If you’ve ever felt like you had to apologize for needing more rest, canceling plans, or just doing what’s best for you—this episode is for you.
As a lupus warrior, I’ve had to unlearn a whole lot of guilt. I used to feel bad for needing rest, for dreaming big, and even for protecting my peace. But I’ve reached a point in my journey where I just can’t keep shrinking myself to make others comfortable.
In today’s episode of Chronically Planned, I’m sharing the real-life things I stopped apologizing for—not because I have it all together, but because I finally realized I don’t have to explain my survival.
Whether you’re newly diagnosed or deep in your healing journey, this episode is a reminder that:
You’re allowed to need rest.
You’re allowed to protect your peace.
You’re allowed to want more—even with chronic illness.
What I’m talking about today:
✨ Why rest is a life-giving rhythm, not laziness
✨ Saying “no” and meaning it—without guilt or explaining
✨ Letting go of the shame around flare days and changing plans
✨ Embracing joy as a part of healing, not something extra
✨ The moment I stopped shrinking my goals because of lupus
✨ Giving yourself permission to show up imperfect, unapologetic, and still worthy
Timestamps:
00:00 — Embracing Self-Care as a Lupus Warrior
06:41 — Prioritizing Joy and Dreaming Bigger
Takeaways:
I stopped apologizing for needing rest.
I no longer over-explain my boundaries.
Choosing peace is a non-negotiable.
Joy is not a distraction—it’s medicine.
I’m done shrinking my vision to fit other people’s comfort.
You can live with lupus and still build a life you love.
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