Raising children in dysfunctional families is difficult because you know they are being impacted by the chaos. You can't make everything okay for them, but you can help them. One of the things you can do is to teach your children to detach from the dysfunction. Detaching with love is a coping skill to help them avoid taking things personally. If you use it, you know how powerful it is. Watch this video to learn how to teach your children to detach in dysfunctional families. #detachwithlove #dysfunctionalfamilies #parentingadvice   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationshipYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/WNKQ2zrQzwk

In toxic relationships, when people show you who they are, you need to believe them. But, we often don't. We give them the benefit of the doubt again and again. We believe their lies by gaslighting ourselves. And, we doubt that they could really be that bad. This gets us in all kinds of stressful dysfunctional relationship dynamics because they haven't changed, are who they are, and don't care how we are affected.  We do this because of the invalidation we are accustomed to in toxic relationships. It is for these reasons that we have to trust ourselves.  Watch this video to find out how you can get to the place that when people show you who they are, you believe them. When you do, they will prove you are right, instead of wrong.  #toxicrelationship #invalidation #gaslight #dysfunctionalrelationship   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationshipYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/5BFVBimFgk8

Heather was married to a sexually addicted gay man for twenty-four years before she divorced him. Listen to her story to discover how denial, gaslighting, rationalizing, and magical thinking can lead us to believe a lie when we could see the truth.  Sexual addiction destroys intimacy and trust. It is even more challenging to come to terms with the fact that your husband is attracted to men, and yet the signs are often obvious.  Heather Bennett Nuṅoz is a licensed marriage and family therapist. Heather shares her personal and professional insight and experience for women married to sexually addicted and/or gay men. She talks candidly about what the primary indicator of success with rehabilitation is and what women should prioritize after discovering a sexual addiction.  If you or someone you know is in a relationship with a sex addict, please watch, listen, and share. You are not alone, and knowledge gives you power. #sexaddictiondiscovery  #sexaddictionrecovery  #denial   #gaslighting     Recommended Resources:   "Straight Wives, Shattered Lives: Stories of Women With Gay Husbands," Bonnie Kaye. https://amzn.to/4naUKqU   Straight Wives, Shattered Lives Volume 3: True Stories of Women Married to Gay and Bisexual Men," Bonnie Kaye. https://amzn.to/42MefPl   APSATS-trained therapists who work with sexual addicts and their spouses: https://apsats.org/   Be Broken Ministry who work with sexually addicted men and provide a support group for recovery: https://www.bebroken.org/   Be Broken Ministry groups and resources for the wives of sex addicts: https://www.bebroken.org/wives   Karla's Resources:   Women Thriving in Difficult Marriages Zoom Class  https://www.changemyrelationship.com/women-thriving-in-difficult-marriages-zoom-study/   Truth in the Mirror https://www.changemyrelationship.com/truth-in-the-mirror-class/   10 Lifesaving Principles for Women in Difficult Marriages, by Karla Downing   https://amzn.to/3JjEw0I   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationshipYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/Bg_RFA1OPvY

Reciprocal relationships are healthy relationships that are balanced. Unhealthy relationships are not reciprocal and not balanced. All of our relationships should be reciprocal regardless of which one it is. Some people have all unhealthy relationships and some have only one or two unhealthy relationships. Learn what you need to do to make all your relationships reciprocal.     Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationshipYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/hYIMnjKFav8

Not all friends last forever. Some are for a reason and a season. When a friendship is no longer working, it may require setting boundaries. When is it time to end a friendship? Watch this video to find out how to recognize the signs and how to do it.#friends #friendship #settingboundaries #christianboundaries    Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationshipYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/DOT09X02BJw  

Are you willing to lose your relationship to win it back the way it should be? When you know you cannot continue the way things are, you have to decide if you are willing to lose that relationship. When you let the old one go, you may get a new one in its place. #dysfunctionalrelationship #toxicrelationship #selfcare     Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationshipYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/D_13DEw2XLI

Setting boundaries involves deciding what and where you give your time, energy, emotions, and resources to. There are conflicting priorities, pressures, and people to consider. We often forget to include our own needs, especially when we are dealing with dysfunctional relationship dynamics. One of the helpful things to remember when setting boundaries is that when you say yes to anything or anyone, you say no to yourself. This powerful reminder can help you remember to take care of yourself, especially when you struggle with Christian boundaries, thinking you have to put yourself last. #dysfunctionalrelationship #boundaries #selfcare   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationshipYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/ABs37QbD71o

You pick up the pieces. You cover up the lies. You pay the bills. You bail them out. You make excuses. It feels like you are doing what you have to do, but what you are doing is giving them the ability to continue making bad choices. Instead, stop enabling: Let them fail. It isn't easy. It's a big change and a new behavior, but it is necessary. You have to let them fail if you want them to learn. Otherwise, you will have to keep picking up the pieces forever. You can watch this video to learn how to stop enabling. #enabling #consequencesofsin #consequencesofactions #christianboundaries #failure   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationshipYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/g8p3P1tOohM

This is a much needed follow up to my video on father wounds offering you the steps you need to take to heal them. The original video gave you the effects of father wounds in a girl's life but this one explains how both men and women can heal their father wounds. #fatherwounds #healingtrauma     Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationshipYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/ZgiMlLsAn8o  

As a Christian in a dysfunctional relationship, you are dealing with problems that need God's help. You have faith that things will get better but oftentimes that faith is nothing more than magical thinking that leads you to make poor decisions. Watch this video to find out the difference of faith vs. magical thinking. #FaithBasedThinking #MagicalThinking #BetterDecisionMaking #Faith      Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationshipYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/e6DoO2AI4nk  

Barbara Grant joins Karla to share her personal experience in a neurodiverse marriage. They discuss typical struggles couples have that lead to disconnection and stress. Barbara shares practical skills she teaches couples and individuals that help improve their interactions.     Barbara Grant is a dedicated neurodiverse couples coach with personal and professional expertise in navigating the unique dynamics of neurodiverse relationships. She holds a Master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy and is a Certified Autism Specialist and Neurodiverse Couples Coach. Barbara’s coaching is grounded in her innovative Roadmap to Hope & Healing© -- a research-based, results-driven approach inspired by her own experiences within neurodiverse marriage and family life. Passionate about helping individuals and couples heal, grow, and determine the sustainability of their relationships, Barbara brings empathy and insight to her work. She has been featured on popular podcasts such as Neurodiverse Love, Your Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, and The Neurodiverse Christian Couples Podcast. Additionally, she is the editor and a contributing author of "Uniquely Us: Gracefully Navigating the Maze of Neurodiverse Marriage, Autism, and Faith." Barbara currently cohosts The Neurodiverse Couples “Coaches’ Corner” Podcast.   Barbara Grant's Website and contact: https://bg-hc.com/   Purchase Uniquely Us: Gracefully Navigating the Maze of Neurodiverse Marriage, Autism, and Faith by Rev. Dr. Stephanie C. Holmes, Rev. Dan Holmes, et al. on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3IAWzPF Is there Cross-Over of Porn Use/Sex Addiction in Autistic Men with Dr. Janice Caudill https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/is-there-cross-over-of-porn-use-sex-addiction-in/id1579715646?i=1000720576734 Porn & Sex Addiction, Sexuality & Autism with Candice Christiansen https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/porn-sex-addiction-sexuality-autism-with-candice/id1579715646?i=1000721491068 What Even is Healthy Christian Masculinity & Sexuality? with Dr. Andrew Bauman https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/what-even-is-healthy-christian-masculinity-sexuality/id1579715646?i=1000722489643 Want TOTAL Intimacy in Your NeuroDiverse Christian Marriage? https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/want-total-intimacy-in-your-neurodiverse-christian/id1579715646?i=1000723423035   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationshipYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/Ub_Ij6_4poo

In Step One of the Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous, alcoholics admit that they are powerless over alcohol.  Some people misunderstand this to mean that they have no accountability for their drinking or anything else destructive and don't have to take any responsibility.  This isn't what is meant by powerlessness. Watch this video to learn about what powerlessness is and is not. It could help you with your own recovery or help you to have reasonable expectations for the alcoholic or addict in your life.  #ChristianRecovery #TwelveSteps  #StepOne #AlcoholicsAnonymous  #Powerlessness   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationshipYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/tCwnuAgEwcg

Spiritualizing hurts hurting people by not responding to the real needs of the person by minimizing their pain and the situation. Watch this video to understand what spiritualizing is and why it hurts. #spiritualizing #hurtingpeople #respondingtoneeds     Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationshipYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/ZgiMlLsAn8o  

Abusive relationships contain many types of harmful treatment. Some overt and some covert. Some obvious and some hidden. Some are easy to identify, and some are not so easy to identify.  We know emotional abuse is harmful, but is emotional neglect abuse? This matters when you are listening to an abuse victim, when you are in a toxic relationship, when you are assessing your behavior, and when you are evaluating the impact of dysfunction on your children. Watch this video to find out when emotional neglect is abuse.   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationshipYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/-JwAztXG0VI

Virginia shares the hearts of those who love their wounded children and the prayers that arise from their painful struggles in this podcast. She answers the hard questions: What about the person who has prayed and prayed and hasn't gotten an answer? What are you praying for when you ask God to heal? Is it instant healing or something else? Can you contend with God? Can you share your emotions with Him? Parents with wounded children have struggled with these questions and more, and they will find comfort with this honest and practical discussion.   Virginia Wells is the author of "Praying for a Wounded Child: Encouragement and Prayers for You and the Child You Love." She combined her faith as a hospital chaplain, her education and experience as a mental health counselor working with traumatized children, and her personal heart cries as an adoptive mother to wounded children from war-torn countries or minority backgrounds.    Her devotional is both practical and deeply spiritual. It serves as both a soul cry and a battle plan, written for the parent whose heart breaks daily--who feels unseen, unprepared, or out of strength, yet still refuses to give up. Wells speaks directly to those walking a difficult parenting path, offering the encouragement and tools they need to keep going when hope feels distant. She equips parents with spiritual and emotional tools to help them stand in the gap for their children, while also tending to their own healing and hope.   You can find her book on Amazon: Praying for a Wounded Child: Encouragement and Prayers for You and the Child You Love  https://amzn.to/3HMKqa9   Website: virginiawellsauthor.com Facebook: Virginia Wells, Author Email: wellsvirginia1972@gmail.com   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationshipYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/WKMaijqfnMY  

Toxic relationships have complicated dynamics that are hard to figure out. It isn't unusual to be confused about the specific problems you are dealing with. Emotions are intense. Conflict isn't resolved. People don't listen and seek to understand when you voice your concerns and needs.  Reactivity is high in toxic relationships. It is easy to do things you regret. One of the best things you can do is to practice stopping yourself before you react. One of the easiest ways to do that in toxic relationships is to play the movie forward. Watch this video to find out how and why to do this.  You'll be glad you did.   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationshipYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/_wAhEAp2nGA

Abusive relationships shouldn't be hard to leave, but they are. If you've been in one, you know that it is because you are emotionally and relationally entangled. You struggle with knowing what is true and question yourself because you believe the abuser's accusations that blame you for the problems.   Understanding what a trauma bond is and why it keeps you stuck will help you identify why you are struggling. It will also pinpoint what you need to do to get healthier and stronger to break the attachment that some have referred to as an addiction. Watch this video to answer the question: What is a trauma bond in your abusive relationship?   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationshipYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/4WtCGDc1RPU  

When setting boundaries, how do you go from chaos to clarity? If you've been in a relationship with dysfunctional dynamics, you know what it is to be confused, frustrated, overwhelmed, and uncertain. You know how you question yourself and wonder if your thoughts, feelings, actions, and perceptions are accurate.  Is it possible to go from there to a place where you are clear on what is happening and what you need to do? Is it possible to know your boundaries and have the courage to follow through?  The answer is "Yes." Watch this video on "Setting Boundaries: From Chaos to Clarity" to learn how.   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationshipYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/yxtOJJg-unA  

Detaching from accusations means knowing how to not take false accusations to heart and instead letting them go. Detaching allows you to keep your reactions under control and instead choosing how to respond. Learn how to do that by watching this video. #Detachment #KeepingControl #EmotionalControl #Acusations   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationshipYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/y0I6udOCDXo

Do you know what not to say to depressed or anxious people? You should if you have any contact with them in your life. There are many things people say, including Christian pat answers, that cause hurt. Find out what they are. #healthyrelationship #support #positiverelationships   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationshipYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/6zExlxmreck