Need advice on how to break up a Christian dating relationship? A famous 50s break-up song gives us this little bit of dating advice on how to break up: “Breaking up is hard to do.” No, ya think?
Whether you are a Christian single couple in a courtship or an online dating relationship, how you break up a relationship will be emotionally painful for both of you. If you are contemplating a break up of your dating relationship, considering the following dating advice may help you avoid a wrong decision while making it as easy and painless as possible.
6  Christian dating Advice Tips on How to BreakUp and Ending a Relationship
Ask the Lord for wisdom ( see James 1:5)
As a single Christian, praying for guidance and wisdom in the matter of a breakup should be the very first course of action before making any dating decisions. You will be less likely to make a mistake if you do so.
Discuss the dating break-up possibility with family and friends
God often leads through our parents’ dating advice, even if they are not Christians. Proverbs teach that there is wisdom in using a multiplicity of counselors, so also discuss the possibility of a breakup with trusted Christian friends. They may very well give you some much-needed advice that helps you make a decision or puts the relationship in a completely different light. Be sure to use these valuable resources.
Be honest, but speak the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15)
Never bash your dating partner personally, which will only hurt them even more and affect their self-worth for quite some time. Do you really want to do that? Instead, tenderly explain why you feel God’s leading you to end the relationship. As you do this, remember the “Golden Rule”, and how it would feel if someone was breaking up with you.
While face-to-face conversation allows for far better closure, if that is not possible, a handwritten letter is the next best thing. A typed or emailed “Dear John” letter is seen as cold and mean.
Don’t delay the inevitable
Okay, you’ve prayed over the breakup. You’ve discussed the issues with family, minister, and friends. You know what you need to do. Delaying the obvious now will not only cause more pain for both of you but will delay the healing process. By acting now, you give the Lord opportunity to begin leading both of you to the soulmates He has in mind.
Many delay breakups because they may be using the other person until “something better” comes along. Another reason for delayed breakups is that the other person is manipulating by putting the person who wants the break up on a “guilt trip” to remain in an unhealthy dating situation.
Make a clean break
Right, this is going to be hard, but you must be strong here because it is in the best interests of both to move forward. This means after the break up there should be no face-to-face meetings (if possible), no emails, telephone calls, letters, etc. While some couples may agree to remain friends, the data suggests that in over 90% of breakups, this fails miserably and only lengthens the healing process.
Learn from the dating experience
Use this dating experience to learn from your mistakes, and build on the future. What has the Lord taught you about yourself? What has he taught you about what you need in a husband or a wife? If you’ve sexually sinned in this relationship, remember Jesus forgives and cleanses (1 John 1:9). Finally, thank Him for the bright plans He has for you (Jer. 29:11).
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