Have you ever been on a date, with your partner, or a friend, and they say something that doesn’t quite match their actions? And it bothers you? Like, really bothers you? 

Well, I was talking to a client of mine one day who is single and dating, and she was sharing how this happens to her a lot. For example, a guy will say he’s 6’1”, and IRL he’s 5’9”. That immediately makes her emotionally guarded, and has her even withdraw from getting to know someone. Rightfully so, but this consistently happens for her, where she feels the men she dates have this tendency.

She will keep dating them, to give them the benefit of the doubt, but she stays withdrawn. This only prolongs her feeling clear about what she feels about them. So, we dug deeper into her childhood to discover why that is and why she is withdrawing, versus asking the person why there’s this discrepancy to get more clarity for herself. 

We discovered something that blew me away because in coaching her I also connected something for myself with the way I am with my husband—how I focus on the ways he might say one thing and do something different and why I start grilling him instead of withdrawing like my client. You’ll want to listen because this episode is definitely enlightening!

Listen now.