Send us a text Episode 197 - Raising Confident Kids Without Hovering, with Kepler Knott “How do I help my child grow into a confident adult without controlling their every step?” If you’ve ever asked yourself that question, you’re not alone. Parenting today’s generation is a whole different ball game. With the rise of social media, constant comparison, digital overload, and the fear of letting our kids fail, it’s no wonder so many parents feel stuck between wanting to protect thei...

Send us a text Episode 196 - The Emotionally Immature Things We Say (And Why They Don’t Work) Have you ever walked away from a conversation with your adult child and thought, “Why did I say that?” or “That did not go how I wanted”? In this episode, Tina dives deep into the emotionally immature things we say—often without realizing it—and why those words don’t create the connection we long for. You’ll learn how your nervous system hijacks your responses, how to notice your patterns, and how to...

Send us a text Episode 195 – 3 Shifts to Begin Solving Family Conflict – Even if You’re the Only One Trying Is your relationship with your adult child strained, tense, or completely shut down? You’re not alone—and you’re not powerless. In this episode, I’m giving you the three foundational shifts that begin to heal family conflict, even when the other person isn’t willing to engage. If you’ve been trying to fix the relationship by focusing on them, this episode is your invitation to tu...

Send us a text Episode 194 - Do I Have to Choose Between Peace and Honest in My Family? Have you ever felt stuck between keeping the peace in your family and being honest about how you really feel? In this episode, Tina Gosney, Family Conflict Coach and Family Life Educator, explains why that “peace vs. honesty” tug-of-war is actually a false choice—and how you can show up with both calm and clarity in even the hardest conversations. You’ll learn: Why fixing, pleasing, avoiding, or overreacti...

Send us a text Episode 193: From Victim to Empowered — How to Reclaim Agency and Accountability in Family Relationships In this second part of my conversation with Emily Layton, we explore what happens after awareness and acceptance — the critical next steps of agency, accountability, and action. If you’ve ever felt stuck in a victim mindset or found yourself waiting for others to change before you feel better, this episode will challenge your thinking and inspire powerful change. We talk abo...

Send us a text Episode 192 - From Triggered to Centered: Tools to Rewire Your Reactions and Restore Family Peace Are you constantly walking on eggshells with your adult child? Do you find yourself reacting instead of responding—and then beating yourself up later? You’re not alone. In this episode, I’m joined by growth coach Emily Layton, and we’re diving deep into how to move from survival mode to soulful connection. We explore what it means to operate from your “low brain” vs. yo...

Send us a text Episode 191 - When Conflict or Silence Feels Like Love: What Fighting and Avoidance Say About Your Family Is your family stuck in conflict—either yelling and arguing or avoiding everything in silence? In this episode, family relationship coach Tina Gosney explains how conflict styles shape marriage, parenting, and your relationship with adult children—and how to move from destructive patterns to constructive conflict and emotional safety. In this episode of Coaching Your...

Send us a text Episode 190: Why Taking Care of Yourself Isn't Selfish: How Wise Selfishness Strengthens Family Relationships Is taking care of yourself selfish—or is it the very thing your family needs most? In this episode of Coaching Your Family Relationships, Family Conflict Coach, Tina Gosney, explores the belief so many women were raised with: that self-care is wrong, selfish, or indulgent. Using the story of “Sarah,” a mom running on empty from years of self-sacrifice, Tina unpacks how ...

Send us a text Episode 189: Why Strategies Aren’t Enough to Heal Family Disconnection (And What Actually Works) Have you tried everything to fix your family—but nothing seems to work? You’ve read the books. You’ve followed the scripts. You’ve apologized, stayed calm, set boundaries… And you’re still walking on eggshells. In this episode, Tina Gosney, Family Relationship Coach and expert in Bowen Family Systems Theory, explains why strategies and tools—while helpful—are not e...

Send us a text Episode 188 - Creating Connection in Families Facing Suicide and Addiction September is Suicide Awareness Month, and in this powerful episode, I’m joined by women I serve with on the board of Connection is the Cure, a nonprofit based in Boise, Idaho. Together, we share real, personal stories of what it’s like to love someone who is struggling—with addiction, with depression, and with thoughts of suicide. This episode isn’t just about raising awareness—it’s about equipping you w...

Send us a text Stress: What Happens to Your Brain and Body (And How to Stay Grounded) Have you ever felt hijacked by your emotions in the middle of a family conflict—and later wondered, “Why did I react that way?” In this episode, Tina Gosney breaks down the powerful brain and body science behind your stress response. You’ll learn what happens when your nervous system senses danger, why it’s so hard to stay calm in high-conflict situations, and how to ground yourself when you feel emoti...

Send us a text Episode 186 - How to Rebuild Emotional Connection in Marriage with EFT Attachment Questions Have you ever felt like you and your spouse are speaking different languages? Like no matter how hard you try, the two of you just keep missing each other? You’re not alone. Many couples struggle with emotional disconnection—not because they don’t love each other, but because they don’t know how to answer the real questions underneath the conflict. In this epi...

Send us a text Episode 186 – How to Set Boundaries without Damaging the Relationship Most people think boundaries are about drawing a line in the sand to keep someone out. But when boundaries are used the wrong way, they can actually harm the very relationship you’re trying to protect—especially with your adult children. In this popular episode, I’ll show you how to set boundaries that strengthen connection instead of shutting it down. Whether you’re navigating emotional distance from an adul...

Send us a text How secure is your emotional connection with your partner? In this episode of the Coaching Your Family Relationships Podcast, with guest Thomas Westenholz, we explore how attachment styles impact the way we relate to our partners—and how those patterns ripple into the rest of our family system. You’ll learn: What attachment theory reveals about the ways we connect, argue, withdraw, or pursue in our closest relationshipsHow to recognize your own attachment style—and why that awa...

Send us a text Episode 183 - When It Comes Out of Nowhere: The Emotional Gut Punch What do you do when a family conflict hits you out of nowhere and leaves you reeling? In this episode, Tina Gosney shares how to navigate the emotional “gut punch” of sudden family hurt. You'll learn why these moments are so disorienting, how our reactions can intensify suffering, and how to begin responding with clarity, courage, and self-compassion. Tina explains the Buddhist teaching of the Two Arrows and th...

Send us a text Episode 182 - When Family Hurts: Why Pulling Back Isn't Selfish - It's Part of Healing Episode Summary: Have you ever stepped back from a family relationship because it just hurt too much to stay close? Maybe a child rejected your values, your faith, or even blamed you for their pain—and you’re left feeling broken, confused, and ashamed for needing space. This episode is your reminder: You are not broken. You are not selfish. And you are allowed to take care of yoursel...

Send us a text Episode 181 - When Love Becomes Control: How Enmeshment Keeps Mothers Stuck Have you ever felt like your child’s success—or failure—reflects your worth as a mother? If you’ve found yourself trying to fix their problems, steer their life, or hold it all together for them, this episode is for you. In this powerful and vulnerable conversation, I share how many women—especially mothers—unknowingly lose themselves in their relationships. What looks like love and concern is often fea...

Send us a text Episode 180: How Your Nervous System Shapes Reactions, Relationships, and Resilience with Leah Davidson Have you ever wondered why pausing before reacting feels impossible for you? Why do your automatic responses keep hijacking your intentions, especially with the people you love most? In this powerful conversation, Tina is joined by Leah Davidson, a Nervous System Resilience Coach, life coach, and Speech Language Pathologist with over 26 years working in traumatic brain injury...

Send us a text Episode 179 - Break the Cycle and Lead Your Family with Calm, Loving Energy and Personal Integrity You don’t have to repeat the patterns you were raised with. Whether you're parenting toddlers, teens, or adult children, this powerful season opener will help you step into a new kind of leadership in your family—one rooted in calm, love, and integrity. Tina Gosney shares why unprocessed emotions get acted out in parenting, how every family member is living their own version of th...

Send us a text You're Not Broken - You're Becoming (Season 5 Trailer) Welcome to a brand-new season of Coaching Your Family Relationships! In this kickoff episode, Tina shares a vulnerable personal story about spiraling after a difficult conversation with a loved one—and what it taught her about emotional resilience, identity, and the power of curiosity. You’ll learn what to expect this season, including expert guests and real conversations that go deeper than relationship “tips” and tackle t...