode of their series on Healing From Past Wounds, Chad and Angela share what you can expect growth to look like in areas you’ve been able to talk about. You can’t remove all the trigger in the world and you also can’t expect perfection, but you can start to shift the interactions you have with your partner in areas where you’ve been able to find acceptance around negative meaning from your past. Listen as The Real Imhoffs show you how they’ve seen growth in their own ’raw spots’ and then have a conversation with your partner about how this might look in your own relationship.

In this episode of their series on Healing From Past Wounds, Chad breaks down a specific content topic where the has recognized that something from his past is at play. He and Angela discuss how it shows up in their interactions and how they’ve have learned to talk about it. Angela explains that while she knew something was happening for him, she didn’t know how to help him process it. Listen as they give practical tips to navigate some of your own negative patterns, then have a conversation with your partner about it.

In this episode of their series on Healing From Past Wounds, Chad and Angela bring up another example of how you discuss an interaction that has tension to determine if it is a ”Raw Spot” or has a past wound influencing it. They share a pattern they recognized in their relationship, set up the scenario, and then walk you through how they break it down. In the Connect Point, they encourage you to try and recognize patterns in your own relationship and then try to have a conversation with your partner about changing how you interact.

Chad and Angela make it real in this episode by bringing you a real conversation that causes tension in their relationship. They noticed a pattern of negative interactions around a specific circumstance and had been trying to mitigate damage on their own. Listen as The Real Imhoffs discuss how to have a conversation about these tense spots and how to recognize what is at play and what both partners need to make these hard places go more smoothly. Check it out and then have a conversation with your own partner about things in your relationship.

This episode of the series Healing From Past Wounds gets you to consider if you want something to change. Maybe once you’ve been able to discuss and acknowledge why you respond the way you do, it changes the interaction enough that you decide you don’t need to adjust it. You won’t know until you are able to unpack the areas of tension, identify what is causing the tension, and then have a conversation with your partner about how you would both like the interactions to go. Listen to this episode and see if you can identify some of the interactional patterns in your relationship that you’d like to change.

Now that they have each given an example of past wounds that they have identified and worked on, Chad and Angela discuss something that happened recently. They walk you through how to identify what is going on, how to tie it to a past message and how to respond to it in the present so that you can feel more connected around these areas of pain and distress. Check it out, then have a conversation with your partner about your own experience.

This is episode of their series on Healing From Past Wounds, Angela dives into an example where a ’raw spot’ showed up for her, and how she and Chad have navigated it. Awareness doesn’t mean the trigger goes away, but it does allow for the possibly of a different response. Check out it out and then have a conversation about how past wounds might show up in your relationship.

In this episode of their series on Healing From Past Wounds, Chad and Angela share how these wounds might show up in your present relationship. Chad shares one of his ”Raw Spots” and The Real Imhoffs discuss how they processed it, how they responded to it, and how it was changed with new insight. Then they set you up to have a conversation in your relationship that is designed to connect you to your partner. Check it out.

In this new series, Chad and Angela discuss how past wounds show up in your present relationship and how your securely attached partner can help you find healing in some of those painful places. Sue Johnson refers to these as Raw Spots in her book ”Hold Me Tight”. Listen as The Real Imhoffs explain what they are and how they present themselves. Then, have a conversation with your partner that is designed to help you connect.

In this final episode of their series on Addiction, The Real Imhoffs tackle a really hard, but necessary step for couples who have experienced addiction- returning to past pain to find healing. So many times, the ’addict’ gets healthy or sober and everyone just moves on. But the partner can often hold pain and resentment for the hurt and loss that was never addressed. It is good for couples to acknowledge what was lost and to grieve together the pain that addiction caused in their relationship. Often this step requires a therapist or sponsor. Check out this episode to hear more about the process.

Chad and Angela are back with 2 more episodes about Addiction. In this episode, they’ll discuss relapse and how it works into the journey of getting healthy. They break down the difference between a slip up or a full blown relapse and share that in neither case is a couple back to square one. Check out this episode and then have a conversation with your partner about the structures you have in place to stay healthy.

In this final episode of their addiction series, Chad and Angela Imhoff recap a few of the things to remember, plus share resources that you can plug into on your recovery journey. Check out this episode and then consider their Connect Point about what next step you might be able to take to be a healthier person.

In this episode we switch sides and talk about the person who is married to someone who struggles with addiction. During the height of the unhealthy choices, the partner had no choice but to pick up the slack and manage all the extra things that the addicted partner was neglecting. If feels completely unfair to have reconsider how much you are managing and also to consider trying to trust your sober partner with some of it again, but for the relationship to continue in a new healthy way, this is what has to be considered. List as Chad and Angela discuss what needs to happen when you are the partner to addiction.

Once we’ve gotten some time in our health and recovery, it is good to go back and consider if there is any lasting damage from previous poor choices. If a person has the capacity to recognize the damage that their past choices had on their partner, repairs can be made for further secure places where there may be lingering mistrust. Listen as Chad and Angela Imhoff discuss this challenging idea and then consider having a conversation with your partner about it.

The final of 5 action steps in this addiction series is embracing your story. Understanding where you came from and why you do some of the things you so is imperative if you want to shift your behaviors. Listen as Chad and Angela discuss the importance of knowing your self and telling your story and yet also why it’s so hard to do. In the connect point, you’ll consider if there are parts in your story you’d rather leave out, and if you can share those with your partner.