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042: Blending StepFamilies with Heart and Wisdom: Dr. Ann Ordway
Children First Family Law - Transforming how families navigate the challenging landscape of divorce.
1 hour 3 minutes 15 seconds
3 months ago
042: Blending StepFamilies with Heart and Wisdom: Dr. Ann Ordway
In today’s episode of the Children First Family Law podcast, Krista Nash welcomes Dr. Ann Ordway, a family law attorney, parenting coordinator, and stepfamily coach. Together, they unpack what it takes to build a healthy blended family, one grounded in patience, emotional awareness, and long-term thinking.
Dr. Ordway shares what works and what fails when families blend too quickly. She draws on her professional expertise and personal experience of raising seven children in a blended family. They explore how children react to transitions, how co-parents can support one another across households, and how step-parents can earn trust instead of expecting it.
This episode gives parents and professionals a roadmap for blending families that prioritizes emotional safety and sets children up to thrive.
In this episode, you will hear:
Begin stepfamily transitions by acknowledging loss and grief
Give each child space to adjust at their own pace
Slow down recoupling to avoid emotional whiplash
Approach introductions gradually, with clear communication
Build step-parent relationships through trust, not authority
Spend one-on-one time to strengthen individual bonds
Coordinate with co-parents to reduce confusion and fear
Keep children in familiar spaces when possible
Treat stepchildren and biological children equitably
Model respectful relationships between all households
Resources from this Episode
www.afccnet.org/About/Staff/ann
www.stepfamily.org
www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com
All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation.
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Children First Family Law - Transforming how families navigate the challenging landscape of divorce.