🎙️ Podcast Show Notes

Episode 008: “Finding Your TRIBE and ALLIES – For Men”

In this powerful episode of Coffee and Conversations for MEN, Jay and Brian dive into a topic that hits close to home for many men—especially as they age: How do we find our tribe? How do we build meaningful, trustworthy connections with other men in a world that often discourages vulnerability and emotional brotherhood?

Through the lens of the Five Pillars—Fitness, Nutrition, Mental Health, Relationships, and Lifelong Learning—this episode offers insight, real stories, and strategies for finding your people and cultivating lasting brotherhood.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing life solo, or if you’re cravingdeeper, more authentic male friendships—this episode is for you.

🎯 Episode Highlights

00:00 – Overview

01:02 – The Why03:17 – What’s in Your Cup? 04:24 – Fitness: Brotherhood Through Movement
Physical activity isn’t just about strength—it’s about solidarity. Men bond shoulder-to-shoulder, and movement creates space for trust and openness. From hiking clubs to pickup basketball, building your tribe might start with lacing up your shoes.

13:33 – Nutrition: Sharing Meals, Sharing Life
Breaking bread is ancient. From potluck dinners to trying new ingredients, food becomes a space for vulnerability, laughter, and community among men.

19:48– Mental Health: Strength Through Shared Struggle
You don’t need to “man up”—you need to “man together.” Discover how shared experiences, gym nights, and community play spaces foster emotional connection, especially for single fathers and isolated men.

29:13– Relationships: Brotherhood Beyond Bloodlines
Jay and Brian share powerful stories of male influence. Legacy lives in how we treat each other, and connection can come from shared values, not just shared DNA.

39:00 – Lifelong Learning: Growth That Gathers Men Together
Whether it’s reading a new book, learning a skill, or simply staying curious, personal growth creates connection. When men learn together, they grow together—and build community that lasts.

☕ What’s in Your Cup?Jay’s Cup. 8bitbeans https://www.8bitbeans.com/(Shell Shocked)

 Brian’s Cup Kicking Horse Coffee (ThreeSisters) https://kickinghorsecoffee.com/collections/coffee

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📚 References & Mentions:

FITNESS:Torres, Z., Tomás, J.M., Sentandreu-Mañó, T., Fernández, I., & Pla-Sanz, N. (2024). Social participation, loneliness, and physical inactivity over time: Evidence from SHARE. International Psychogeriatrics, 36(9), 799–807. https://doi.org/10.1017/S1041610224000504

NUTRITION:Dunbar, R. I. M. (2017). Breaking bread: The functions of social eating. Adaptive Human Behavior and Physiology, 3(3), 198–211. https://doi.org/10.1007/s40750-017-0061-4

MENTAL HEALTH:Kimmel, M. (2010). Guyland: The Perilous World Where Boys Become Men

RELATIONSHIPS:
Putnam, R. D. (2000). Bowling alone: The collapse and revival of American community.Simon & Schuster.

Junger, S. (2016). Tribe: On homecoming and belonging. Twelve.

Ellemers, Naomi & Stam, Daan & de Gilder, Dick. (2013). FeelingIncluded and Valued: How Perceived Respect Affects Positive Team Identity and Willingness to Invest in the Team. British Journal of Management. 24. 10.1111/j.1467-8551.2011.00784.x.

LIFELONG LEARNING:
Ellemers, Naomi & Stam, Daan & de Gilder, Dick. (2013). FeelingIncluded and Valued: How Perceived Respect Affects Positive Team Identity and Willingness to Invest in the Team. British Journal of Management. 24. 10.1111/j.1467-8551.2011.00784.x.

Stay strong. Stay curious. Stay connected.