We grew up hearing we should pray for our husbands. There are entire books and journals around it. But what has it actually looked like?
This week, we're unpacking what it's looked like for us to...
If you’ve ever wondered: “Is it okay to want marriage this much?” or “What do I pray while I wait?” - this one's for you!
As Christians, we can get really fixated on finding someone with the same “calling.”
But how much does that actually matter?
In this episode, we talk about the balance between making your calling too big of a deal and not making it a deal at all. If someone’s dream is to live overseas and yours isn’t, that’s probably a no-go. But we’ve also seen people (and been people) who take this idea to an extreme that it doesn’t need to go.
We dig into how our Christian culture talks about calling, how that’s shaped the way we date, and how much pressure is too much pressure in this area.
What happens when you're "just friends" with someone and...
Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea sit down to answer this topic idea thrown out to us by one of you 🎉 :
"Healthy friendship boundaries between single guys and single girls."
How do you take care of your own heart and the other person's heart inside of a friendship that has the potential to be more than a friendship?
Does anxiety in a relationship mean it's not from God?
This week, we sit down with our friends and dating experts, Joy and Mathieu Rossignol.
After experiencing their own anxiety throughout ten months of dating, they were finally able to work through it and get married and engaged IN TWO WEEKS.
Joy is a marriage and family therapist, and together, she and Mathieu have coached hundreds of people experiencing dating anxiety.
If you’ve ever found yourself constantly questioning a relationship or wondering if it’s God’s will, this one’s for you!
Follow Joy on Instagram: @joyrossignol
Check out Joy and Mathieu's Podcast: When You Don't Know
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What happens when you’ve convinced yourself you’re content being single… then realize maybe you’re not?
In this episode, our friend Kate (37) opens up about her story of coming to the Lord, spending 10 years on the mission field, and getting really honest with herself about her desire to be married.
We talk through...
In a 2024 survey, 50% of people said they're single and not looking for a relationship.
Meanwhile, in the church, marriage and family are talked about all the time. Marriage even feels elevated as the godliest relationship status sometimes.
As three people who are not married and have been single in the church for most of our lives, we wanted to weigh in on the question:
Is the church doing enough to serve single people? Or is it failing this growing population of people?
Tune in to find out.
Andrea is finally bringing the question to the table that all of us singles are asking: "How do you actually get a boyfriend?" (Or girlfriend, for you guys out there.)
Kalli and Lauren open up about how they met their boyfriends, we trade tips on dating with intention, and we talk honestly about the balance between putting yourself out there and still living your life to the fullest.
What if your best stories don’t have to wait until you’re married?
In this episode, Andrea and Lauren sit down (without Kalli 😫) and talk through:
Camp crushes hit different.
In this episode, we're spilling all the details on:
We sit down for our 50TH episode and chat through:
Dating has a way of shining a spotlight on our insecurities. And while compliments feel good in the moment, they can be fleeting if we haven't rooted our worth in something steady.
In this episode, we’re talking about the insecurities that creep into every stage of dating, why they can feel so overwhelming, and how to keep them from running the show. You’ll walk away with practical encouragement for naming your insecurities, handling them with honesty, and leaning into the only source of security that never runs out.
It's easy to feel like marriage is the goal, especially in the church. In reality, marriage is just one way Jesus helps us reach the ultimate goal, which is looking more like Him.
In this episode, we sat down with Namaan and Delcie Mian to unpack their 4-year journey from friends to dating to marriage.
We talked through:
- Holding God’s guidance about dating with open hands
- Making a choice when there isn’t a clear “yes” from heaven
- Navigating dating anxiety
- Why marriage isn’t the finish line
How far is too far? What counts as crossing a line? Where should we draw physical boundaries in dating?
If you’ve ever asked those questions (or heard them a thousand times in youth group), you’re not alone. But maybe there’s a better question:
What’s your goal and how are you going to get there?
In this episode, we’re talking about how physical boundaries aren’t about following a bunch of rules or dating with fear, but they’re about building trust and laying a solid foundation for a strong, connected marriage.
We’re bringing Abram Goff on the podcast to share some practical wisdom on what it actually looks like to pursue physical integrity in a relationship and why it goes way beyond just “not having sex before marriage.”
We talk about:
- Long distance dating
- Why “how far is too far?” might be the wrong question
- How building trust starts way before the wedding day
Grab your copy of Abram’s book How Far Is Too Far?: physicalboundaries.com
In this episode, we’re talking about popular dating advice we've all seen floating around out there.
We share our honest, unfiltered thoughts on:
- Will you really find love when you stop looking for it?
- Should you play "hard to get"?
- Do opposites attract?
- Should it be you and your bf/gf against the world?
Let us know which takes you agree (or disagree) with!
Let’s talk about The List. This is the mental (or literal) checklist of things we want in the person we marry. In this episode, we’re unpacking our old lists and asking questions like:
- What are the most unrealistic or ridiculous things we’ve had on our lists?
- What happens when someone checks every box… but still isn’t the one?
- What does our list say about what we value or fear?
- Now that we’re dating in our 30s, what would we tell young people about making a list?
Whether you have 3 non-negotiables or a full-on spreadsheet, this one’s for you.
For centuries, philosophers and theologians have been wrestling with the question: “If there’s a good God, why do people suffer?” Or the classic: “Why do bad things happen to good people?”
We’re not here to tie this episode up with a pretty bow. We’re sitting in the tension of believing in a good God and experiencing grief.
We talk about what it’s like to walk through grief, how to be there for people who are hurting (without saying all the wrong things), and why comfort doesn’t always come in answers.
Whether you’re in a hard season or walking alongside someone who is, we hope this conversation makes you feel a little less alone.
A lot of us have a picture in our heads of what a relationship should look like.
In this episode, Kalli, Andrea, and Lauren talk about the difference between healthy standards and unrealistic expectations, and how to know if your “ideal” is actually keeping you from seeing the good thing (or good person) right in front of you.
If you’ve ever said, “It just didn’t feel right,” or “I’ll know it when I see it,” this one’s for you.
What does it mean for us to wait on God? What happens when we’ve been waiting a long time for our dreams for marriage and a family?
In this episode, Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea share openly and honestly about seasons of waiting on God for dreams - whether that be a relationship, finances, or other desires of their heart.
They share how they’ve handled “waiting fatigue” when you feel like you’ve been waiting a really long time and your hope is deferred.
May this episode bring you hope in the midst of whatever you’re waiting for today.
What makes a good marriage?
In this episode, Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea talk about 9 real-life (not celebrity) power couples that have given them vision for what they want in a marriage.
They cover things like:
Why marriage isn't the end goal
Inviting kids into the fullness of your life
Being intentional about growth
The difference between “what can I get from this?” to “what can I give?”
Whether you're single, dating, or married, may this episode leave you with some practical takeaways and long-term vision.
The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman has sold 20 million copies around the world.
Millions of people have taken the Enneagram personality test (although Christians have been questioning its origins in the last couple of years).
In what could be their most controversial episode yet, the Christians Who Date weigh in on these two personality frameworks.
Are they helpful in dating? Do they oversimplify things? Have we used them so much now that they're a cliché? Listen to find out!
To dig into these resources yourself: