Betrayal nearly destroyed us, but we found ways to rebuild the trust and restore our relationship--and we did it without splitting up! Now our marriage is much better than before.
We'll use our 20+ years of researching best practices to give helpful techniques for your own relationship.
***The (S) after the Episode number means it shouldn't trigger women who are hurting from betrayal. Even still, please use your best judgment.
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Betrayal nearly destroyed us, but we found ways to rebuild the trust and restore our relationship--and we did it without splitting up! Now our marriage is much better than before.
We'll use our 20+ years of researching best practices to give helpful techniques for your own relationship.
***The (S) after the Episode number means it shouldn't trigger women who are hurting from betrayal. Even still, please use your best judgment.
Is it Okay to WANT to see EVIDENCE OF CHANGE (Sad I CAN’T TRUST YOU now) – 5.25S
Coffee with The Couple Cure
14 minutes 40 seconds
9 months ago
Is it Okay to WANT to see EVIDENCE OF CHANGE (Sad I CAN’T TRUST YOU now) – 5.25S
Summary: Rebuilding Trust through Tangible Evidence of Change after Lies
In this episode, we respond to a wife’s question about the importance of seeing tangible evidence in her husband's growth process. We discuss the importance of PROACTIVE steps in behavior change, and share our own personal story after Jay had lied over 1000 times. The episode explores various ways to rebuild trust, like taking notes during counseling sessions and talking about that with the wife. It also includes several Biblical perspectives on the importance of bearing fruit as evidence of genuine repentance and change.
00:00 Intro & Question
00:35 Solution: A quick way to explain it to him*
01:07 How Jay explains it to clients / Solution: Different ways he rebuilt trust*
02:14 Marriage Counselor said, "If you had a crystal ball"
02:46 Evidence of true heart change (Saul to Paul)
03:25 On being like Thomas Edison
04:38 She will tell you... over time / Jay was too smart for his own good
05:34 Take Notes / How not doing so can impact wives
07:39 Solution: What to look for*
09:47 Why Counselors won't share his progress (& one option)
11:48 Bible says it's okay to want evidence (examples)
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https://thecouplecure.com/contact-me/ - Jay and Lori's website
https://pornpainhealed.com/contact-me/ - Lori's site for betrayed partners
https://porniskillingme.com/contact-me/ - Jay's site for porn addiction recovery
Betrayal nearly destroyed us, but we found ways to rebuild the trust and restore our relationship--and we did it without splitting up! Now our marriage is much better than before.
We'll use our 20+ years of researching best practices to give helpful techniques for your own relationship.
***The (S) after the Episode number means it shouldn't trigger women who are hurting from betrayal. Even still, please use your best judgment.
