Betrayal nearly destroyed us, but we found ways to rebuild the trust and restore our relationship--and we did it without splitting up! Now our marriage is much better than before.
We'll use our 20+ years of researching best practices to give helpful techniques for your own relationship.
***The (S) after the Episode number means it shouldn't trigger women who are hurting from betrayal. Even still, please use your best judgment.
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Betrayal nearly destroyed us, but we found ways to rebuild the trust and restore our relationship--and we did it without splitting up! Now our marriage is much better than before.
We'll use our 20+ years of researching best practices to give helpful techniques for your own relationship.
***The (S) after the Episode number means it shouldn't trigger women who are hurting from betrayal. Even still, please use your best judgment.
When I Chose Porn Over God (and What Happened Next) – 6.07S
Coffee with The Couple Cure
35 minutes 16 seconds
2 months ago
When I Chose Porn Over God (and What Happened Next) – 6.07S
Jay opens up about the internal voice telling him to confess his porn addiction - and why he actively chose to ignore it for years. We explore:
• The pattern of CALCULATED DELAY
• What that "voice of truth" actually sounds like
• The PERSONAL COSTS of ignoring God's promptings
• The split-second decision between truth and silence
• How SILENCE IS NEVER NEUTRAL
• When lying feels holy
If you're struggling with porn addiction, betrayal trauma, or wondering whether to come clean about your secrets, this conversation offers hope and practical insight into this crucial part of the recovery process.
Timestamps
00:00 Intro
00:28 Did you ever feel like you should tell the truth?
01:39 Jay describes the VOICE OF TRUTH (hearing God)
04:36 Earlier opportunities to avoid D-Day
06:29 What did you do when the voice showed up?
08:06 On feeling unlovable
10:05 When the wife ACCEPTS THE ADDICTION
12:55 Misunderstanding about ATTRACTIVE WOMEN
15:44 HOW GOD SEES US (3 ways)
18:35 Did you think silence would keep you lovable?
21:50 Personal COSTS of ignored nudges
24:31 Silence is never neutral
28:16 Was there a question I SHOULD HAVE ASKED to make you confess?
30:28 Was there any part of this that felt holy or virtuous? (spiritual costs)
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To Recover from Betrayal Trauma - https://pornpainhealed.com/contact-me/
To Recover from Addiction - https://porniskillingme.com/contact-me/
To Say Thanks ("Tip Jar") - https://buy.stripe.com/8wM6pe74F9LsdkA8ww
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Who is This Channel For?
If porn addiction has you stuck--whether you want freedom as an addict, or you want the pain to stop as a betrayed spouse, or you need trust rebuilt in your relationship--this podcast can help. Our marriage was nearly destroyed by Jay’s porn addiction, but we found ways to make life and marriage much better than before. Now, as Trauma-Trained Certified Mentors, we’re using those best practices to help you find the peace, joy and love you’re seeking.
Betrayal nearly destroyed us, but we found ways to rebuild the trust and restore our relationship--and we did it without splitting up! Now our marriage is much better than before.
We'll use our 20+ years of researching best practices to give helpful techniques for your own relationship.
***The (S) after the Episode number means it shouldn't trigger women who are hurting from betrayal. Even still, please use your best judgment.
